How did you deal with unfriendly neighbors?

Make the opposite of all the unfriendly gestures he have. If he is not smiling, then smile at him more often, if he is rude then talk the sweetest thing possible to him. It seems that you already develop a small friendship thing by the way you greet him every time you pass by his house. Maybe its time to move closer to him, meaning the next time you would pass-by his house, instead to just simply greeting him "good morning", why not stop and spend a little talk. Maybe for about a minute or two. Then as days pas, you spend more time talking to him. Then maybe, by that time he will accept your friendship.

Hi laydee I have always ended my discussions and responses with keep smiling. You have proven that it does work after some time of doing it. Im glad that your neighbor is able to see that you are not out to hurt him and can return a good jesture back to you. Good deal my friend. Right now where I have moved I only have the one neighbor across the road. They are an older couple. Whenever Im leaving and he is outside I will wave and he always return the wave. I have had neighbors in the past that was rude and I did as you have and they had come around too. Have a great day and keep smiling.

Hi, Laydee! There was a mean-spirited, foul-mouthed old woman living down the block. Eventually, all the neighbors got together and offered to buy the house if she would just move!

Unfriendly neighbors get ignored. There is one that lives up the street that deliberately holds up the bus driver with conversation when my girls are waiting for her. I notice that when the weather is very bad he makes his conversations much longer. I think he does this intentionally and I don't know what his problem is. Hes either a racist and thinks its funny for little white girls to stand in the cold or he hates females. Good thing we've got new jackets and umbrella I'd like to sock him in the nose.

Build a high fence or a grow some high shrubery, just ignore them, can't please everyone.

I had experienced two types of bad neighbors. once I had an "unfriendly" neighbor but never did anything aggressive or anything to bother us if we did not annoy him first, so I avoided them and do give a smile or a wave when passing by. The second time, was after we bought a small house (when the baby arrived, and our next door neighbor was just so bad, he and his son would not only trespass to lurk in the window, but also take things without asking, throw stones at my dog, pushed my son into the gutter and finally they stole our ladder and water hose when we left them outside, once, during aour trip on a holiday. Well, the others were constantly fighting him, but he doesn't give a care. So when I felt that the house was becoming too small, I decided not to renovate it but to move to a better location. And I did some thorough asking around and investigating the area at night, before deciding to buy it.

I had this neighbor who was a real A$$hole. He worked for the Sheriff's department, and he thought that made him a god. However, I threatened to kill him one night, and after that, he was the nicest guy you would ever want to meet LOL

i just ignore them. i am too busy with my own life to care about other people's problems.

I usually try to avoid unfriendly people, but agree that it is a good gesture to be civil. That's great that you begin initiating a friendship with him. Most people would just ignore him or be rude. More people should act as you did.

Nothing bad would come from a smile,yeah,a smile go a long way.Be friendship,he will friendly in return.If there is nothing we can do to meliorate our relationship,just let the neighbors alone,have a nice day,friend.

The only way to deal with someone who is hostile is to ignore them. These kind of people thrive on attention, they love it when the can get under your skin. Ignore the person unless it becomes physical, only then I would suggest to get the police involved.

one should only get bad in one's mind when any other person does bad to you even if he is not friendly to you if i would do good to him he will do the same prolonged goodness never fails but it sometimes harms own wishes so one should never back down in taking serious measures against the person who hurt you

Smile is good, share something we have to all the neighboor is good too. It won't change your neighboor immediately, but it will in time. If they get too annoying, a friendly complain should make them understand eventually.

its great that your neighbor's finally opening up. It's good that I havent had a bad neighbor ever since but I must say there was this instance when it got really irritating because the occupants residing at the top of our condo unit became so gross and untidy with their belongings. Almost every week, I would see in our veranda some trash from them. What I did is, I just called our lobby guard and reported the case. I coursed it through the condo management because they are in the position to act on this case.

In my case, we are the ones tagged as unfriendly by my neighbors. When they moved in, we were gracious and even chatted with them. But all these changed when they started encroaching our driveway by bringing in their jeepneys. Now, we seldom speak or even acknowledge them because they are really obnoxious. What's worse, we are being ganged upon by other neighbors who seem to relish the idea that we are being irritated by the noise of the jeeps, plus the pollution from these smoke belchers. Your discussion has come at a very timely manner because I have just suggested to my mother that we spend the Christmas holiday away from home. I don't want to stick out like a sore thumb come Christmas where they are all drinking and merry making in the streets while we are closed in inside the house.

If I have that kind of neighbor. I think it is not bad being that people in the community. But to deal with it. Am just always show good manner and courteous with them so that someday they will be my friend...have a nice day!

yeah its very difficult to handle that type odf persons who are very rude in nature on handling this type of person we must give them a smile and then try to find what they want

I was.. thinking like you before, but what if this person (and it is a she in my case) does something to you that is totally unjustified. I do not mean something really bad, but little things that still affect your daily life. Sha hates me having a dog. My dog is a golden retriever. It never bothers anyone, does not bark or litter near any house int he area. When I take him for a walk I understand by the way she stares that she hates it. I do not know why. I did not mind for this but lately I hae been hearing thigs from other neighbours. She is trying to convince everyone that the dog is bad and to be careful of the dog. She is saying things to everyone, complains about everything, telling people various lies and she is in fact very annoying. So even though I did not want to I confronted her one day and tried to ask her why she is doing what she is doing. Instead of talking with me she started shouting about irrelevant things so loud wanting everyone to here that something is going on. It was bad. I responded very anglily myself and she did not expect that. she run home and it has been a month now. I never see her. When I am at the balcony she locks herself inside. She does her garden during very early hours so that I do not by accident fidn her outside and... well that was it. The neighbourhood is so quiet now.

if i have this type of neighbours.. i just simply invite them and offer a tea. and then discuss the problems which has arised due to his angry in calm manner. and also explain the health problem which can occur in near future due to his agressive angry behaviour. thats all.

well i too wud have done the same...bcos 1st we have to become good.