What would you do when you realise that your boss is a double face

@alkivt (34)
Cyprus
November 11, 2009 12:40pm CST
I know how to be diplomatic but when you suddenly realise that your boss is more a double face.., not only with you but with most of the employees and other people he is dealing with, how would you react. Especially when you are supposed to be his right hand at work. How do you react when you find out that he is not only undermining you but also saying ugly comments about you when you are not there. Infornt of me he is a saint. and many people think he is a saint also. Please help!!!
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11 responses
• United States
12 Nov 09
Unfortunately your boss is your boss, and he can do just about anything he wants, and get away with it. Because in the end, you will look like the bad guy, and it will be you that they get rid of, not him. I've had such a boss before, and I had to leave the company because of mental anxiety. The sad thing was, I was good at the job, and I loved it. Maybe that's what his problem was, he felt that I was a threat to him. It is sad how bosses are revered and their subordinates are treated like crap!
• United States
12 Nov 09
I hope for your sake you don't have to, either...Good Luck!
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
Sweetchariot you may have something there. I am sorry you had to leave a job you liked and I hope I do not have to do the same. I hope it will not come to that.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Well, we need to realize that Bosses are people too, and a lot of times many of them will have faults that others may have a disagreement with. I know I have worked for a few companies now that I had Bad bosses, or people in charge over me. A lot of times they are great as people, but horrible when it comes to being in control as it often goes over their head and then they try to act Big by talking good when you're around but against you when you're not. Truthfully what I tend to do, is just do my Best and hope for the Best to come from there. I feel I am there to do my work, and if not appreciated well there is not much more I can do.
@Jackie8 (127)
• China
12 Nov 09
I agree with you, Just do your best, Never look as everyone is saint, People always have his hypocritical side. If it's not hurt you more, forget it.
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
that is what I am trying to do lately but the trust is gone and to do a good job you need to be able to talk more than the necessary limited work conversation. I should probably leave but finding another job now is difficult.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
11 Nov 09
I haven't experienced such kind of things with a boss but with a colleague, I have. I think I would stay until I could find another job. If the management has the brains, they shouldn't have made that guy boss. I wouldn't want to work for a Company that has bad management. If you can take his attitude, just be mindful with your comments. He may use it against you. The best solution would be if you could get another job.
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
Yes, but sometimes he is there due to many reasons other than the capacity to be a good manager (i.e ties with owner and so on) so I should leave?
@xiaotong (33)
• China
12 Nov 09
just do the same to him. everyone has his clear mind to tell right from wrong. his tricks will only trick himself. you just the way you are. just don't mind whatever he says. what he says just make himself more stupid. and to quit for a nice boss is not a bad idea, though. good luck!
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
actually I am trying to ignore him as much as possible but it affects my work negatively. So I will just do my best. thanks
@wgnashze (27)
12 Nov 09
I don't have much problem with this right now, I think I am worse than my superior when it comes to attitude :) But I have had this at one point in my previous company, I filed resignation at one during a critical week when I began to feel that my boss was trying his best not to humiliate or start a discussion about my performance (even if he was dying to) because he needed me to stay with the team for the time being. It turned out as a blessing in disguise since I landed on a well-known company that did not only give me the compensation but also the treatment I know I deserve :)
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
So Shall I ignore the signs and keep doing my best? I will but I am also looking for something better. Thanks
@smedtra (77)
• Turkey
11 Nov 09
Hypocrisy is really disgusting. I suggest you start looking for another job, and when you find one quit that one. Working under a guy you do not trust is not good for your mental health.
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
11 Nov 09
Hypocrisy.. thank you. that was the word I was looking for. Quiting now is difficult but I am seriously thinking about it. have you had a similar experience? Thank you for your answer Smedtra.
• Turkey
11 Nov 09
I dont have a similar work experiance though i had some hypocriate so-called friends and i stopped being friends with them. This cannot be compared to the situation at the work, you have to earn a living and sometimes you might endure difficulties. As i said, as soon as you're able to find a new job, quit this one.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
12 Nov 09
That's a tough situation to be in. If you can, remove yourself emotionally from it. He isn't worth the anxiety, so try to accept the situation as it is - a job that gives you the money you need to live on. You can survive there until you can find another job, or you may find out that others know more than you think they do about him. Either way, right now, just bide your time and try not to let it get to you.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
12 Nov 09
Thanks for "best response."
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 09
I used to have a Boss like that to but everyone knew what he was like and a couple of my Colleagues used to stand up to him and tell him straight, no one respected him or cared what he said I am afraid there is not anything you can do apart from either ignore it, report it to someone above your Boss or look for a new Job I hate People like that, I never treated my Staff that way
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
The thing is that he is good at hiding it. Only people very close to him can really understand what is really going on in his mind and how he operates. Eventually others will see it too I hope. Thank gabs8513
• United States
20 Nov 09
No brainer. Start looking for another job.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
12 Nov 09
I've been through that situation before & at first its really hard for me to decide whats the best thing to do. Until then I decided to resign & look for work somewhere else than sometimes it will reach the point that he will be using you as an excuse why he commit mistake. Be vigilant. Try job hunting & when you are sure that you get the job move on.
@alkivt (34)
• Cyprus
12 Nov 09
Thanks happy2512. i am thinking the same
@wohenfei (20)
• China
12 Nov 09
hi,alkivt!i will say nothing about my boss.and from now on,i keep me from telling him nothing and ignore his any words!by doing that,i can happy,i can work comfortly!