Do you worry about being single?
@invisiblelady (1655)
Philippines
November 8, 2009 10:26pm CST
I'm single and very much available at the moment, but I'm not so worried about it. Well, I must admit that I get envy sometimes, especially when my friends are so busy with their partners. But, basically, I can find many things to do, which can spare me from thinking about my being single. Hehehe
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@rsa101 (38164)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
I don't think you should be. If you are happy with your being a single then enjoy it to the fullest. I myself was happy with my being single before and did not hurry up finding a romantic partner but then after a while it did sink in to my system that I am not getting any younger and I need to find one and soon I found my wife and right now I am happy with my state of being married. I cannot say which one is better because both have advantages as well as disadvantages but I am happy with both states before and now.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
WOW, well congratulations for that. At some stage, I expect that I will find someone-ofcourse. But then, I'm not in a hurry. You're right...on both counts, there are disavantages and advantages. It's a matter of being contented, I guess.
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@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
hey, you know, my father told me once that a man is getting married because he's lonely of being alone...?is that true?for you, i mean?
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@wj1133 (12)
• China
10 Nov 09
just like you,i am single.too.but now i am busy with my study,you know,in college,there is a debate on whether there is a need to find a GF or BF.personly i perfer to be alone.be alone is not to be lonely,there are books ,friends,parents,relatives,etc who can be accompanied with me .in fact i am not alone.however, i plan to find my GF in the near future after i graduate.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
well.. i wish you good luck in your studies. i believe that at the right time we will find someone special. there's no rush in falling in love, right?
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
12 Nov 09
Before I got married, I never think that I would be afraid being single. I was happy with my life even though I have strict parents because I have friends whom I can refer to and go out when I want to. But after I got married, I became too dependant on my husband, and he on the other hand likes to pamper me. Until I become spoilt I guess, because now I am almost always worried if I have to go single again one day.
This dilemma is frequent and normal among women because before we have someone whom we can hang on to and depend to, we are brave and can do everything we want. But once we have someone to hang to and rely on, we tend to rest our head to his shoulder and let him do all the hard things (at least that's what I think).
I know this is not good because if something happened to my husband I know I will have to depend on myself again and this is a very terrifying thought. I know I have to collect the same spirit again, like what I feel when I was a virgin. To you, I hope you don't lose your good spirit and maintain what you are feeling right now.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Honestly, I have my personal ups and downs when it comes to dealing with boys but it never gets that serious. Or maybe I wasn't ready for depending myself on someone yet. I hope you will be strong if your fears will come. But as of now, I wish you will have a happy life with your husband. GODbless :)
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I am currently married and I enjoy being married. I don't want to be single though because I love my husband and I enjoy being with him. If anything ever did happen between us though I would try to find someone else because I wouldn't want to keep on being single. I enjoy having a man to do things with and just enjoy having a relationship. I love my husband very much and I want to stay with him forever. I know people though that do enjoy being single and they would rather not have a partner and they like it that way.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Oh yeah. Well, I was expecting to meet someone someday but also am happy to be single at this time. I wish you well in life and I hope that you will have a long-lasting relationship with your husband. GOD bless!
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 09
I am female,will be 33 next month and still single..if i am asked whether i worry about being single the answer maybe yes.yes, i am worried, especially i see most (maybe all )of my friends are already married. people will make judgemental statement there must be something wrong with me..is it right?But i try to enjoy my single life..single doesn`t mean you`re not worthy..some of friends have decided to end their marriage..they used to think that women will worthy because they are married..and after they realized that they have married wrong husband,they give me different advice:don`t get married because of your age,because you`re afraid you can`t get a better man and so on.
What does it mean?it means that marriage doesn`t guarantee happiness..of course, i want to get married,but i don`t wanna have mindset that i can be happier after i get married,who can guarantee that?i wanna get married because i feel comfortable with someone,he loves me and i love him too..not because of family`s or friend`s pressure..
Just enjoy yourself..explore your potential,make friends,join hobby community or any positive activities..you don`t know where and when you find your soulmate..i am single and very happy.be GRATEFUL for what you have now
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
WOW! that is an awesome advice indeed and it is so true. i have always believed in that..marrying is not an easy thing to get yourself involve in.. so, enjoy being single while it last.. coz time will come for us to find true love.
@A_Stockholm (1)
• Denmark
12 Nov 09
I just broke up with my girlfriend. I think it is a good idea, mostly because the she didn't think very much of me
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I just recently called off an engagement, reason: realized I was not ready to be married again. I've been through 3 marriages, 3 divorces and had an almost 4 year live-in relationship break up at the first of this year. And as I told him, I'm not ready to go down that path again, I'm fine being on my own and single. I don't worry about what anyone else thinks, I have hobbies, I also have friends to get together with and go do things with from time to time. If you are fine with being single, then it isn't a problem.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
oh, i'm sorry to hear all of those breakups. but i wish you well... we can't force ourselves into a relationship if we're not yet ready. it's a good thing you realized that before it's too late. i salute you for that! GOD bless
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@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Speaking from the point of view from a married man I suggest that you stay single and enjoy it. Don't ever go into a relationship just because most of your friends are, I'm sure that they make look happy now but chances are they will need a shoulder to cry on sooner or later. You can not find love, it will find you and when that time comes then grab it. There's just so much you can do when you're single, enjoy your freedom. Cheers!
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Cheers! haha. Yeah, right... thanks for the advice. I'll keep that in mind.
@invisiblelady (1655)
• Philippines
9 Nov 09
yeah... and really, it's also like being free from the responsibilities of being committed. unless you're ready, you will never enjoy having a stable relationship with someone. :)
@sparda222 (2)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 09
YEESSS, I agree with you, everything just depends what are you think..