Online friends...can be real friends...do you agree?
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
November 10, 2009 10:16am CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
Have you ever met online friends in real life?I had an indian family friend for more than 2 years now,and we were becoming good and close friends.I met them thru other social site...thanks for the internet(really i am so thankful)
I did visited them on their home for many times already...and last Sunday,for the very first time,they come to greet me on my birthday...yes...and their daughter had great time having fun with us...
And,we are planning again for a party...more fun and games...that will be to follow(will let you know folks when it happens)
Have you ever met any online friends?...from your country(same race,countrymen)
Or,any other races?...
Do share your experiences and fun.
And do you believe that online friends can be real true friends too?
Thanks for your comments and have a great day always everyone
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32 responses
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Nov 09
hi jaiho. i have never met an online friend personally. but i have this BOF (best online friend) of mine that i really really want to meet in person. she is also a member here who incidentally is the one who referred me here. she's from tagaytay and i know she now lives in pasay.
i tried to organize a meeting with cebu mylotters before, but it never push through.
i believe, online friends can be real friends. i have this another mylot member who became so closed to my family now. we have constantly communicating in the discussions, private messages and even through our personal emails. i found her a very dear friend. she tries to extend her hands to us by helping our son gets the sleep test he needed to treat his sleeping problem. though we are from different parts of the world, i am hopeful, someday, we are going to meet personally.
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@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
yeah, i remember that interest where you were using an interest to compile users that are living in cebu. but am afraid it didn't work since others are busy with their own set of mylotting. for now, i haven't really met some one online since I actually have a problem trusting others. but it's nice to have friends online
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Hello neil,
I can remember about your discussion too,i am just a newbie here in mylot when i bump into your topic and i remember it was one reason why i tried to track your discussion and we become friends too.
It is a real good feeling to met online friends in real life.
Our group "ORKUTTIAN PHILIPPINES" started last year of Summer 2008,it started with adding each other as friends from that particular site "ORKUT" it is well known as an Indian site,like FRIENDSTER where most members were Filipino.
So,seeing a filipina makes us grateful,and that is how it all started.
We did not plan to form this group,when i met "Honey"(Russiel)and May last October 19,2209,the meetings become often and one by one we had the chance of meeting in person,followed by Loren(Nov.7,2008)
Then,we organized a X-mas party in my house...and that was the first time that we meet some other friends from Orkut in person.
Ella all the way from TACLOBAN CITY(she really flies to join us)
Lala who travels 13 hours all the way from Cagayan valley.
The effort made by those friends were priceless...
And,last May 2009,we formally announced the FIRST ANNIVERSARY OF ORKUTTIAN PHILIPPINES...that was held at "QUEZON MEMORIAL CIRCLE"...
The even was even made greater by the homecoming of one filipina Orkuttians from Taiwan.
Hopefully,another homecoming for Marie this coming December...hoping to see her son in person,she's coming from Singapore.
Uhmnn...i was carried by my emotion whew!!!!
And this is our story...my indian family friend i also met them thru that Orkut site.(that's another story to tell hahaha)
Your avatar looks cute dear
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
nyayy..so much carried away i had few typo errors
*event...not even,and seeing Marie *soon..not son..gosh she's still very much single(ahahaha)
Uhmnn...one more thing...me and ella were the only married ones in the group,the rest were all singles and very much available...
@Letran brother,
Well,i am a very transparent person,what you get is what you see...that's why me and my internet friends get along well,thu they are single and i am married.
Try to make online friends be a real friends in person,you will fully understand what i mean..it's one good feeling of happiness that no words can define the real meaning.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
It is really amazing dear.
Asking face to face with an internet friend in real life is really an amazing feeling.
See how you use to talk on the net...and then,the next time is..talking face to face...woooo,..how wonderful it is.
you will get to know the feeling when you met one in real life
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Hello adhyz,
That's good my friend,but you will know what more happiness it would be when you will met them personally.
Hope you will met them soon...
Thanks for your response and have a great time always
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Nov 09
Hi jaiho!
I have not had any opportunity to meet any on-line friend from mylot, though I would like to meet all of them. They all are very good friends and I am hoping they will be same in real life. Though when we communicate with on-line friends, there are certain limitation, but they could be as good as real life friends. It is good to know that you had an opportunity to meet of your friends and her/his family. Hope you would have felt much delighted and excited to see them.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
13 Nov 09
I can understand your feelings, when you would have seen your on line friend in person. It would have been a dream come true for you.
May your wishes about me come out true.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello friend,
Seeing and meeting online friends in real life is really exciting and fun.
Wonderful feeling...it is like a dream come true.
It feels like,yesterday we are talking on net,then,the next day,we talk in person...feeling and touching each other...as,asking ourself..am i dreaming?
was this really true?...
It is really great to have met internet friends in person,especially when they are from other race and country.
I wish someday you will be able to meet some internet friends too.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
11 Nov 09
Hi jaiho,
How are you? Hope you are doing well.
Why not dear, they are the real people and they can become good friends. I believe that if a person is good in his real life he/she will be good in the internet world too. There are so many bad incidents/cheating happens in the net but those people must be cheaters in real life too. I have so many good friends in internet and I got them from mylot. I have never met any internet friend in real life but it is also possible in future.
I am happy to know about your good friends from India. You are also so good dear friend. Have a nice day.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
hello sister Sree,
nice to see you again dear. i miss you here .
You are right my dear,that is why i took the chance of meeting online friends in real life..to see who's real ones and who were not.
It is hard to determine who are cheaters just by talking to them thru online.
And i am so lucky to have the real ones.
Yah,my indian friends are good people,they even trusted me their only daughter.
Sunny chettan and sister Ajitha left their daughter Shalu to stay with us coz,the couple had some meeting to attend.
That was a great feeling to know that they trusted me that much,considering that,that was the first time they come to my house,thu i been to their house several times already.
how i wish to see you in person too dear sister
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
chechi,
Yeah,they're from Kerala...really.
They even gifted me the Kerala saree my daughter is wearing in my photos.
Nanni for being a friend and sister to me too,sraddikkuka chechi
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
10 Nov 09
I can honestly say that my 2 really good friends I have met through the internet. I met one back in the day when I was like 13 and internet was first coming out and I had AOL and I met this guy Mario who I still kind of think is my soul mate and we are friends up to this day. I can talk to him about anything and he gets me and I get him and I love him for that. Last year when I broke up with my ex, I had no one so I turned to the internet to look for people in my area and I found one that ended up sticking and he is with me all the time.
Now that I am writing this I think internet friends are sometimes better because in the beginning you can express yourself more and be real with that person. There is no making yourself look better or anything like that to show off to someone because all your doing is typing. That is another reason why I like Mylot because I can express myself the way I feel. If I told my friends some of the stuff I said on here they wouldn't understand..
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
10 Nov 09
Hello Flirtykumquat,
I know what you mean dear,and i agree with you.
It is better to talk with someone online..i mean..it is easier to express how we really feel with someone online.
I believed in that too my friend.
Becoz,i felt that,i can talk and express what's on my mind and in my heart with someone online ,coz,at the back of my mind...he/she doesn't know me personally,so,i can say everything...yes..as in everything...and later found that...you are becoming close,yah...becoz,your friendship started with honesty.
Unlike personal friends...sometimes we can't say what we wanted to say becoz we are afraid ..what if we will hurt them..what if,they won't understand us..those were some of the fears with personal friends.
Unlike with online friends...
Thanks for your response and have a great day always and have fun here in mylot dear
@Josonance (8)
• China
12 Nov 09
Hello,friends.I quite agree with that online friends conld be real friends.According to my exprience,I have made many friends online,and some of them have become my best real friends.What is more,we often visit on each other.Friends are not care when and how you made.As long as we have a common language.I have a good friend who I made on line.We often get together to chat our cpmmon goal and our future.And we progress very quickly.So I believe that online friends can be real ture friends.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hello friend,
Same situation with me dear,we also visited each other when we had time and often held a party when one celebrates her b-day.
This coming December we are planning for a get together party to welcome one friend who will be visiting our country after working abroad.
Have fun with your net friends and make more friends.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
11 Nov 09
Hi,
Yes i have met an online friend in real and tell u what it was a lovely experiance. He is from italy and he was on a visit to India and he came all the way from his hotel to just meet me ( his hotel was quite far from where i live ).
We had supper together and had a good conversation and knew a lil more about each other. He is a social worker so i like him a lot. I like to do social work too and we have lots in common. It was very nice to meet really.
Hope u will enjoy meeting nice people too only thing is you have to be a lil careful. I reckon in yr first few meetings dont go alone, go along with some one u know already.
Cheers,
Tutul
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello tutul,
That is really a great experience,meeting online friends in real life.
Well,i don't met guys,i only had girlfriends...our group were consists of all girls,so,i don't feel scared or i never feel any danger meeting them.
Good to know that you also had a good friend overseas and you happen to met in person.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@murderistic (2278)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I met my first boyfriend through the internet... we met in real life after talking for about 8 months online. It worked for a while but we were so young... it was bound not to last. I don't really talk to him anymore because he broke my heart and it took me a long time to get over him. Now I think he's pathetic.
As for friends, I have plenty of stories! One girl was reading an online journal of mine. She went to my school, and one day she saw me and yelled out "I read your Xanga!!" I didn't know who she was then, but we were close ever since. Another friend of mine I talked to online and eventually over the phone for a few years... on a roadtrip I stopped by his hometown to meet him for dinner. We still talk every now and then.
But I have to warn you, you really can't trust everyone online. I was friends with this girl online for a few years and later I found out that she was impersonating other people, including some of my other online friends, on social networking sites. She lied to me about her name and sent me pictures of someone eles, saying it was her. And of course there are a lot of creepos looking online for naive people to meet them.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello murderistic,
You are right,some are real some are frauds.
It is just a matter of of trusting easily.
I don't easily trust people for few acquaintance...and,with my group(net friends)we trusted each other becoz we personally know each other so well now.
Real names,addresses,and we even been to each houses and met their family and relatives...and also their companies where they work...
And i am so glad to have found them(internet friends)they are really nice and good people...i can't ask for more.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@semispoiledgurl (176)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Yes, I do agree in fact I have lots of online friends that I've already met in real life. I usually found them through forums and when someone suggested for a meet-up or an event to attend, I'd make sure I'll go so that I could meet them. Online friends can be real friends because we don't only talk through message boards but also through chats or texts or sometimes for a very small meet-up that only consists of 1-3 persons.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello friend,
Our group started with simple meet-ups also,and we never thought it could lead us into deeper relationship.
We are like true sisters now...we share lot of things...emotions and enjoy each company so much.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@gunjanpri (603)
• India
11 Nov 09
Thanks for recognizing Indians' hospitality. They are really good and love to carry their entire globe is a family" motto in their lives wherever they go.
Friends on internet can also be good friends in real life, but we always fear of fake identities. I saw one of my friend in India falling in love with an NRI- non resident India from USA and when she went to meet him in US to get married, as he had promised, my friend found a 56 year old fraud playing with her emotions by lying.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello friend,
My first net friend is an Indian,and we we were friends for more than 4 years now,i just wish we will be given chance to met in person too.
Your friends story was really sad and scary...she's not the first and only person being cheated by cheater on the net.
We need to be careful ...lot of bad people are also using the net to cheat.
Thanks for your response and sharing your friends experience.
Have a great day always friend
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
11 Nov 09
Friends are friends! It shouldn't matter if you make friends on line or off line. You can have a real friendship. All you need is the commitment.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hello sender,
You are absolutely right,it doesn't matter if they are online or offline friends.
The true essence of friendship is what matters most.
How true we are to our friends and how we value the friendship we are making with them.
We can say we had hundreds and thousands of friends,but...who among them are real and who were just a common friend ...a friend for few acquaintances but never been close to each other.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@vasudevan8880 (82)
• India
12 Nov 09
The important role our pets play in our lives and how they bring so much joy, love and happiness into our everyday lives. However, we should never underestimate the power of friendships in helping us embrace a healthier way of living. the wonderful thing is there is always opportunity to make new friends along the way. I have reconnected with quite a number of my high school and college classmates whom i had lost contact many years earlier and WOW, am i having the time of my life. that is exactly what so many of my spark friends are they are my social network.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hello friend,
This internet really help us to reconnect with friends,long lost friends and classmates.
I also had found some of my previous and long lost classmates thru social sites where we will be able to search friends.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@TickleMeBreathless (590)
• United States
11 Nov 09
I believe so. I have a few really close online friends, and I can say they are as close as some of my real-life friends. It can be a lot easier to talk to online friends, because there usually aren't other distractions. Plus you can focus more on conversation, where as in real life you go out to do things, so you're busy shopping or seeing a movie, or whatever else you choose to do.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hello friend,
Yah,sometimes i find it easier to talk with online friends than friends in real.
I mean,when talking with friends face to face...becoz,when we talk with them in person,sometimes they misunderstood us.
Unlike with online friends,we can say what we want...and tell all our feelings and emotions without restrictions.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@56029622 (7)
• China
11 Nov 09
Hello,I agree with your point of view,on-line can also know a lot of good friends in my life there are many friends in the online knowledge,and sometimes we will talk very happy.But the internet sometimes have bad intentions of people,so sometimeshave to be careful.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
hello friend,
Internet people just like real people around us...there's always two sets..of bad and good ones.
And most bad people on the net were just using the net to cheat and make frauds...that is their intentions.
While good people also were searching for good relationship...friendship and even marriage relations.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@miiszheiress (140)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
I do agree that online friends can be your real friends and that is based on my own experience although I may not have the chance to meet all of them personally but then we do make sure that once we are in need we are always on their side.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Hello friend,
That's good to know that many mylotters were able to see online friends in person.
I also haven't got the chance to meet everyone in person(online friends)
And i wish to see them all in person and have a good time like i had with some online friends that i was able to see/talk/touch in person.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
hello sis, good for you. sadly for me, i haven't truly met anyone personally thought online. but am not counting on it since i prefer to remain anonymous since i am more comfortable to talk and meet people online. i remember that i was supposed to meet some one off line through text message, well she was my text mate but we didn't meet and it was my birthday then. so hard, but it's okay, i am having fun now than ever before here...congratulations
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Hello my brother,
Uhmn,,i guess you had a bad experience meeting online friends in person.
Well,it is worth trying for,i never ever realized that my online friends will become one of my closest friends and not just close,but like real sisters we are to each other now.
Wish to see you in person too...would you mind?(ahaha)
@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
11 Nov 09
Hello, Jaiho, I do agree with you that online friend can be real friend. Even lots of couples knew each other from internet, why can't people be real friend through internet?
I have a on line friend and we met several times as well. She is my countrymen,we keep the relationship till now... I think sincerity and common interest makes people become real friends...
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Hello karen,
That's true my dear,the sincerity and common interests were surely makes real friends from online friends.
that is what had happened to me and my internet friends.
Seeing the same interests and being true and honest to each other makes our group become stronger and more close to each other.
Wish to see you someday too...
@LordOzz (204)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Yes i agree. well i believe that there is no bounderies when finding someone to become friend. I have met someone in a site and he became my friends from that day. we are usually together in a site where ever it is. we are we connected to YM and sometimes talk in it. well i guess friends in the net are also real so what is the difference.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
hello Lordozz,
There is no difference between online friends and real ones(personal friends)
But,it is a good feeling to met online friends in real life too.
You know the happiness of seeing someone that you had used to talk thru internet and seeing them in person where we can touch them..and feel that they are real..and not just inside our computers.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Nov 09
Hello adiems,
yes,1000 friends are better than 1 enemy.
It is better to make friends then have enemy.
And i am so lucky to have found some of those 1000 persons..maybe some friends are to follow.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always
@niuniu1 (166)
• China
11 Nov 09
sure,i agree with you,online freinds can become real true friends,we can learn one's character on net as well,so we become like-minded friends,i have a online friend,we had been friends for nearly four years,we never meet other though,i believe we can become real friends if we have chance to meet.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
Hello friend,
I also had long net friend for more more than 4 years now.
He is the first net friend i met thru online,we also haven't meet in person,but we were close to each other,that i am sure we will be good friends when given chance to met in person too.
Thanks for your response and have a great day always