People that feel sorr y for themselves?

Of course, some people have actually had to "go through" an awful lot in life... It's probably quite hard to be positive the day after you've been raped, for instance. Could you try showing a little more sympathy?

Yeah, I kind of feel like you do. There are some people who are very unhappy, and are always down. I can be there to listen for just so long, and then, I finally telly them to snap out of it....and if they can't, to please go get help. There are fine, good professional people out there who can help them alot more than I can.

I often feel sorry for myself, because of things I have went through in life. But this is because I cannot expect other people to feel sorry for me for certain things that have happened, although sometimes I wish they did. But I do not play the victim unless I actually am a victim. Using these things as an excuse for "bad" behavior is like a defense mechanism for some people. When you cannot beat whats destroying you, most people have to join it, therefore becoming a self destructive person. It's just easier that way and most people do this subconsiously. I have been through this multiple times, and you don't even realize what your doing untill it's gotten way out of control. Although there are some people who act this way over little things. I knew a girl who once dumped a bag of chips on a guys head and call him fat, then winned and cried that she had to clean up her own mess. That REALLY pissed me off, because it was something so stupid and childish, yet she was 16 years old at the time. And she acted this way daily, it was ridiculous.

People like that need help. Urgently. Some people need to learn how to become fighters, not excuse makers.

Hi Ilyzium. I think at some time or another, we've all felt "sorry" for ourselves. And yes, some people use situations that I grant you, are horrible...things like abuse...that make them bitter forever! But...having been through that, they should surely treat others with compassion and care. As to the victim mentality, I think it is far better for those of us who've been through hell to think of ourselves as "survivors," to forgive, not necessarily for the perpetrator, but for our own freedom and peace of mind. Everyone eventually goes through something, everyone. And yet, good lives are still made afterwards. Karen

You see people sitting as a spectator speaking as if they were the one playing they would have a lot better, I feel the same kind of emotions have caught you up . In my case,whenever I have seen anyone acting weird i have tried to get over the reason why he is doing so and i have always come to the conclusion that i would have acted even worse in that situation . Many times i have seen that we tend to view robbers and pros as a blot in the society but we havent taken fair measures to reduce the poverty that gives birth to all this,to prevent the people from doing inhuman behaviour to the poor . I think that u should reconsider on ur opinion

i knew someone like that and all they did was complain about everything but did NOTHING to change their situation. she was complaining she had no money and didnt like her living surroundings. i used to get so mad at her because she was a cashier and could have gotten a better job but had NO ambition! it drove me crazy so i dont even talk to her anymore.

ya some time we come across that kind of people they always love make u mad. they love to make you frustrated and then they feel very relex like anything by seeing u sad and worried about their situation. i also even dont like this situation and i hate these kind of people. because somedays i use to be very same like these kind of people and use to be very happy while watching them worried about me. but its been 2 years for this situation. i am ok now and i found that i was in worst condition and i use to make other mad about my stories and make them frustrated

Actually ilyzium, I can stand people who feel sorry for themselves, that is if they have sufficient reason to be sorry for themselves. One must learn from their mistakes so by starting to feel sorry for themselves they learn that their actions were incorrect thus hopefully once they meet this type of situation in the future they can do something positive. Anyway, nice topic and happy mylotting.

absolutely,i know your feeling.One could be upset,like me,but couldn't hold that as a tool.To these people,I can give them enthusiasm for one to two times,but no third time.

That behaviour is really pulling themselves more down & its highly unappreciated its because they will be the cause of harm to other people who has not done something wrong towards them. I pity them. If only there is something we can do to make them understand that what they are doing is bad surely I will be one of them campaigning for it.