What gives, GUYS? I need you to answer something for me =)
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
November 9, 2009 8:41am CST
I realize over and over that number one - I get hit on when I must be the biggest mess, like when I just left the gym or I'm SICK or I went out quickly to get something and didn't shower or get ready for my day first. Why is this?
To top it off, I realized this morning that when my husband gets in the mood (I am not complaining mind you), he doesn't seem to notice those little things either. I am the best thing in the world, whether I showered or not lol, whether I need to tweeze my eyebrows or find a bottle of lotion. 
This doesn't make any sense from a general standpoint. Men are so visual and men are definitely attracted by well... attractive things. So why the heck does it all come down when I know I am not attractive at that point in time? Do men actually find WEIRD things attractive and I didn't know? I'm sure I'll get answers from other women stating the same thing happens to them. I don't have a single woman friend who hasn't complained of this same thing - it has even happened to us WHILE WE WERE PREGNANT. Usually it doesn't end in a fist fight unless the guy oggles in front of your husband, which is good.
Tips? Reasons? Come on, let us know. I always thought men were simple creatures - meaning you made more sense than women. Am I right or am I wrong?
This doesn't make any sense from a general standpoint. Men are so visual and men are definitely attracted by well... attractive things. So why the heck does it all come down when I know I am not attractive at that point in time? Do men actually find WEIRD things attractive and I didn't know? I'm sure I'll get answers from other women stating the same thing happens to them. I don't have a single woman friend who hasn't complained of this same thing - it has even happened to us WHILE WE WERE PREGNANT. Usually it doesn't end in a fist fight unless the guy oggles in front of your husband, which is good.
Tips? Reasons? Come on, let us know. I always thought men were simple creatures - meaning you made more sense than women. Am I right or am I wrong?3 people like this
9 responses
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
11 Nov 09
My wife can't understand this about me either. I don't care if she needs to shower. Hell that is even better because I can get in there WITH her. LOL Women don't have to always look or smell their best to be sexy. A woman in gym clothes that is working out or jogging is a big turn on for me. I have even seen a few pregnant women that where sexy as hell. I don't know why. It is hard to explain these things sometime...
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
12 Nov 09
I don't really think it should matter WHY he is attracted to you at a given point in time like that. Even if you happen to be hot and sweaty from working outside all day, or whatever the case may be, just feel good about the fact that you caught his eye...
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
11 Nov 09
You're welcome to try explaining, even if it's hard lol. I do understand the shower thing. Don't think I haven't popped in there when my hubby is in the shower. That's why it's nice to have a double shower and WOULD be nice to have a double soaking tub lol.
@thokius (426)
• Austria
9 Nov 09
Hello mommyboo,
A very interesting topic indeed. I'll start off with my opinion (I'm male). I don't like it when a girl/women which is naturally beautiful puts on tons of make up or uses too much perfume. It is a possibility that others have the same ideas of what is beautiful and what is not. Or it good just be bad luck :p...
Another possibility is that when you aren't dressed too fancy people think of you as more "down to earth".
Cheers!
Thok
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Nov 09
I'm very casual anyway, I may dress up black tie every once in a blue moon lol. I am NOT someone who enjoys spending 2 hours on herself every morning before I leave the house. My wardrobe consists of jeans and shorts, workout clothing, flip flops, and Nikes. Everything I wear is kid friendly, washable, and stain resistant, I don't blow dry or flat iron my hair, if I wear makeup at all it takes me about 5 minutes and is designed to look like I'm not wearing any.
I have to tell you that if I'm sick and I went to the gym to run a couple miles and try to feel better, I can guarantee I don't look ready to strut on a pageant stage, that's for sure LOL! I guess I should just be flattered and go home, but it's usually a bit embarrassing when some stranger is going on about your legs and you feel like you might puke on his shoes. This actually happened in Walmart a few months ago. I didn't puke but I was LUCKY.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
11 Nov 09
In my opinion it has to do with the timing. If you have gone to great lengths to doll yourself up, all the makeup and did the hair thing what it tells a guy is that the very last thing you want to do is go mess it all up.
While you are right that men are visual creatures that is purely for enjoyment. What really turns them on is the prospect of getting his hands on you. If that possibility exists, or even seems to exist, you could have your hair in rollers, sweating from working out, or doing your just plain Jane thing and he would never notice let alone care.
All that work you do trying to make yourself beautiful is just for eye candy. Candy in the mouth is what men really want.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I don't really spend that much time 'getting pretty' so to speak, but I do have a certain bare minimum that I like being able to do. Number one - at least a shower! Number two - deodorant and a plop of gel in my hair. Number three, in general I can get away with using an eyelash curler and a quick lip stain. I don't think anybody would look at me and think 'she won't get her hands dirty' because I am the first one to pitch in, even with something messy. I'll help ya push your car out of the road, change a diaper, or whatever you need. I don't WANT to ruin my clothes or rip my nails off (I have real nails lol) but if the situation demanded it, I wouldn't hesitate to offer my assistance. 
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
23 Nov 09
i think its because you arent as confident and maybe these guys are scared of women with confidence.. i know i have the same thing happen to me and i just figure since i have a good self image that it can scare away some guys but when i am feeling or looking crappy i know i am and i prob act different and maybe they find that more approachable
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I am usually just as confident even if I feel like sh*t... lol. It's just a bummer that I feel that way because it tends to make me react 'not-so-nicely' to approaches by men. I don't want them to think I'm a mean person or anything but when you don't feel great, I'm not sure what else they are expecting!
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I think men have a greater "animal instinct" than women. It is that "instinct" that takes them over. Some of the others suggest men like more natural women and I tend to agree with that also. The instinct I think, is the most powerful factor though.
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@revellanotvanella (4033)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Im thinking some chemistry is at play here. You the whole "pheromones" thing--what they tried to sell on the market convincing that it would make men more attracted to the women. You know thats funny because when I was with my ex that was the one thing that I liked most about him--his smell! I saw them do a test on science channel where they had woman smell different t-shirts worn by men for a long time (so their slightly sweaty) and the woman did have a preference so I guess the same thing goes for men. You always hear about men thinking their woman look sexiest when their hot and sweaty.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Nov 09
I didn't consider the pheromone angle, I suppose maybe there's some truth to it. I have to say though that means if a man's sense of smell is drawing him in, it must make his eyesight worse temporarily lol.
I can think of one ex-boyfriend in particular that had a certain scent, and it didn't matter what laundry detergent he bought or what air fresheners he used in his apartment or what cologne he wore. I only remember it because I have never since smelled anybody or anything remotely like him - don't worry, it was good, and memorable obviously. I was 21 I think when I dated him so it's been YEARS. My hubby has his own scent too, and since I buy his deodorant, I can tell you it's not the deodorant.
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@Crestview (236)
• United States
14 Nov 09
With a stranger, they can be all deck out with makeup, but eventually they have to come off, and if that is a scary thought, then the attraction is momentary.
With natural look, you know what you have, if you are attracted to them then, you will be attracted to them in the morning, and sometimes, it's the personality, their demeanor and the other factors that make a woman attractive.
If someone would chase you with a baseball bat for 10 miles, you must have something they want.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
9 Nov 09
This happens all the time, but after speaking witha few guy friends.. they seem to like when we dress down, no make-up etc. It gives our naturl beauty time to shine and reveals who we really are instead of covering it up with superficial things.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
9 Nov 09
I do get that, but I'm talking about getting noticed at the absolute worst times, when I am honestly messy/sweaty, or I'm actually not feeling well and I'm SICK. I don't even necessarily think someone looks great and would consider complimenting them in such a state lol.
