This is tough..... I hope this works out right. What do you think?

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My husband and I and our children will be moving back to Connecticut. We have been living in New Hampshire now for 3 years. We got asked to move in with them by my mom as my mom is having a hard time doing the simpliest of tasks. She could really use our help around the house. Now, what the hard part is my husband has full custody of his son who is 6 1/2. He says he loves livng with mommy (meaning me) and daddy. He refers to his biological mom as her first name. This was his doing and nobody elses. He chose to start doing this a year ago. His real mom has a court case the size of a thick dictonary. My husband told her that we are moving to CT and she threw a fit saying she will never see her kid again. To me that means nothing to me. She is suppost to take him every weekend after school and half the time if not more she is dropping him off by 6pm friday night saying she cant handle him. She has things against her ranging from inproper supervision, unsantitary living enviroment down to child neglect. I know she wont win in the court room to stop us from moving as the judge already told my husband as long as she gets written notice 30 days prior to moving we're in the clear. The judge here has "felt bad" for her in everyones eyes, because of what she has against her anybody else would have already been behind bars. Now once we move to CT I know they wont "feel sorry" or "feel bad" for her. I was born and raised and they do not tolerate anything. I have a feeling she might even get her legal rights removed from her youngest son (my stepson). Here is where I get confused. My husband asked me if she did get her rights pulled and her name would obviously be taken off the birth certificate if I would adopt him and put my name there. I will do it regardless as he has been "my son" for the last 3 years. I have done everything for that child with no help from his biological mother. I taught him to right a bike, I brought him to get his first pair of glasses, I bring him to his doctor appointments and so on. My husband does do some of the appointments but he works to provide for us. I just want to see what other Mylotters think about this situation. Would I be doing the wrong thing? I love this child as much as I love my own 3 daughters. He has called me mommy since he was just 18 months old. What do you all think. Try not to be too rude please. Thank you everyone for your input. Sorry this is so long. But this is the story of my life.