The mother/father wants out but kins advice to stay for the children.

I would choose to stay even though the love is starting to fade as I do believe love never disappear suddenly in an instant without even deeper reasons. I would not accept defeat their may be something need to be talk with the partner and find solution to resolve it. The solution is to work on it to make the relationship more exciting just like the first time the two crosses each path, then identify those weaknesses and strength then go on for companionship and for the sake of children. Their is an exemption to the rules when one partner break the vow of matrimony and the other partner caught his/her partner in a most disturbing situation. I think their is no going back I'll give what please the other partner even it hurt to let him/her cherish herhis new found glory and freedom. Their is no use to sticking aroung when the other partner is blinded by another third party.

Personally, if parents are no longer happy together, it just rubs off on the children. I would leave. It's not about being selfish but what is the point of calling your family "Whole" when it's just really a word and not the truth? I personally wished that my Mother left my father a long time ago but she chose to stay because she thought it was the right thing. In the long run, I think it was very stressful to live with them because they didn't get along very well.

If I was in a decent relationship but I wasn't happy marriage guidance might help. If my partner was violent for mine and my children's safety splitting up would be the best option. I know that a vacation together might put the sparkle back into the relationship. I would try to stay in the marriage and get some help from relationship guidance. If I attempted a vacation and marriage guidance I would suggest a trial separation for one month. Then I would sit down with my partner and discuss things like had we missed each other. I would make sure my children are not hurt by me thinking about what would be best for the future of my family. I would remember marriages have their ups and downs.

I think I must stay becusy I am man

If the parents do not get along and fight all the time then it would be better if one of them left. It maybe hard to come from a broken home but all the fighting and yelling all the time makes for a very stressful life. What kind of life is that for the children listening to their parents fighting and yelling all the time? The children will definitely be scarred from living in a home where the parents do not get along.

I'm not being abused, mentally or physically? Nobody's cheating on anybody? Sounds like a relationship that could be worked on to me. I would put in the effort to make the relationship a better one for me, for the sake of my children. They *need* a happy family.

I would leave. If I am staying for children, I do have a notion that the children will feel the negativity in the relationship if this is the case. I don't think that having a broken family will scar one for life. I do not come from a broken family but I have half brothers and sisters from the relationships of my father outside marriage. I choose not to be affected by these things and go on with my life and continue to strive for my dreams. I think it is how you can explain to the kids why the father/mother cannot stay anymore. Life is too short to be miserable forever.

Leave.....you only live once....and you better make the best of it....kids get over things...people move on....I wouldn't stay where I wasn't happy.

hi jenaisle you would not be selfish if you left if the one who is not happy wants out. staying together in a strained and loveless marriage is stupid as the kids will sense right away that one parent is unhappy with the other. no make a clean break and call it quits. He can still pay child support and see them but not live there,get out now. for the kids sakes. they know that parents are fighting and unhappy, do not think they don't. I would leave as I would not stay with someone who no longer wants me. Iwould do it for any kids sakes.

I am in that dilemna now. Many will know by my other posts. I want to stay for my son, even though me and the father don't live together. We are basically seperated but my son keeps asking why his father don't come "home" It is hard to explain to my son because he does not understand it. We are still legally married and I don't want to push more change onto my son. yes, there won't be much change just that I wouldn't go to his grandmas and stay with him like I do now. It is hard and I also feel if I do check on a divorce it would cause more fear for the family and get a bunch of stupidity started. trust me, it happened before. so i stay like where we are at just so no trouble will start and helps my child.

think this is hard one, depend if they can pretty much hang on until the kids are an age but if they cant i seen this so many times where they just cant stay together but play the game to see who can make who look bad. but if they do break then i think they need to agree ok we'll get along for the kids

I would rather leave and have my children see their parents happy but not together than stay and have them raised in an unhappy household. I would not want my children to think that being married means being unhappy. Also, I would never want them to feel, as they got older and were able to understand things more, that they were the reason that I stayed in an unhappy marriage, because then they might think that they were the reason for my unhappiness. My children have always given me great joy, and I would never want them to think otherwise.

I strongly feel that staying for the sake of the children is a huge mistake. They are way more aware of what is happening around them that you are aware. Coming from a 'broken' family will no scar them for life. They need to be told the truth and supported and loved by both parents. Remember, you are their role models and what you seem to be modeling for them now is an unhappy family.

I come from a divorced family, and I have to say, my life improved immensely when my parents separated! Before they fought all the time, slept separately, it was just not healthy for anyone involved! I think the parents need to grow up and figure out the best way to work it out maturely. If they can separate and have an agreement to both be able to still be ACTIVELY in the kids' lives than I think that is the more healthy option. If they are drifting apart but still can live together and get along, maybe they can find a way to work that out for a little while, but not for long. It's not a matter of being selfish. In my household, everyone's happiness is contingent on everyone else's happiness. I'm not saying we can bring each other down- I'm saying that if one person is not happy, the rest of us will do whatever we can to try to make that person happy. It would get pretty frustrating if certain members of the family were just never happy.

If I meet such a bad situation someday, I tend to stay for the sake of the children. As parents, they shouldn't be considerate toward themselves. In my eyes, even if someone opt out of a relationship that they are no longer happy with, they should pay attention to the interests of the whole, especially the effect on the children. For the sake of the children, they should stay for the children although the bond is no longer there. For the long run, tt is not wise or responsible to leave.