Can Religion Hinder A Relationship?
By pjsr18
@pjsr18 (340)
Philippines
November 7, 2009 9:08am CST
I just want to ask you about this because I and my baby have different religion. She's a Roman Catholic, and my religion is Iglesia ni Cristo. It is written in the Bible that a couple can't be together if they don't have the same religion because they will have different perspectives of God. What do you think about this? For me, religion should not hinder relationships. My baby said that she would change religion if she should follow and I'm really glad about it.
13 responses
@tokouchi (370)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
You really don't have different religions. You're both Christians (from what i can see). The only problem you will have is about you're differences in doctrines. You can just respect each other on that (unless your group says otherwise, I have found INC members to be very strict with issues involving their faith). I don't see any problems you would be encountering aside from that. But it would definitely be better if one will convert to the other, just be sure that you understand fully the doctrines so as not to make it worthless. I think the conversion should be done only if you fully understand and agree the doctrines.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
Sometimes religion is the hindrance in relationship but when it comes to love it doesn't matter at all. If the couple have different religions sometimes they argue on things and their beliefs are different to each other. If you still want to continue your love to each other religion would not be a problem and willing to accept and respect each other beliefs.
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
You and your baby are doing the right thing. If you really love her, then religion should not be an issue.
By the way, there is no such thing in the bible that a couple cannot be together if they don't have the same religion. In fact, it is written in I Corinthians 7:12-14 that if any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband.
I hope this would answer your question and hopefully this would clear out your doubts regarding this matter.
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
8 Nov 09
In my opinion, when it comes to the relationship and religion, the Bible is right indeed.
According to the Bible, a couple can't be together if they don't have the same religion because they will have different perspectives of God. Of course, a couple can't be together not because they will have different perspectives of God, but it is really not appropriate for a couple who have the different religions. For such a couple, they will meet the big divergence of opinion sooner or later.
Sometimes, to change the religion is a wise choice to meet the gap between two different religions.
@asfiona (174)
• India
8 Nov 09
hi pjsr
depends on the person how one consider about faith. for me its difficult to change my religion because of my b.fren. faith is something you have experience in your life it can be change easily.
Me and my b.fren also belong to different religion. I belong to Roman Catholic and he is not. He said that i can continue my same faith after getting married as well. I don't know for others but to me faith is not something to take easily or practice easily. when you know about your real truth colour of your religion you'll not change in your entire life. God know what we think about him. So better be in the same faith rather than shifting to other religion when you know of your real truth religion. Take care
@solared (1207)
• United States
8 Nov 09
You need to read the Bible again, it does not say none believers can't be together, it says it's not a good idea. because you could lose your faith.
Check out the old testament it's very clear in their, also I'm sure there is a line about saving a believer, as you can read in the old testament many of God's chosen married outside their tribe.
@onlinemoneyjourney (235)
• Australia
8 Nov 09
Hi. I don't know where in the Bible it says you can't be together if you are not the same religion. My husband and I are both Christians but belong to different congregations, so we have different beliefs and interpretations of the Bible. It does not affect our relationship at all as we respect each other's beliefs.
I find it odd that people can change religions, for example, when they get married. For me, how can you abandon something you have believed in all your life for something else. Unless you totally believe in your 'new' religion.
We all have freedom of religion and we should all respect each other's religions.
@mikeyr6000le (2123)
• United States
8 Nov 09
Yes, it deffinatly can be a bad thing in a relationship. You should not change what you beleive just for someone else. What if you two don't make it together, then the other person has chnaged what they beleive for nothing.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
7 Nov 09
I think religion and relationships are separate. I actually think it's a wonderful idea for two people in a relationship to have two religions. This gives the other perzon different perspectives of life and their surroundings. You'll be able to understand things from different views. I personally am not religious, but many of my friends are, and they haven't had any problems with relationships because of religion. I think that you should try this, and if in the end, it doesn't work out because of religion, she could try changing religions, but that should be the last resort.
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Honestly, it shouldn't be a hinder in every relationship. But in reality, it will always be an issue. Like what you have said, some church/religious group don't accept marriage of different religion. One of them must be converted to the religion of their partner. But I have also heard that there are couples who got married even they do not share same spiritual beliefs or religion. Like my couple neighbor who is a muslim and a catholic. But with Iglesia ni Cristo, I don't think their church (or your church) will allow that.
But overall, it may become a hindrance in terms of ...who will give way with the both of you. But it will never become an obstacle in terms of how you feel towards the other. It may sound cheesy but as they say "Love conquers all". Right? and for sure it will. Hope for the best on both of you! God bless and Happy Lotting!
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
7 Nov 09
It actually depends on the mentality, not the religion. People are so fixated on "religion" but it's just what you really think. Religion sets many boundaries with people, unfortunately. In this case, you or her would have to convert I suppose and it all depends on who is willing to convert.
@menolly22 (217)
• United States
7 Nov 09
But you can't really change religion unless you truly believe it. Not whole heartedly anyway. And then, what's the point if you aren't? You can always say your such and such religion, but your really not. Unless you truly believe in it. Both my husband and I were not Christian when we married. I was raised in a Christian home, but never really followed the path. Since our 2nd child I have come to know the Lord and have accepted Jesus. Unfortunately, my husband has not. It has created a strain on our relationship. I don't think that marriages are null and void if the couple has different religious views. But it does make it so much harder and sometimes, not so happy a relationship.
@kush20006 (515)
• India
7 Nov 09
religion never hinders anything
mentality matters always
if one thinks that this thing is bad he will find various reasons to oppose it and religion is the one
the main thing is that ideology needs to be changed