will you see another guy when you're in a relation with a nice man.
By LisaGuo
@LisaGuo (241)
China
November 10, 2009 2:58am CST
As the suject says,will you do this to such a man/wiman?
There's a guy asking A out for a coffee.They're not familiar with each other.The guy's meeting something bad,and he wants to talk with someone,not the friends.He seached A's contact information from the internet and asked her out,and would pay her.
A is looking for a part time job.It's a chance.But to see some single man,she feels criminal for her bf,who is really sweet and cares about her.
If you're A,what will you do?
3 responses
@victorywp (3524)
• United States
10 Nov 09
i don't think it is something criminal if A is just going to have a coffee with another guy. as you have said, that's her opportunity to get a part time job from the guy. 
however, in order to avoid any unwanted possibilities of being misunderstood by A's boyfriend, she should first tell her boyfriend before going. at least let the boyfriend know where she is going, who will she be meeting with, what is expected time being with the person, for which reasons, etc. 
this is important so that if anything wrong happens, the boyfriend will know where to find A. also, at least he knows what is going on & will not easily believe in any rumours about A going out with another guy. 
however, in order to avoid any unwanted possibilities of being misunderstood by A's boyfriend, she should first tell her boyfriend before going. at least let the boyfriend know where she is going, who will she be meeting with, what is expected time being with the person, for which reasons, etc.
this is important so that if anything wrong happens, the boyfriend will know where to find A. also, at least he knows what is going on & will not easily believe in any rumours about A going out with another guy. @LisaGuo (241)
• China
11 Nov 09
Hi Victory,your analysis is so wonderful,which I do agree with.But A's bf care about her too much,that's also the reason she doesn't let him know and see the guy secretly.But I think if she's serious about this relation,she should tell him in advance to avoid any unhappiness.
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@victorywp (3524)
• United States
11 Nov 09
yes she should tell him in advance. otherwise, i would think that she loves the part time job (money) more than her boyfriend. if i were her boyfriend, i would be sad for sure. 
@HansonFan (1653)
• United States
10 Nov 09
By the title of your discussion, I would have said no. If she is going out for coffee with him to possibly get a job or to be a listening ear for the guy, I don't consider that cheating or bad at all. As long as she lets her boyfriend know the situation and tells the guy that she is already seeing someone I see no problem with it.
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@lichee_china (506)
• China
10 Nov 09
NO,it's mean.I can't imagine I can do that.when you are in a relationship,fall in love with,you can't go out with another one.If I do that,my goddess will kill me!So,just go out with herself,and everything will be ok,if not,there will be a disaster.But,a friend of mine always go out with a girl,and send messages to another girl"hi,honey,I'm sorry for cancel",at last,the two were all depart from him.it prove that I'm right.
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