The guy I love or the guy that makes me happy?

I can still remember what my cousin told me before I got married. At that time she was already married for more than 10 years and she had experienced all the bittersweet of marriage. She told me it is better to marry a person who loves you and makes you happy, rather than marrying someone who doesn't. In this case I can sense that both of them loves you, or is it just your first guy who really loves you and the new one only likes to joke around and make you happy? I am not very clear about your situation, but let me just assume that both of them loves you equally. If I were you, I will list down all of their good and bad qualities and compare them. Making you laugh is a good quality, but that is not the only good quality that a man should have. What I mean is, you have to really sit down and think hard which one of them you want to choose, I can't do this for you because I don't know both of them and I don't know what makes you happy when being with a man. Love is very important and if you think you can't live if you yourself never love the man you marry, then you have to rethink again. Whatever it is, choose wisely and like what I said, list down all of their strengths and weaknesses, compare them and choose the best from the two. But in the end it all depends on you, sometimes what your heart tells you is the wisest decision. Good luck.

Both can be a friend or can be opposite.. It depends on your decision... But why love men that you think will hurt you? In life, we must learn how to love ourselves first so we can love others. what do you think is the best decision that will make you happy? Which decision will not make someone suffer? Which of which do you think is deserving for your love? Which of them do you think will give you a healthy relationship and a relationship with no walls to bump!? well think carefully but i am sure whatever decision you make you will not regret it cause i think you love them both.. Just do not take advices from others, Because... If something bad happens taking that certain decision, whom will you blame? The adviser? Of course not, you will blame yourself for taking such actions. You are the only one who can solve that problem, but as i see it is no longer a problem now, cause i see, you are mature enough to know what right is wrong and to choose who and what will make you happy.Good Luck Girl! I know you can do it! Thank you so much for sharing girl, have a nice day!

for me is not right..you cannot love 2 person in the same time...and what you do now is nah love but obssessed of the 2 guys that you afraid one of them to lose.....but you need to choose between the two listen to your heart and choose the one that can make you happy and offer the true love....coz if not don't wait time came you lose both of them.....

For me you're doing the right thing don't choose between them just be friend them both for you will never know if you commit a relationship with one of them it you may lose the other. Just enjoy their companies both while you can theirs plenty of time.

becouse of my guy is my favoret lover

hello, i think you made a good choice, i understand u didnt wana hurt any of them, if it was me i would have made the same choice

This is bound to put you in a dilemma sooner or later. The guy who loves you more should be a choice if you have to make one in future. Judge yourself who cares for your problems more. ak

It's natural to still have feelings for your ex-boyfriend. You spent a lot of time with him and you got close to him. The love you have for him isn't just going to go away. But this new guy makes you happy, and you seem to be more compatible with him. You should be with the person who makes you happy. If your ex-boyfriend really cares about you, he'll want you to be happy and he'll still be your friend even if you're with someone else. I know this is a difficult situation for you right now, but you really should make a decision soon. If you continue to keep the door open for both of them, they're going to both end up hurt. It will cause everyone less pain if you cut one of them loose now. You can still be friends with him, but let him move on with his life (the romantic part of his life).

Hi ayebelle! Sometimes its really hard to forget the one you love knowing that you can't be together for some reason. In the moving process, i met the guy that is really different from him, he always makes me laugh and i really enjoy his company. So that means you're loving the new guy already? Or maybe you're liking him because you were hurt by your ex and finding yourself happy with this new guy? Cause if you do, you could have chose him. And see if the relationship will work. Its about time for you to love again. As for your ex, later on he will understand that you can't be together anymore. Well, that's only my opinion. Good luck to you!

I really must tell you that if you dont want to lose someone you might end up losing everybody, therefore take someone you love and forget other, it may be difficult but you only have to check inward to no who you really love. happy loting

I think you did the right thing. Why are we forced to love only one guy/girl anyway...Are you supposed to spend you whole life with one person and really make yourself believe he is all you wish for? I don't think so. You're glad your guys are ok with what you've chosen. If I were a girl I'd date 2 guys if they'd agree because it's easier for a cute girl to find another guy than it is for me to find a new gf.

It is not most important how much you love someone.Important is how much someone loves you.First listen to your heart.Then go with your decession.God is with you.All the best.

I do deem that you should choose the one who can help you and you can help him not only in life but also in work or others. This is my opinion and i hope it will help you. Wish you happy and good luck!