how would you say to your father that you are tired of being there bread winner?

Wow. Things are really different than that in my country(The States). I am the mother and I have always been the breadwinner and could not imagine expecting my girls to be providers for us. Now is your dad working? If not, is he able to? How old are you? What about your mother? Is she able to help out? I know this is a lot of questions but I'm just trying to understand just why the burden is all laid on your shoulders. It doesn't sound right.

We have the same situation. Since third year high school, i am already working. I finished college as a working student. I am also the bread winner. I once felt the same as you do. I resigned from my job before, just to let them feel that i am tired. But, when i deeply thought of the advantages and disadvantages of what i want to do, i was awaken. I ask myself,"what if my father felt it before when i was a kid, where/what would i be?". "what will others say to me if i will ignore what they need?". "what about my needs? what about my happiness? what about my own life?" We are human, yes.. and we need to live our life.. Soon, you will be having your own family.. You better save for your own. Don't give 100% to them. Do your responsibility as a bread winner but dont forget yourself. You should start now.. Hope this helps......

I am sure your father never said he's tired of raising and feeding you when you were a kid. It actually depends on how well you manage the money, anyway. I am the bread winner in my family because my father is retired and my mother is a stay at home mom. My younger brother is still in university and he's a full time student. I am married and have my own family to take care of. But I never consider my extended family a burden, in fact I'm honoured to help them. Trust me, I know how you feel, because I got this job at young age too. You should be able to express how you feel with your family. Let them know about your work, your position there so they get the ideas on what you can or can't afford. Don't be shy to tell 'I want you to have the best, but this is what I can only afford' or something like that. You don't need to tell them how much your salary is, though. Be glad you're still near them. My friend's dad had passed away and she couldn't describe how sorry and sad she was because she didn't have enough time to make him happy. You can do it! Good luck!

What if your parents said that to you while they were raising you. I am not saying what they are doing is right, but maybe it is only short term. I would definitely discuss it with him, and let your feelings be known.

Are there other people in your family that can work and help. You shouldn't be expected to do everything! I am the breadwinner in my family and I hate it! I can't wait for my bf to get a job and help out.

I can't say I'm glad I wasn't in your shoes, because really, I feel for you, I've had friends go through the same situation and I can tell it was really hard for them. Lucky for me, my parents have given me a shot for independence, I had lived on my own for a year since my parents were away and my brothers sort of wandered out. But things have changed now and we all came back to our place, of course I took the initiative to pay for the bigger expenses since I am earning more than enough. My mom and dad don't have to pay for anything and will just ask me to buy stuff for them occasionally, I once told them they don't even have to work if they feel like retiring. I don't see it as a burden and I never will. My parents have raised me well and it's just time I give all the pampering back to them. As for your case, if you see it as a responsibility that is not meant for you at this time, maybe you can start by letting your father feel that you have been trying your best to make your family's life better, but you also need his help. If there's something expensive my dad wanted me to get for him and I don't see it that necessary, I tell him I can pay for half of it,but he has to fill in for the rest. Sometimes, our folks won't take it that badly if we try to meet them half way.

i was in the same situation before when i had my first job, i answered my brother and sister's tuition fee in school and spend my salary for the foods of the family. don't be tired of this because blessings will pour like rain on you as days go by, just set a limit and save some for yourself.