DAUGHTER!!! dont marry this kind of man!
By smnor007
@smnor007 (60)
Malaysia
November 5, 2009 7:50am CST
as a parent we want best for our children.My kids are still small but me and my husband already prepare for their future. We already talk what weplan for them. We never intend to control what my children s want in the near future, we just want to give them guidance and a vision. I know my daughter will leave me soon. She already almost grown up and day by day i know someday somebody will take her away from me. As a mother i want best for my daughter. i want her to be happy on her life. I will support her in everything she decide as long as it will not brake the rules. My rules is all bad habits and attitude of man. But i got 1 special rule...Pls daughter dont marry this kind of man...
smoker - Instead of he will buy food for u and your kids, He will buy cigarette first.
How about u are u willing to marry a smoker? are u going to allow your family to marry a smoker? thanks for your opinion
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7 responses
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
Well, I do not like my husband or family to smoke, as I think it's not good for our health and also it'll pollute our environment, it will affect others' health too, it's really an "everybody lose" habit. But if my daughter is going to marry a smoker, I won't say NO. As I have some friends who smoke too, they are quite caring and they take care of the wives or girlfriends very well too.
There's one kind of man that I'll really disagree -- gambler. I always feel unsecured about gamblers, I just feel that when they are gambling, they can only see "gamble" and "money", nothing else. They will start losing their mind, especially when they are losing money, then they will go insane, or start "digging" money from all the places. I find this kind of people really scary, and hence I won't agree my daughter marry to a gambler.
@smnor007 (60)
• Malaysia
5 Nov 09
thanks KAKA..anyway maybe i just got a phobea with smoker thats why i got a feeling like this. I know also that its depend to person. But as a mother i already educate my daughter the effect of smoking I always pray that She will get tha man that will take care her when the times comes that WE her parents not here any more to look after Her.Gambling is totally out in my list because its against in our religion.
@xiaoqing (44)
• China
6 Nov 09
Hi smnor, you are a good parent. And I am glad that I am not a smoker, but I don't hate smoker very much. I think there are thousands of smokers around us, even some of our relatives and friends included, and most of them are kind persons. All of a sudden, I get a funny idea. Will smokers disppear from earth if all the parents won't allow their children to marry smokers? And then we will live a better life. LOL.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
6 Nov 09
One of my daughters-in-law told me about the first time she went out to dinner with my son. They were sitting waiting for the meal when a beautiful woman entered with a man. My d-i-l remarked on how beautiful she was and the only response was "She smokes". As the couple walked passed them to their table, d-i-l again remarked that she was strikingly beautiful, but also really elegant, and again received the response "She smokes!" My d-i-l got the message loud and clear that regardless of anything else, smoking was OUT. (she wasn't a smoker anyway)
Smoking isn't the worst thing, but it is certainly a consideration. I would be more concerned about his integrity and character and faithfulness and other such qualities, but smoking would put me off.
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
6 Nov 09
I do not like having people smoke around me but I would not tell my daughter she should not marry someone who smoke. I would be very worried if she married some who had a temper and was abusing
her more than a person who smoke but was very loving and caring to her. Yes, smoking is bad for your health but I would hope that she would not start smoking just because her husband was a smoker. I would hope that what I have taught her while she was growing up would make her make the right choice later in her life.
her more than a person who smoke but was very loving and caring to her. Yes, smoking is bad for your health but I would hope that she would not start smoking just because her husband was a smoker. I would hope that what I have taught her while she was growing up would make her make the right choice later in her life. @workingmommy (67)
• Canada
6 Nov 09
You should not look at it as someone taking her but gaining a new son( or so I'm told by moms whose daughters have grown and gotten married) All you can do is guide her and watch she doesn't get involved with an abusive man.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Well personally, I hate smokers too... But sadly, we cannot decide for our kids. It is them who will choose their husbands and wives. All that a mother can do is constant reminders and guidance... I know your daughter would have a good decision in the end-- you raise her well so she knows what is going to be good and bad on her.
