men and weight loss

The main reason why I am or certainly was obsessed with my weight was because I was badly bullied at school and it has affected me throughout most of my life, I could never diet, I would try, binge and put more on that I started with, I was forever on diets and forever weighing myself, nothing worked and it would get me down. I joined the gym and lost 3 stone trouble is it gets addictive! I went from a waist size of 38 to a trim '32 which I am very proud of. Although I don't weigh myself any more I judge my clothes if they fit well, however I am always at the gym hoping to lose a bit more and I am so worried about being fat again. Actually I found it comforting that I am not the only guy out there who does indeed obsess about his weight, but I am sure your partner isn't half as bad as me!!!

No, they don't because most men do not have the problems that women have losing weight. Everyone is different and alot of people are not able to be supportive. They just don't have it in them. So you don't bother helping or being supportive to your friend because he wasn't to you? Real nice.

U know men are very self centered. Nuff' said.

I think women tend to get more obsessed with it for whatever reason..But it does happen (as you know from first-hand experience) - that men get diet-obsessed. More than that, though, I usually see men who get obsessed with WORKING OUT rather than their food intake. *shrugs*

Yes. I have this problem. There was a time when I fit into a small size zero and my family didn't really make a big deal about it, encouragingly. But what I find is that I didn't mention it to them in a positive manner, explaining to them, that I appreciated myself. If you would have mentioned to your husband that you were so happy you lost weight, just like he's doing now, you would have gotten the attention. It is hard to reconcile with a past. But what can you do today to help? You can try standing up for yourself now. Telling him your feelings. You're probably tired of it, but wish he'd see things your way. Wish he'd comment on you. If you would have given him attention when you lost weight, he would have treated you accordingly.

I think men and women get obsessed up to the same level when it comes to lose weight. Some people want results immediately, and when it comes to lose weight, it's not that easy, so it can turn into an obsession.

hi weasel, just let him enjoy his weight loss and if he continues to ignore your positive affirmation about his weight loss development so be it-- as long as he is consistently complying with his activity/weight loss program.