Can a girl make the first move?

My god you are wasting you youth. You can certainly make the first move. At least you will know if he reciprocates your feelings. This happened to me a long time back, a girl whom I was moving as a friend, kissed my hand and told me that she loves me, I gently explained to her about my feelings. Of course I lost a very good friend, but at least both of us are happily married now. There is nothing wrong in the girl, making the first move.So go for it.Girls are not inferior to men. Both are equal.

After thirty five years I'm sure you already know his character and mind set very well. Is he a modern thinking person ? If yes, then give it a try. If you are still not sure why not ask him to join you in an activity that involves the both of you and something that will make you be together more often. Then ask him politely why he is still alone. This will start an interesting conversation and make both of you more open. Say to him that because both of you are still alone, maybe both of you should marry each other. If he said it is impossible, laugh out loud, and say "I was just joking."

i would say to go for it. i mean you could possible lose your chance, i mean you've waited this long, why should you wait any longer. he could be the one for you, if you guys have both been single for so long and still talk to one another. i don't think females should be afraid to make the first move. i've asked guys out before and some actually told me that they like it. but you would never know if you don't ask for yourself. you've only got one life to live, you should live it to the fullest.

Hi Tripplejzm Oh my dear sister--- thirty-five years of waiting is more than enough for you to give it a try. WE are now in an era where anybody can express themselves freely but with modesty. I know you can handle this gracefully my friend. You are two matured adults and i can't see anything wrong for making the first move. If you really love him give it a try. Start by reaching out to him and who knows with constant communication he will be the one to trigger that passion to have that spark finally! Don't waste any single moment of your life not spending it with him --if given the chance. Life is to short and whatever is in there-- let it out NOW! Good luck!

this is an interesting topic.whether a girl can make the first move?I think it depends on what a boy he is.some boys accept this kind of action,but others don't .but I don't regard it as a big problem.because girls alway have methods to make boys they are interested in to make the first move.yes,girls always can make it.

A girl can make the first move if there is a deeper conviction about love advances.But it should be with moral values and better understanding norms Dr.Mikail

Well here women are not considered inferior to men ok some men might think like that but its not really tolerated! A woman can make the first move and that does not make her immodest or improper I think these days you have to grab at happiness when it comes your way I know for me I want to live my life knowing I dont regret the things I DIDNT do im happy to regret some things I did do but at least I can look back and never have to think "what if" i think thats awful!

They can. Unfortuanatly it is believed that men should and if a woman does, well then she is probably easy.

35 years..wov..you gotta be kidding me..one thing is for sure..you do have a lot of control keeping that feeling deep inside you for that long..and i do understand what you say about your country problem..i live in a similar place as well..over here its ok whatever we men do..i mean in the case of proposing a girl..but if the girl did the same thing and if the boy rejected,it wold be a bad quality in her when someone else tries to think of proposing her..ofcourse..there are men who have much more better minds as well not to think like that..but anyway i recommend you tell it to him and you people are really wasting your lives not being with each other

Why not?.Girls also has right to express their feelings.There is no rules or condition that only boy or man make first move.But make sure in the proper way.Girls should not shame to ask somebody to love her.Sometimes boy also shame and waiting some girl to their first move.Have an ice day friend.

sure,i envy their courage to make the first move,if you meet a person you really love, you'd better let him know,he may just think the same thing with you,or,it'll be a pity to have missed the person you love.

You should start making it obvious if you dont want to be the one to the make the first move. But if i were you, i would ask him out. Or slowly make him realize that i like him as more than just a friend and then ask him out so he wont get shocked or anything

everone have the rights to express our feelings.go ahead

I personally think a guy should make his first move, however i wouldn't have anything against a girl asking me out

i dont think there's something wring if the girl make the first mon\ve. just be ready for the result. it's either acceptance or rejection my dear.

As you have said above, according to the "rule" in your country, it is not immodest or improper to let a girl make the first move. But I don't think this routine is designed for all situations. When you were in high school, you fell in love with him. Now, after several years, you have graduated in high school, I think it is not wise to wait the first move of the boy. If you really love him, you'd better make the first move even if your action will be against to the routine in your country. Compared with a true love, all routines are nothing. Don't hesitate to do it, just tell him the truth. Wish you success.

Yes, sure it does. women play with they heart and feeling. Yes, sure it does. women play with they heart and feeling.

Why not ?If i were you i will tell him directly,girls have the same right to pursue their love.But in your country,maybe it is innormal.Maybe you can use another way to make him to express his feeling fristly.You can tell him someone one fall in love with you ,and he want you to be his girlfriend ,and you can get your friend's respond .If you are not good at lying,you can use text ,in text you can told your friend what opinion about marriage ,and maybe he will make fist step firstly.May you good luck.

It dosen't matter that who makes the first move. Someone thinks,the boy will look down the girl if she make the first move. I don't think so. Boys and girls both will shame and nervous in relationship, even some introversive boys. They can't make the first move because they really care about you. Why don't you make the first step. I think it's really a piece of cake. Now I've married with my first love who is a very shame boy. We are good friends at first, we share everything. He'll appear to help me when I'm in trouble. Although he don't tell me anything about love, I have the feelings about him. So I told him ,and we're so happy now. Dear triplyjazzm51 ,if you still have feelings about him and he is still single, go and tell me about your feelings. Even if he refuse, I think you face your feeling bravely and frankly at least. Wish you happy so much!

In this point in time, I dont think it is still inappropriate. A lot of girls make the first move nowadays and it is no longer an outrage. It is just a common thing. I understand that there was a time that this was really unheard of.