I Need You Because I Love You or I Love You Because I Need You?

When a man have a good job and have more money, then don't love his wife and think her not convenient with him.The man isn't responsible to his family and is not a lover to his wife. But in the world,many man or woman is this types.It's a pity. I think the need based on love is a good way to show love,but the love based on need is not true love.

The guy from the scenario was portraying the "I love you because I need you" type of love. This kind of love would not last because it is superficial and conditional. He only loved the girl because there were conditions involved (she was convenient for his needs)and when he was able to stand on his own feet the love just faded. I don't want this kind of love. I want to be loved the "I need you because I love you" love which is the unconditional type of love. This is the real love because the first type of love is not love at all. If one truly love someone then he/she would not use and take advantage of the person for his/her own needs. That is not love at all.

That is not love to be sure and the guy is a rotten selfish bas*ard… There are many men and women like these types who utilize others to climb the ladder and once on top, they just kick them away. I am a firm believer in divine justice and I have seen many such people suffer their worst in their old age or at times when there’s nobody to bail them out. As for my relation with my husband…well none of us can actually think of ourselves individually leaving the other person out. Such thoughts have never entered our minds either…our good and bad days are for both of us to be shared and cherished.

Love doesn't ask for anything in return if it's true love. It's a feeling which cannot be put in to words....If we love someone it's a feeling we have towards them...True love cannot be put in words....The love me and my husband we have is not that just love for the needs...its love which we share everything, all the time either good or the bad times we have...it's nothing that we love each other when the situations are good and hate.....Love once happened if it's true love they have for each other they never get separated it doesn't expect anything....My love is true and stays so until I close my eyes forever...

hi Eurek, Personally,i think we should find out our own definition of love.everyone has a unique understanding about love.love do not always means marriage.maybe its knd of negative , it is the society . have a great day

I will say love is wicked. Sometimes, a patner make me scared of love. Love is dicey. Guys doing what you said are those don't have broad understanding of life. That no matter how wealthy you are you will definetly leave oneday when u die so while the cheating....?

In my opinion a marriage is give and take. It is never equal. My relationship with my husband has been a good one for 20 years. He supports me no matter if i'm going through good or bad times as I do him.

Hi dear! Our life is a hard reality and people love somebody because they need his/her company. Everything in this materialistic world has become need based and people keep their utter selfish motives in their minds, when they start building a relationship with someone.

i read that saying in my book of the secret, it's the difference between inmature love and mature love. made me look at my relationship, even thou it's already up the creek with out the paddle on fixing. my partner is spoilt he gets things done for him, and in my view really lives up to his star sign always has.

People tend to confuse love and affection. It is very probable for me that this guy thought he loved her especially during some hard moments in his life. As the girl helped her emotionally or financially he started to like her and perhhaps was attracted by her. He would have never married her if he was not serious nd was just pretending.... I do not approved what he did either because marriage is sacred and we should marry our loved one by taking the time to know the person very well and the relationship must be maintained with gifts, loving words and respect.

If you love a person just because you need him/her, I think it's a superficial love. It's not exactly what I'd refer to as true love. It's more of a dependency or need to satisfy or indulge in something that you want. I love a person because I love him for who and what he is and who he is in my life. It's not because I need him and that's how he feels about me. If you're together because of the pretense of needing, then it's just a selfish kind of love.

Hi friend although am not in any relationship now except that of Jesus Christ that die for me on the cross but i can not neglect Him when am rich and satisfied

I would take you to a different plane not just a relationship between husband and wife but relationships in general. I have always been a fairy godmother to several in my life and after their success in life most of them avoid me and what was then called involvement is now termed as interference. This attitude is more a rule than an exception and I have come to accept it as something normal which happens to everybody in life.

Hello friend, Loving someone truly is the most difficult task on earth. Let me repeat - most difficult! Even if a man is truly in love, he needs to put in regular effort to keep that love as sweet as it was in the beginning. Everyday he needs to put in effort to understand her characteristics, her desires, her fears, her dreams. He needs to rediscover her everyday, know her a bit more everyday. He needs to drop all his ego and be her number one supporter. He should do something special for her and do it often. He should always focus on the good things about her. In bitter moments, he should remember the sweet moments with her and forget the momentary bitterness. Every single day, he should keep repairing the relationship. Else true love will gradually vanish. They will start taking each other for granted. They will start exploiting each other. The care, the passion, the attraction, the affection will vanish. And they will end up becoming enemies who live together for legal reasons! Girls are basically good human beings. But a really good caring guy is rare. Being a guy myself, I hate to say this, but its true.

I think needing someone because you love them is a much better relationship then loving someone because you need them.

If I have to make a choice between them, "I need you because I love you" may make a lot of sense. It is really difficult to make a choice. From where I stand, it is wrong to force yourself to love someone simply because you need them. One would not only be using the other person but would also be being untrue to oneself. If you need one because you love him/her, I guess you need them because their appearance makes your life complete. If one really falls in love with each other, then they will be together and their is nothing of needs. Happy myLotting!

the thing is that you are terming love as a thankful business please dont mention it as love if you mean that the contract togetherness often happens when people are equal and proffessionally active but the thing is that professional activeness can lead to being close and getting married for personal interest but it is not love in love one sacrifices everything it cant be one sided as it appeared from your situation it is habit of guys to use in throw but here the case is same but the way is different you have started a nice discussion i appreciate ur maturity on this subject and i would like to be involved more and more in your such discussion so do add me i also want to tell you that contract gets void in certain condition being famous and independent is one of them