I need lots of female input, I am entering the dating arena again after 20 yrs

I am always turned off by men who want to impress women by their looks and material possessions. They should know that women are looking into deeper qualities. Personally, I value honesty and loyalty more than anything else. I don't want him to cheat on me because I am a loyal person myself. I don't want to play games. He should be hard working and has plans for the future. Who would like a lazy man? I am more easily drawn to intelligent men. I like men who speak well and one who can carry a good conversation. He should be one who pays attention to what I say when we are conversing and he should be smart. I am easily drawn to men who have a sense of humor. I am a funny woman and I like men who knows how to make me laugh. It would always be a fun moment to be with him with us letting loose in laughter. He should be one I can rely upon. He should be someone who would be there for me even at rough times. I would appreciate the advices and care he would extend when I go through troubled times. Most of all, he should be one who is God-fearing. He should be one who believes in Him. A man who fears God, loves his fellow men. That seems a lot. I know you look for a lot of things in women, too.

While not a woman, I can't give you that perspective, but would like to give you my experience in this area. In 2007 my wife of 5 years passed away. Once I had recovered from that, and that took a lot of help from friends and family, I decided to try the Internet dating sites. In the beginning I had no aspirations for finding someone for life. In fact I did not want that. I was looking for a female friend that I could hang out with and just have a good time. I joined many sites as I am sure you did. In one month I had at least the first date and an occasional second date with nine women. All was well and I was loving it. I soon found out however that women are not on these sites to find a best buddy. one way or another they are looking for love. Then I came across a lady that really got my attention. Very intelligent and knew what she wanted in life and was on the go all the time. We found, after a false start, that we begin to like each other and dated often. One thing I promised myself in the beginning, was no matter what the result I would always tell the truth about myself and my past, let the chips fall where they may. That lost me a few possible dates but not many. I am happy to say I am married again to the lady that got my attention. We both are in our sixties. You are never too old. My point is that I did not push anything. I was not looking for love but love found me. Several of the woman I met told me that it is difficult for most women to find a man worth dating more than a few times on the Internet. Sad commentary on men today but it is true. My wife had been looking for about 8 years and was about to give it up. Never say never. I found that if you are honest, never push anyone to go out with you until you really get to know them you can't go wrong. If I can do it, being the shy person I am, I know you can. You said you have tried Internet dating but are getting nowhere. Where do you want to get? I hope you get some answers here that help. Best of luck to you.

It is always depends on what kind of woman you want to meet, are you looking for a serious relationship of you just want to make fun around. Your already 40 but still looking in a relationship so i guess that you are not serious with your past relationships before. Woman have different preferences, sometimes they look at men physically but some always look at the guy's ability to make them live comfortably.

First of all, age doesn't matter and looks are subjective because we all have our different tastes. I certainly wouldn't mind a little bit of a belly myself. From the way you describe yourself, I think you shouldn't have a problem finding a date. I would suggest, however, that you look at dating sites that have exclusive memberships. They may require a fee but I think people there are more serious about finding a mate. Otherwise, they wouldn't waste the money. I do believe that you have a shot in finding a match. You sound like a nice guy and what woman wouldn't want a nice guy with a sense of humor who is financially stable and independent? You're a keeper. I suggest that you be yourself and be confident. I personally am drawn to men who are confident but not cocky. If a woman can love you for who and what you are, she is a keeper. If you try to be the person she wants you to be, then, I don't think that's a strong foundation to build on. I wish you the best.

I can some up this up for you in one word..."Integrity". Although I am married and have been out of the dating circuit for some time, the one quality that means the absolute most is integrity. Be a man of your word. Not only to whoever you are dating but to everyone. She will be observant. If she hears you tell a friend you will help them move next weekend. Do it. And don't complain about the things you have given your word about. I am a firm believer that the most important thing a real man can offer is his word. I know lonliness can be a bummer, especially during the holidays. But, embrace it. REdiscover yourself, if necessary. Self anaylize about what's important to you, not only in a relationshp but also in life. And....by all means always be honest. Don't pretend to like something to please her. Be attentive in conversation, and if it's in you, then bring the gentleman back to life. In other words, treat her like a lady (open doors etc...) You will find someone, but don't rush it, enjoy bachelorhood, and I don't think the belly will get in the way of a truly integral woman. Blessings to you. Brooke

everything happens for a reason, maybe you didnt found your match yet, but dont lose hope because we have the right partner for us. for every do what you want to take just always pray and dont lose hope.

yeah, sure, why not? you just need to be friendly and social, and go out there and meet people. you just need to meet and make the right connections with the right woman, and if it is meant to be it will work out. if it isnt, move on. just relax, socialize, get to know people and have fun. and one of these people you meet will work out for you when the time is right.

Don't turn to internet dating, would be my first peice of advice. People will judge you before they are even in your presence. But they really will not know you untill they are standing next to you, feeling what type of vibe you give off. Be funny. Girls love someone who can make them feel happy. Smile alot, show them that you are happy and that you will enrich their lives, not suck the life out of them. Girls like to feel safe and secure in relationships. Tell them you have a steady job, and that you are happy with it. Talk about things you have done that you are proud of...without bragging of course. But most importantly, let her talk about herself and her accomplishments. Be interested in things that she likes, make her feel special. If you can really listen to what she has to say, and even have a conversatoin with her about it, she will want to talk to you again. Therefore, a second date.

Honestly, I think it depends on the woman. Every woman wants something different in life. I can however tell you what I want. To me the most important quality that I want in a man is honesty. There are so many people (not just men) who have problems with lying. The most annoying lie for me to hear is a lie about something that is meaningless, like where you went the night before, etc. If I ask a question, I want an honest answer even if it isn't something that I want to hear. I want a man who will respect me. Someone who will care about me, who will be interested in me and what I have to offer them. Some of my dislikes are public display of affection. I love being affectionate behind doors, but I'm not extremely fond of public affection. Don't get me wrong, an occasional arm around me or holding my hand occasionally is fine, I'm just not into the heavy petting or having to hold someone's hand all the time. I feel that is something that a couple does behind closed doors and is an intimate thing between them. I have tried and failed with the internet dating thing. Basically, I have given up on finding love, I'm now waiting for love to find me. I'm hoping it will turn out better that way. I wish you so much luck at finding love!

be confident.women love men who are confident of themselves.be passionate about something.talking about your favorite movie,dish,or book are good conversation starters.when a woman talks about herself,be genuinely interested.try broadening your dating options by going to a sports club,a book club,or sign up for a culinary or art class.

There is someone out there for everyone. Keep the faith!

All you should do is try to be yourself. don't change who you are to impress someone. they should be impressed by the person you are People see different qualities and attractions in each other. If you are honest about who you are and what you want from life, it will be so much more easier for you to find that special someone to share it all with.

Well, you are a bit old for me (sorry) but I thought I could tell you what girls like. Girls like someone who is strong and kind and can make them laugh. Someone who likes to do fun things. Romantic is nice and cuddles are good too. You sound like a nice man. I hope you find a really nice lady.