Unwanted Visitor

If she had to come into my home - if I couldn't think of a way to avoid her then I would have my meds under lock and key. This is an awful problem to have and I d not have a clear answer as to what to do. It looks to me like she is being friendly as she hopes to steal your meds. But as yet, you do not have any proof of this. This is a horrible situation. I am going to think about this as I do not have any answers.

pretend I wasn't home?

I would feel uncomfortable around someone like that as well, I would definitely be kicking them out the door. If they were rehabilitated that would be a different story, but at the same time I would still be reluctant to deal with them. I never want to do anything that would mean jail time, there's a lot to consider, not only the fact you may not find a job, but also the fact that once you get out you may still not be trustworthy.

what should be done is you are now a guidance and cousellor to her, do your best to mingle with her so that you draw her attention to the extent that you guide her slowly and with caution to try to stop the act. if possible invite the neighbours to help you in trying to rehabilitate her. wish you the best but don't hate her she may be worse.

I think you are exactly right, a word to the local police and her family may be good too. Its wrong to target vunerable people. But I guess she is desperate. Do they not come out clean? Bad choices I guess.

i always give people a chance.nobody in this world is perfect.

Sounds quite scary. I wouldn't allow an ex convict to come to me house. She has no business with me and allowing her in is inviting trouble as I would not know what she might end up doing in my house. I will lock the door and put a big sign outside my door saying that I am not in or direct to the point 'Respect my Privacy, visit with appointment only'. It sounds quite rude but it is better than slamming the door in front of her.

Antique I couldnt agree with you more .You cannot risk her stealing your medication and make your condition worse.People like those can get you into trouble with the law Antique so you shouldnt have them around ...dont want to come visit you in prison now ..you wouldnt last aday there lol.Dont feel bad you are doing the right thing by getting rid of her

She is so ill you cannot cope with it.She will try to steal your meds ,stop letting her in.It is really awful this has happened and I do feel sorry for this lady but there has to be a limit.Pretend you are out,get your neibours to talk to the police or someone who can put her off coming round.So sorry you are in this position.

What I do is that to comfort first to get her attention calm then call the authorities get her for rehabilitation and make her better again. This lady have many problem I think and need someone to comfort, to talk and to alleviate her grievances in some instances...Have a nice day!

i think you did the right thing by telling them what you thought and you have had some md's already taken i would not let her in any more. my niece has to hide her md's from her son.they will do almost anything for md's of any kind.be careful.

Look in your phone book for Adult protection agency and let them know what is happening. If you don' t find the number call the hospital in your town and ask them for the number. Adult protection will invesigate and this woman, whoever she is needs to be stopped. Meanwhile, do not let her in and tell your neighbors the same thing. If you have troubles email me and I'll help you.

I have a few in my neighborhood like that. I live in a trailor park so everything that goes on is pretty much not a secret. I have a few of these that come and visit every once in a while. I have given them a phenergan and Ibuprofen before but not the other stuff I have. They know I take alot of meds and have the nerve to ask for my migraine meds and ADHD meds. I think it is ridiculous. I have told them on numerous occasions "No" and that the medicine was prescribed to me and that I cannot afford to run out of meds that i needed. I also told them that they needed to use their medical card and go theirselves if they are in need. I keep conversations with these people very brief and short in my house. I would rather carry on a conversation outside my house just because I would not one to speculate about me.

I agree with you that it appears to be a good cause of anxiety. Who knows if she could be getting these people addicted to their meds, instead of only giving them what they need. If the police won't do anything, and the doctors won't do anything, I think that I would personally confront the people she is visiting and tell them of your concern. Just warn them about it. If they continue on the same path, then, well...you tried. Maybe if it gets too bad, ask the woman who is handing them out what she's up to.

What I'm going to tell you is not going to be easy. I don't know whether I could do it. First talk to the lady directly about her problem. Then try leading her to God. I look at this way. We might have been in her place, but due to many reasons, first our Lord God, then our parents, our surroundings, our situations, etc., we have not fallen prey to such things. May be gently, you could find out the background for this person and then gradually get her to talk about her problem. And then gently lead her to God. You would be doing a greater thing than shunning her off. I would have come up with the same idea you have now some years ago. But reading the Bible and listening to His Word has changed me a lot. I'm not perfect or something like that, but I look at life and people differently now. May God bless you, your neighbours and that lady most specially. I think she needs a lot of love and understanding. Pray and try your best. Ask God's help to help her. And then leave it in God's hands. He will guide you to do what is best.

Wow,I wouldn't want someone posing as a friend that was there just to steal my meds. I would lock up my meds in a fireproof box and just to see if that's what she was up to I would get some vitamin C and garlic pills (they're smaller, white and round) and put them in a prescription bottle, keeping count of just how many I had in the bottle and see if they disappear after her visits.

I think i would do just as you did. Its a good thing that the neighbors were alert to her.

I'd keep her out of my house, and only express concern for the people next door. Unless you plan to install video cameras to watch her, there's no point in calling the police, unless you can prove she's stealing from either of you.

treating a person is good work regardless of need or do not help us

I really don't know if this is a good idea but I did this before to my unwanted visitor. Everytime I have unwanted visitor I don't accommodate them well, I want to show them and want to make them feel that they are unwanted. Funny thing is this attitude works many time.