broken heart

Are you married? if not I don't see how you could effect his credit rating. Seems like to me this guy is just making up excuses to get rid of you, and make you feel bad put the blame on you, so you won't see him as the dog he really is, he most likely is cheating, you should call him out for what he is, so you get your closure and realize your not at fault.

A true test of your relationship is when it is under strain and when you are angry with your partner. I don't see why you take his abuse. I would say leave him. Even when you're under financial or emotional stress, I don't think it justifies saying mean things to the person you say that you love. He is emotionally abusive to you by saying cruel things. When things get tough, you're supposed to work together and not work against eachother. If he makes you feel like you ruined his life, I suggest that you leave the guy. Love yourself. Don't give all the love you have to him. Never love a man more than you love yourself.

After seven years and that is what he had to say to you. I think he is inmature and had these problems before you came along. Since you are not paying his way completely he is not happy so I would let him go. You deserve better and you don't need a man talking to you like that. I know its hard for you to hear this because you are still in love with him. Please remember if he really loved you he wouldn't be talking to you like that and he would be taking care of the bills that he needs to take care of. He has not a bit of respect for you and you really need to let him go before he starts to physically abuse you. Right now its mental abuse. You can do so much better for yourself. Good luck to you and stay strong.

Wow.. You must be really tough to hear all those forsaking things he said. Do you realize where this is going? From my own judgment I can see that he grew tired of doing his responsibility as the man of the house, and now he is blaming you for his failure in doing so. Blaming you for everything is really very unfair on your part. Did his actions never made you think that maybe he has fallen out of love? I would think so. A man would never do such heart-breaking actions if he really loves his partner that much. But then again, are you also doing your best in the relationship? I don't know your current setup (are you married?) but what I am sure of is that you have a serious problem, and problems like this when never willingly attended by both partners are doomed to end a relationship. You only have two options: let him go or let him stay. Think..think..think..

In China, there is an old saying: poor couples had everything in sorrow. It is because you had to cauculating every dime to keep the balance. Now, the economic crisis had make us suffered a lot in our earnings,and quarrels had been arises by it. In my opinion, if a man couldnot understand your just let hin go, it is his lose as a the woman who love him most was leave, for you, you just lose a man, a normal man in your life. An saying in China also:A person who love you won't let you cry. Best wishes.

a broken heart cannot be fixed. only time can tell whether you've moved on or are you still stuck by the moment when time still has you and your ex was still happy. in primitive years, the woman has to adjust to the mans needs and wants but i guess in the modern days such as now, there is no such. bothe male and female predominates the whole species fairly, nobody has to be on top and stay down low. You have to stand up! fight to what you know is right, don't let any fool shove your pride and dignity away, try to save some for yourself, it doesnt matter if you win or lose as long as you know that you have fought for your right.

Please don't cry, sometimes, people say things in anger and men are men, they have inflated egos and just know where to hurt. I have been through the same thing with my hubby. He accused me of ruining his life, saying he wanted a simple life, I said what luxury can he spot in the house, he says he meant no kids,no curtains, no beds just mattresses and no show pieces (which I have bought or made from recycled things). It had hurt me so much. We had fought over me not going for abortion of my second one.It had hurt me so much, and still I am trying to cope up with the hurt and trying to forgive and forget but so far it has ruined our relationship real bad but I feel each day is a new day so I just keep hoping that some day,he will be able to see my point too. I started working too but still its not enough to appease him , but it does give me satisfaction of doing something worth while and keeps my self confidence intact, I should say sanity intact. DO the job for yourself not for him, and keep trying. Once you are financially independent you will feel better.

I think he's just being unfair. I think he's making these things up because he wants to leave but can't. I sure am sad for you, but you know what, I would ask him what I did that made him happy, and if he doesn't see anything that is worth staying, then I'd let him go. No one deserves to be nagged like that. No one is completely at fault in everything that is wrong. It's not like you were lazy in bed all those 7 years, you have had your share in working hard. I'd say, he's just making some excuse to end the relationship. But don't decide for him. Ask him directly if he still loves you or sees your relationship as something worth it. If not, by all means, let him go.

A true test of your relationship is when it is under strain and when you are angry with your partner. I don't see why you take his abuse. I would say leave him. Even when you're under financial or emotional stress, I don't think it justifies saying mean things to the person you say that you love. He is emotionally abusive to you by saying cruel things. When things get tough, you're supposed to work together and not work against eachother. If he makes you feel like you ruined his life, I suggest that you leave the guy. Love yourself. Don't give all the love you have to him. Never love a man more than you love yourself.

let him go. if he is willing to put the blame on you then he is not mature enough to face the facts. instead of working through it he is pointing fingers. it is ridiculous. i say leave him. and give it time. seven years isnt something to throw away. if you leave him maybe he will realize what he has done.

once a man really falls in love with a girl,i think he will do all his heart to her.when i was a college student,i fell in love with my classmate.at that time we have not ecnnomic questions.after we finished our study,we would face the economic problems.we must ear more money and could not get money from my parents.economic problems has been the reason for us quarrel,comity between hot problem.

god that is sad and annoying both..for all the time u spent with him he seems tired of u..that is sooo wrong because i heard that relations grow stonger with every moment spent..and i think u should try and talk it out from him..maybe he has this behavior because of all that stress and trust me,stress do ruin relations..GOOD LUCK !!

Get away, he's abusive. It's clear that is an abusive relationship, find a safe way to get rid of him and do it. Look up online for resources, but you are into an abusive relationship, the sooner you realize it and the sooner you'll set free.

In a relationship, you both need to learn from each other. You both should tell your problem to each other and solve it together before it getting worst. You cannot say it is you fault that his life screwed up. In my opinion, he should voice it out once he feels any dissatifaction with you. I mean, he should tell you at the first time he feels you screwed up his life. Both of you must always discuss and solve problems that occur before you. A relationship is about honesty, both of you need to be honest to each other and tell each other your feelng once you feel something is wrong. Besides that, you shouldn't blame each other because since you have been together your problem is his problem and his is also your. Blaming each other won't solve a thing but it will just make things worst. My suggestion is that, you must go and have an nice talk with him about your problem and both of you solve it together but remember, you must talk to him in a good manner and make sure he is ready to talk to you (I mean, make sure his emotion is stabble).

Get some confidence in yourself and leave. I'm saying this because the fact that you can sit there and agree with him that you are to blame and stay with him when hes throwing all this emotional abuse at you , shows you don't think very highly of yourself. The guy is manipulating you big time.

economic problems has been the reason for the young couples quarrel,comity between the two of you can go,as we all take a step back,moved him with your love,do not give him too much pressure on, you will find that his attitude will change.

You know my friend you are the only one who can answer and solve your problems cause it is yourself and no can decide for you but you only. Anyway, you are almost 7 years right? Do you experienced this all the time? Or just now? And why only you? Does he doesn't have a participation on this? Who chose to love you? Did you forced him to love you? Why don't you try to talk with each other in a peaceful manner, i am sure you can. You cannot just sacrifice a real relationship just for credits? Do you love each other? or... Do you still love each other? You know if you really love each other.. No matter how hard the things will come to you, you will still help each other and never blame each other, cause you both have a participation on this. You are not the only reason why this things happen to you, He is also with you, Don't tell me he is not committing mistakes and you do? Both of you of course! Why tired of you? Are you always making him feel that bad since your first years? Then why stay with you? And How bout him? Doesn't he done anything wrong to you? What do you think is the best decision and answer for all those questions i have given you? Do you think it is ok to talk to him again? Do you think it is best to leave him? You said you love him.. Do you think it's best to let him? You love him right? Why allow it? what do you think will happen if you let him? Do you think you will be happy? Do you think he will be happy? What do you think is the best decision for you both? The decision that will make you both happy and not a looser in the end? A decision that you think will further strengthen your relationship if you really love each other? We cannot help you nor advice you! It is your problem not ours, it is your self not ours, if we advice you and then the decision made is wrong or will do terrible things! Whom you will blame? Us? of course not, you cannot blame us cause you follow us... Cause you decide to follow us... Decide freely and critically and also do not regret anything that you will decide. You have lots of options to choose from i just gave you already an idea and a guide.. If you can answer those questions correctly and with no regrets of deciding.. You will be ok... Be strong, be mature, be a critical thinker. That's all have a nice day, hoping for your better future, happy mylotting!

My friend and her fiance would fight a lot about money. It's probably like the #1 thing that couples fight about. You didn't ask to have these money problems. He needs to stop talking down to you and talk WITH you about it. It's important to have good self-esteem, and it sounds like he's really putting you down. You mentioned that you're working overtime. Is he working a lot too, or is he relying on you to work your butt off while he just complains? You should sit down and talk with him about this. If he's not even willing to sit down with you and talk like adults, dump him. You don't need a man who chooses to TALK DOWN to you. You deserve better.