tiring
By proxima14
@proxima14 (196)
Philippines
November 5, 2009 12:09pm CST
I have a friend who always seems to have a problem with her boyfriend. But everytime I ask her about it, she keeps saying that it's all her fault. I really don't want to probe as this usually makes her cry some more but I won't be able to give her any advice unless I know what really happened. One main problem is that she's working abroad and we usually just talk through instant messaging. I'm not there to really see what's going on. I came to a point where I became tired of listening to her and though I try to help her, she keeps doing whatever it is she's doing. As much as I want to just ignore her, I don't want her to feel that I've abandoned her.
Any help please?
4 responses
@kiuhkj (117)
• China
6 Nov 09
Each of the couples have their different ways to get along, which is in addition to their other people can not understand. Your friends with her boyfriend after so many problems are still together, naturally have their own reasons. You will help her is that when she was free to your question, you quietly listen to her, doing her best audience.
@proxima14 (196)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Thank you but sometimes it is tiring to keep listening to her when its obvious that she is not doing anything about it. *sigh*
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
6 Nov 09
In situations like this, just try to be a good friend and let her know that you care. Obviously your friend is in distress, so just try to make her feel better. Try to make her listen to you and take your advice, but if she doesn't, there's nothing much you can do. I guess this may just be a problem that she needs to fix on her own. I've been through situations where my friends don't listen to me as much as I want them to. All I could do was support them and hope for the best. Good luck =).
@proxima14 (196)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
Thank you. I'm still hoping she'd listen. I don't want her to think I've abandoned her or something like that but you are right, there are things that she needs to fix on her own. She just doesn't seem to know where to start even after I talked to her about it.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
i actually had a friend who's exactly the same as your friend. she was a "battered girlfriend" but she preferred hiding to us until she realizes that she can't take it anymore. when she opened up the abuses that her boyfriend did to her, we thought that she'll stop seeing with the guy after their break-up but she's still chasing the guy. it happens for a couple of times already and i told her that i've had enough. she chooses to be with her boyfriend until now and i no longer give my full effort of communicating with her. i'm just waiting for the right that time that she realizes that she made a stupid mistake of pursuing any romantic relationship with that type of guy.
@wunderful (55)
•
5 Nov 09
When my friend was having issues I sent her a couple of useful web addresses, with content he could read. It it is concerning that she says its all her fault. Invariably this is not the case! Also on instant messaging are you phoning or texting... could the boyfriend be about when shes in contact with you? My nieces husband beat her and I had to get a code to know if she could talk, it is something a quick call could establish. Just reassure her you are there if she needs help and don't press the issue. Talk about stuff that is not related. Best of luck its a hard situation
@proxima14 (196)
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
It's actually through yahoo messenger and most of the time we talk when she's at work
