Travel without the kids

Well now, it is no one else's responsibility to take care of your children and no one loves your kids as their own mother. That being said even though everyone needs a break, it is so selfish of you to think is okay to leave your kids behind with your inlaws none the less to take care of them while you go on your personal fun trip. What ever posses you to think is ok. Now you are wondering and looking for advice about that? Your kids look to learn from you and you are teaching them to abandon you and their kids when they grow up. You need take them with you if you want to go else make plans to include them not leave them behind.

For the coming short trip we going, it is not my first time I'm leaving back the kid, but first time leaving back hubs and kid...haha. First time when me and hubs went for a short trip, we left the boy with my mum. I can say that I miss him very much and keep thinking of him whether is he ok without me at night. I even couldn't sleep well on the first night and keep checking my mobile on his pic..LOL! The 2nd times we left him for a week and I don't have such missing feeling that lot anymore or just to say I less worried..coz I can call them anytime to make sure the kid is ok..and need not to worry as they are in my parent's hand and they know the boy well too. We really need a break to do something we like and something to refresh us. Just make sure everything that the kids need are with your in-law and all things are arrange properly and told before you leave. I think that, sometime it is good, when we off the pic for awhile. It can be a good chance for the hub to learn to handle kids, else they hardly feel sometimes how hard and how tension are we mummies when handling kids.. Don't worry, we will sure have a splendid holiday..

my wife and I left for Singapore this Oct for 5 days and those issues are the common question before we left. My eldest is now 18 and the youngest was 3 yrs old. The eldest said he can manage everything and it was. In singapore my wife had to call the house from the time they woke up and until they are asleep, and its really funny but everything turns okay.

hi vingyan.. having a repeat honeymoon? Anyway, I am here to just wish you having a nice and enjoyable holiday, as I am one of those mummy that I am still unable to leave my baby behind beside going to work. Even how much I wanted to leave her, I just don't think I am able to, as the attachment feeling is too strong for me. All the best, and I am sure your children will be able to understand about having them sleeping over at grands, and all you could do is to pamper them when you are back from holiday..

I understand how you feel it is difficult leaving your child at home and travelling but there is no reason to get worried because I believe they are in good hands and you can call them everyday. I once left my kids at home and travelled but they were okay and dont know if the missed me but I guess they did and I missed the too

Hi Vingyan, If i were you, i would not worry. Sometimes in life, you just go to trust them. I'm sure your in-law's will be able to take care of your two kids. They'll do fine. Just enjoy your vacation and have the time of your life.

I hope that you will have an excellent trip. It will probably feel strange for you to travel without your kids. However I am sure that they will enjoy being cared for by your mother-in-law. You might be able to phone or email to make sure all is going well. Your kids are unlikely to get sick whilst you are away. You could leave some children's paracetamol just in case with your mother-in-law. I let my older son stay with my mom and they liked that. Now I have two young kids I let them travel with me. I have taken my toddler son to five different countries. My last trip was to Cape Town and the Garden Route and I was pregnant with my baby girl then. Happy traveling.

If you have to go away for your job, then you have to go away and worrying will not make the matter any better. If it were me and my travel were voluntary, of course I would cancel the trip, but work is work and we have to do what we have to do, as it is better for your babies to cry a little now than starve later, eh? Good luck.

Hi. vingyan06. I have never had to travel and leave my kids alone with anyone before. Not a long distance trip that is. I think that your fears are normal. Every mother will worry about their child when they are into the care of someone else, especially when it isn't you or the father, as parents. I think that you should talk to all of your kids on the telephone. You can also send them pictures and postcards just to let them know that you are thinking about that. You may be away, but your love is not far at all. I hope that you will enjoy your trip. Take care.

Why are you traveling without your husband?

Hi Vingyan, I don't have this experience before,so I can't comment much on your topic. But since you are leaving your kids with their grandparents and they have get used to taking care of them,it should not be a problem,I guess. Also your husband is at home,so any problem,at least your husband can handle it when you are away for your holiday. Don't worry too much,get ready yourself for this short trip.And enjoy your holiday!!

Hmm, okay well I cannot give you a perspective from a parent's point of view. I can only give you one from a child's point of view. When I was a kid, my parents would go for short vacations. At first, I didn't like it but I got used to it. Eventually, it became alright. I wasn't scared of being left with my relatives because they treated me well so I wasn't so "clingy" or "dependent" on my parents.