Will you tell someone if you fall in love with him/her .
By Ruby722
@Ruby722 (796)
China
November 9, 2009 11:22pm CST
Will you tell someone if you fall in love with him/her But you know exactly your will not belong together in the end.
Here is the case recently one of my good friends fall in love with another guy.He is kind of perfect.Good looking ,Rich,and funny.But my friend she just a normal girl.She told me that her fall in love with him.But she is afraid of refuse so she asked me If she should tell this guy she love him? What should I do? Should i tell her give a try or not stupid that prince always like princess.We just stay away from him? Any suggestion will be appreciate!
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21 responses
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
10 Nov 09
I think life is too short to keep hiding your feelings. If it is really love, then go fo it. Tell your friend to tell the guy. This way the girl doesn't have to worry and think 'what if?' Maybe I am just too old, but believe me that if she doesn't it would just be one of her regrets in life.
If the guy does not react, or tries to avoid her, then your friend should realize that he was not the right guy afterall.
@owntuilp (422)
• China
10 Nov 09
i can fellow what u told, i would be dont hide what ur feel with someone especially the one u really love to.when i was a high school student,i dont have the brav to express the feel to the girl i deeply love in my heart.but ,one day i actually try my all energy and brave to write a letter to tell me all the truth.
@amyson (3498)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
well,i will advice your friend that she will first ask the guy if he feel something to her.saying i love you is not an easy to say.its difficult to be rejected by the guy he likes or dump her.i don't know how will she handle this situation so far so give it a try nothing wrong with that.although she is not that pretty who knows?everyone have the opportunity to fall in love in a glance.support your friend and always be on her side if you treasure your friendship.gudluck..everybody needs comfort,love and care.
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
10 Nov 09
For me I don't think people really know what love is and in all reality all they are talking about is lust. In your friends situation I don't really think she loves this guy. If she honestly loved them I think that they would have to be together for awhile and actually be in a position to see if they work romantically. Once that happens I think the chemistry can develop and if she loves him then she wouldn't be afraid to tell him. Now if they aren't really close by telling him that she loves him is just going to make her sound like a stalker freak.
@avnieuwkerk (81)
• Netherlands
10 Nov 09
Definatly tell someone if you are inlove with them. I think that this is the only way that you would ever know if there can be a future with that person or not. Otherwise you may pass the time by thinking whether or not you should have. There should be no need for regret, so I think that if you mention it whether it jepordizes the relationship or not.
@haryosasongko (92)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 09
Better to be friends first. Just do activities together, make this man feel comfortable with your friend. Communicating well is a key so that your friend is not awkward for the man she liked. And last, do not expect too much from him first. Just live it what it is. I hope my advice helps ...
@echostone542 (53)
• China
25 Nov 09
I did have the same situation before. when I was in the high school, I fell in love with a boy in my class, but I know he loves anther girl but not me. I keep it in my heart until the graduation of my university. we still be in touch with each other as friends all the time. after my graduation, I decide to go to a very far city to study for my master's degree, then I told him I love him, I know I would get no response, I just want to tell him. then I left, we have not seen each other from then.
@raj_ka (431)
• India
10 Nov 09
hi,
First of all your friend should confirm whether it is real love or just attraction as he is good looking,rich etc. Some people often have misunderstanding between love and attraction. Once she confirms that it is better to express her feelings and do not feel even if he rejects her. Simply hinding the feeling will make her depressed in life so its better to know the guys feelings.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I've been to such situation but in the end, I decided not to reveal my feelings to him. You see, the man involve is my close male buddy. I'd rather be an eternal friend to him than ruin my lifelong friendship with him. I am not ready to gamble on that. It is really hard for us girls to reveal our feelings that's why I am envious of those who can tell their feelings and have a good outcome of it. I know I am not lucky with it but each one of us in different situation. If ever your friend decided to reveal or not reveal her feelings, all I can say is good luck to her!
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 09
Well one thing you should keep in mind, a regret when you are trying something is nothing when you compares a regret when you didn't do anything.
So my suggestion is just tell it, never try anything will results 100% of nothing, if you try, maybe it's 50-50, your friend should be brave
If he refuse your friend, maybe she will find better man one day ... be strong girl! we are not weak!!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
I would tell him it is better to try than never, at least i let my feeling out and i do not care whatever he may interpret me than regret later having not to express those feeling if keep hidden it deeply hurt and would not release you from pain.
@deepamoorthy (239)
• India
10 Nov 09
your friend should tell him her love accepting is upto him.she should be ready to face both refusal and acceptance.if she never tells the guy her love one day
she may feel for it.more over it is not prince will love princess only true love
will overcome all this saying .beauty is not everything the love you give and have
for some one is important than beauty.so ask your friend to tell the guy.
@hym123 (13)
• China
10 Nov 09
You should tell your friend to tell him,because love is beautiful,no matter whom it was love itself is baautiful,and if she did not say it,perhaps miss out on opportunities,because you do not know whether the other party will respond to her,if he refused,the she can put her feelings start again.
@habbeysax (77)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Well... tell him is not a barrier but i will suggest she should make a wise way in telling him so that the guy won't take advantage of her.. Goodluck
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
10 Nov 09
Dear friend,
If I feel that the person to whom I going to tell is sure to give a positive reply then I would not hesitate to say my feeling of love. But if I feel that the person to whom I love may reject me then I may hesitate to express my love through words.
@coolsudan (313)
• India
10 Nov 09
i was in love with a girl but never got the courage to tell her that .we were both in the same class and we both were shy in talking to each other so i never got the courage to tell her my feeling s. but i regret that now . and i am planning to tel her that now . the only things is that if she says no i wont be able to love anyone else .so dont know when will i make my move :(
@shona264 (167)
• India
10 Nov 09
I think love is a very genuine feeling,and it should not be hidden.Doesn't matter whether the response is positive or negative,as its not necessary that the one whom you love should also love you.Once you reveal the feelings that you have for someone,you feel relaxed,and the rest is up to the other person how he responds.After all,love doesn't mean achieving.Even if the guy doesn't accept your friends proposal,she can still keep loving him.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Tell your friend to be honest to him and tell the guy what she really feels for there's no harm in trying you never knew unless you try. Just enjoy the moment each day for you never knew what will the future promise you.
@Jetleena (11)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I am a girl, and though I'm shy I don't believe that you should hide feelings that come from the heart... And I have told someone that I love them even though I know that nothing will ever come of it.
If she loves him and knows for sure(!) that he will not return her feelings, I believe that she should still tell him, because in a way she would be proving to herself that she would not let a moment like that pass her by in life when the opportunity arises again, later on in life.
So, I think that she should tell him, and they dicuss what they should do next. If it would be uncomfortable for them to continue being friends or take some time apart.
But thats just my thought :)