A person doesn't have to be perfect to be exactly what you need
@lologirl2021 (5542)
United States
November 12, 2009 4:42pm CST
I have to say that sometimes in life we are picky on who we choose to be in out lives and are even picker for the ones we want to marry. I believe that some of us don't need to be so picky so we can fall into love and have a great relationship. Are you a picky person?
I'm in a relationship now and have known him for 9 years and i have to say before we started dating i thought he was gorgeous and didn't have anything wrong with him. Now that we are together he isn't so gorgeous since he has put on weight, but we have a lot in common and we enjoy doing things together and its all about what you see in someone that makes them perfect for your life.
7 responses
@wgnashze (27)
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13 Nov 09
Apparently, the best for us isn't always the one we want, and most of the time the perfect one isn't always the best for us :) I believe we can try to pick the ones we see perfect and later on find out that they weren't exactly what we wanted them to be, but life's crossroad would always give us the option to find and stick with the person who would be very much needed and not just wanted.
@hexeduser22 (7419)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Who would be the best and who would you be needing in the end? I agree life's crossroads would always give us the option but not to find but to choose the person who you think you would need
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
12 Nov 09
When it comes to the rlationship and love, to be honest, I am not a picky person completely.
In my eyes, it is unnecessary for people to be so picky when you have fallen in love with others. As the saying goes, "Gold can't be pure and man can't be perfect", everyone makes mistakes. If you pay much attention to one's mistakes instead of advantages, then you will find it difficult to look for a perfect person. In fact, if you want to keep a steady relationship with your love, understanding is the most important factor to enjoy a better life with your partner.
When meeting some differences, a couple should try to communicate with each other, which is very useful to a long realtionship.
@ravend (658)
• Malta
12 Nov 09
Whenever I was dating someone, I used to try and look for defects cos I was obsessed with finding a perfect guy. Eventually I realised it was cos I was not ready for a relationship. Now, I met my boyfriend, and I learnt that his perfection lies in the fact that he is so imperfect, and the beauty of our relationship lies in me learning day after day about his defects, and I appreciate a lot his being able to bare his imperfections to me. =)
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
24 Nov 09
I am a picky person because I dont want to make a mistake especially when it comes to especially marriage.I must admit that sometimes I am way too picky but I make no apologies when it comes to that because I am really serious about my relationships.I would hate to start a relationship and then find out that that person was not what I expected .I admit that no one is perfect and niether am I but like I say everyone has the choice and if they dont think that I am waht they want then they can find that person who is meant for them,we all have that choice and we should not feel bad for excercising this choice
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
13 Nov 09
If I would like for someone he would have to be perfect! In looks,intelligence,and everything else! I can't date just anyone! I have been taken advantage of before because I do,sometimes,act gullible! If the man isn't perfect there is no resaon to be with that person! I can't take the chance! I have been taken advantage of way to many people! It just isn't with dating! It is in very put of my life! I can't afford to let my self be taken advantage of,even though I try not to be! I would go backward mentally and I should don't want that! So I will be alone for the rest of my life! I'm not proud of it but it is the only way!
@MJay101 (710)
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12 Nov 09
I agree.
I don't think anyone's perfect, but that's not really important. What matters is whether (or not) the person you choose to share your life with is perfect for you.
Others would no doubt find flaws in my partner, just as they would find flaws in myself. But I love her with all my heart, and that love overrides any niggling doubts about her cheering for the Gooners...
@maezee (41988)
• United States
12 Nov 09
This is a nice discussion, thank you for starting it. It really puts things into perspective. Some people won't settle until they find "the perfect one", and as a result, they end up alone because they're standards are too high. Everyone has flaws, and that's important to understand. It's nice that you've come to terms with your beau and his flaws.