Trust issues

Hi, Alice. I'm really worried for you! First you say he told you that you would have to earn back his trust. Then you say that's understandable. Why? You did NOTHING wrong to lose his trust! You sent an innocent email to a friend. You sent it from HIS computer in front of him, so obviously you weren't hiding anything. And he's made you stop speaking to all of your male friends? That's really scary. You're giving all of your control to this guy. And now he wants your personal information so that he can vet your actions in your private Myspace? Why does he need your password? Any information is on your public page, so is that so that he can read your emails from your female friends? You might find that he starts to insist you stop speaking to them as well, using the excuse that they're a "bad inluence", and questioning their morals, etc. Ever seen the film Fatal Attraction? Where I come from, we call men or women who behave in this way "bunny boilers" after Glenn Close's character in that movie. This situation is only going to get worse. He's already convinced you that you did something wrong, when in fact you did NOTHING wrong. If you were my real life friend, I'd be doing everything I could to convince you to get rid of this guy. He sounds dangerous.

Asking for your password? NO, that's called ABUSE. First, he cannot talk you into not rseeing your male friends anymore, that's cutting you out of your personal social relationships and that is abuse. Second, he i susing the word 'trust issues' unappropriately and uses it to abuse you. Third, I wouldn't stay a moment more with a man like that, I've been and thanks but no more. Set yourself free...

Well if I was in your shoes it all depends are you going ot marry him? If you do not see him as a husband than don't give him anything and just move on with your life. If he met you with guy friends then he needs to get over it already. And plus if he is that jelaous then that means he is very insecure or you are giving him reasons to be jealous. So in the end it is up to you to do what you think is right. So like I said if you see him with you in the long run than give it to him what can you lose by it. But sooner or later you need to talk to him and he needs to start trusting you again cuz with no trust then that means there is no love!!!!!! And no love equals no long term realtionship and alot of problems!!!!!! Good luck! Hope I helped you out. Do what your heart indicates you to do. happy mylotting maria s.

Hi Alize, That's kind of weird that he asked for your password to earn his trust. For me, when you say trust it doesn't need any proof like that. If you trust a person, you just trust him/her. Period. No question asked. If you let him know your side of story and you have said it already that you didn't cheat him or anything, there will be no more issues at all. But then again I can't blame him if he acted that way. All I can say is that, I will never give my personal id's or password unless he is my husband already. I mean, what for? A password for his trust? That is something personal. I know you "love" him and it is all your decision to make. Just do what your heart tells you.

Trust is really important in a relationship. For me, your boyfriend sounds like an immature and insecure guy!It is not right for you to stop talking to your guy friends since on the first place, i think they come first before him. If he loves you, he will trust you (since you don't have any intention of hurting his feeling, right?)I don't think that giving your myspace password could help. Try to think yourself again Alize, if he is the guy that you want to live with someday..

As someone in a controlling relationship herself I would have to say that you have a big decision to make because I can promise you that it is not just going to stop here it is going to get worse. Do you want to be treated like this forever always having to tell him everything you do, who you are with, where you are at all the time? If you don't want this I suggest getting out now because controlling men usually turn into abusive men and you should get out while you can before it gets to bad. It will only get harder to leave. You might say he's not like that or it's not that bad but trust me it is and your only blind right now because you really like him but as time passes you'll see it's too late

Not only does he sound untrusting and insecure, he's also a little controlling, and that can be dangerous! In my opinion, you're better off without this guy. You should never be made to feel like you need to give up friends or privacy for anyone!

..oh.. he's just your boyfriend and he's acting that way? my gosh.. that is a very big issue for me.. Do you have any plans of marrying that guy..? If I'm in your situation, I better make up my mind and focus on that aspect.. If he's always like that, then you have to do some explaining to him always.. that's what I hate in guys.. If I were you, I won't be giving my password.. loving without trusting is nothing.. love should be accompanied by trust.. Better think carefully..

I completely understand where you're coming from. My boyfriend is exactly like that. However, he is the most amazing guy ever. His trust issues started after most of his ex's cheated on him or used him. I don't blame him for being like that. Actually whenever he gets mad or insecure, I always try to calm him down. However, there are times when I just have to leave him alone for him to calm down. You should so this often. Every time he gets like this, give him a little space. Space is always the best method for this type of situation. Me and my bf are CONSTANTLY arguing. We do love each other and more time we are saying our I love you's and sweet talks. ALWAYS talk sweetly to him. Don't EVER say mean things back to him. IT causes him to put up his defense more than it already is. Problems like these are what breaks people up. Never give up on him. I never gave up on my boyfriend and ii know this will continue. But there will come a time when he realizes 'oh no, ii love her, she's not like that'. For me, my bf is worth that wait. Cuz I love him veryyyy much! Good luck!