Can people of two different race be good couples?

India
November 10, 2009 6:38am CST
I have seen couples, both married and unmarried who belong to different race and culture. But do you think they can be happy or without problems in their relationship? Sometimes many problems due to different language or culture or custom may get arisen. But whats your opinion in this?
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34 responses
• United States
10 Nov 09
Love transcend age, race, class and culture. Love is about passion,feeling and affection. Love starts as an attraction to another. If the love is natural they would definetly endup loving eachother till eternity.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Love conquers all if you love each other I think cultural differences and language barrier would not be a problem. I think the common problem to a couple with different race is cultural differences. It is hard to force your beliefs to other beliefs. I think respect and understanding is the key so the marriage would last.
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Nothing is impossible with love Of course problems may arise but that's just normal in any relationship. Respect in one another is important and of course if you're responsible enough you won't marry if you do not know what consequences you'll have to face head on. Give and take is also a great factor when it comes to this kind of relationships.
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@mansha (6298)
• India
11 Nov 09
Its never the race religion or custom, its your attitude towards each other that matters. Any relationship requires respect and adjustment, when its lacking in that problems arise even if other things are same. You need to be emotionally secure in yourself to have a healthy and beautiful relationship.
@Lucky09 (1763)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
i really agree with you mansha no matter what differences we have if we know how to adjust and bridge the gap then there will be no much problem except for those fights/misunderstandings normal for every couple
@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
10 Nov 09
There can be a problem but if you really love your partner you can overdue any circumstances and not just looking for any excuses, actually without you knowing even if you couple or get married with your own race problem still appear, because the problem doesnt appear itself, we are the one who create it, as a couple you had to be tolerate, understanding, loving and caring so it doesnt even matter if they are in different race
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@sachii315 (488)
• Japan
6 Dec 09
Language and culture can sometimes be the barrier between a relationship. It could be hard when there is no specific language which both person can use to communicate. In my opinion there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, problems could pop out even if you tried harder avoiding it. But when the couple understand and respect each of their differences thus bridging the gap between them could be easier. Furthermore, love conquers all.
• United States
11 Nov 09
People do not need to look alike, but thinking alike always helps. It depends on the couple. I have seen many couples work out, and break up.
• India
11 Nov 09
Problems are there in each and every relationship coz no two individuals are the same. We have problems even with our own parents and siblings so its but natural that couples will have their problems. What is far more important is how strong is their will to be with each other and compromise and sacrifice for each other. in such cases, religion, race, nationality all these things don’t matter.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Nov 09
My husband and I come from different cultures and it works for us because we have embraced our differences and made an attempt to learn from each other instead of trying to change the one another and I can honestly say that is has enriched our lives instead of causing conflict. Having said that I was in a relationship many years ago where cultural differences broke us up. I think it depends on the people, if there is a will to make it work there will always be a way.
• United States
11 Nov 09
I think maybe it depends a lot on the people, and the cultures they are from, and how different they are. I come from a culture where I really don't think people are bothered by interracial relationships anymore, unless it is an individual family which might hold those views, but I know there are cultures where it is much less acceptable and so a couple would also have all the social pressures of peoples opinion around them. I am English and my husband is American, and we live in America. You may think this is not too much of a difference, since they appear to be similar cultures, with (supposedly!) the same language (well, here in New England we have a whole other language anyway!!) but England and America are actually VERY different cultures, with very different ways of thinking and values, social and government set up, all sorts of things you wouldn't even think of. Luckily my husband and I have our faith in common, so really the foundational values of our lives are very similar, and give a kind of a basis to work out the other stuff! But it is hard, even for a couple like us who are not seen as 'different cultures' from outside, really. If I had answered this discussion 6 years ago I would have said it didn't matter. Now I would say do not underestimate the power of the culture which made you who you are - it is more a part of you than you know. I know now that moving here, I will never be American, I will always inherently be thoroughly British. But thats ok, I get to live in a great country while coming from myown great country - best of both worlds! If you are entering into this sort of relationship, especially if you will be moving countries, then that can be a great thing, but do your research on the differences (obviously there are some things you can't predict!) and do not underestimate how hard it is. Get support.
@ryheanne (222)
• South Korea
11 Nov 09
Yes it is possible, my husband and I has different race. We are happy together but of course like normal couple there is misunderstanding.
• India
11 Nov 09
Really a good discussion actually i myself have a girl from different race and different language for us language is not a problem as we both known english and as for as culture we wont poke our nose in it we follow both the culture and and value caste and other factors we don't care much so above all point clearly states that for a good relationship & love nothing matters...
• India
11 Nov 09
I think ...good couples that depends only on the individuals and moreover it does not depend upon the race or culture may be if it has the effect itz only limited to some 0.1% or so. if the person is good he do understand the difficulties and chooses to live away from those ...i hope this is right ..
@patmc8 (10)
11 Nov 09
That's a big yes! I know a lot of people who got married amidst different races. It's all about their love for each other. Language is not a problem, as long as they have their own way of communication with each other :)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 09
Love is not about color or race, it's all about how to understanding your mate. good luck
• United States
10 Nov 09
It can be a problem, but every relationship has problems. As long as you both know how to compromise and understand, you can do it. I have seen many in multiracial relationships that are very happy.
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
11 Nov 09
I believe that for any marriage to work, both parties have to decide that they want it to work meaning that whatever differnces they have can be used as a source of strength to them if they know how to use it. if people know how to overcome thier differences, they can work things out very well. I have met a couple where the man is black and the woman is German and have been married for over 30 years and they respect each others culture and can speak both english and German. I dont think culture, language, and culture differences can destroy a marriage unless the couple allows it to.
@solared (1207)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Yes as long as they have basic beliefs, religion, morality, yes, the only problems they have in encounter is culture shock from each others families, and how others view them, but thats no reason why it can't work.
@jamzy19 (72)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I think there will be a problem due to culture differences but if couple learns how to adapt to it, then it shouldn't be an issue. br, jamzy
@IceTroll (77)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Yeah its gonna be very versatile. It would be fun for the kid LOL. Its like you have to options.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Maybe its so hard for you to think about it. But as far as I have observed within my family where my mom's siblings they are 12 having Uncles in different nationality doesn't seem to bother us for as long as you are willing to accept & understand their culture maybe its not that difficult to build a relationship strong. Its only up to the couples up to what level they are willing to open up themselves & accept whatever culture their spouses have.