would you like to change lives??
By holololita
@holololita (56)
United States
7 responses
@captainmorgan (773)
• Canada
13 Nov 09
I think changing lives with someone else is not a solution. There is a reason your life is like this. If you change lives with someone, chances are that in the end that life will end up exactly like the one you have now. You need to change your life on your own, do things to make it better, get motivated. Make friends in your job, if you do not have a job, seek one out. Participate in clubs and groups, go to a gym or join an exercise class. Go to the library, or a book store. There are tons of places to meet great people. Taking action is really the only thing you can do.
@holololita (56)
• United States
14 Nov 09
there is a problem with that: i am hated by my community and i dont know why so that cant help me a lot.i tried to ask someone but he didnt answer. :(
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
14 Nov 09
then ask someone else? Or say "f u all!" and continue on with your life. As I said in my thing - move to a new town if that's what it takes.
A month after I turned 18, life wasn't going so great for me at home. I volunteered to help a friend move a good 200+ miles away. We pretended I was older (hehe) and went bar hopping. We had a BLAST at this one bar and the owner says "hey Michelle - I'd love to have you come work for me. You're just what this place needs" I proceeded to tell him I have no money in savings, no place to live, no money to get a place, blah blah blah. And the bar tender (who i didn't know before that night remember) said "I have a 3 bedroom house I'm never at - you can stay with me". I went back home, broke up with my boyfriend, packed my bags and left. I had $60 in my pocket, and prayed my car would make the journey. It was a rough journey the first few years. Getting a job and set up... getting many many more jobs b/c none of them were cutting it. But I've been here 5 years now (I took a 2 year break and went back to my hometown... but found the same misery as the first time). Just got married 2 months ago, have a family, a house.
Some risks that we take... take some time to pan out. Even if you do make the attempt to change something - its going to take some effort to turn things around. All I can do from this end is encourage you and pray for you that you find what you are looking for... and I will do that all the way my friend!
Life's a wild ride my friend!! Hang on! :)
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
13 Nov 09
First off - of course life isn't like the movies! Sure - I have a few good friends... but we don't hang out and party everyday. We've never taken any vacations together and... well.. we just kind of hang out. But I love the select few (2 or 3) that I have.
Hell - I have a few online friends that i've "known" for years!... and have never met in person. lol
I hate to say it honey, but life is what you make it. I'm not saying if you're ina crappy situation its your fault or anything... but if you're not making some sort of attempt to change it in some way, then I honestly can't have sypathy for you.
Changing lives is always that "the grass is greener on the other side" ordeal.
I wish you the best with whatever you have to do to make yourself feel more like you. Move to a new town on a wim - get a different job - buy a new tshirt... whatever you have to do! Don't be afraid to strike up conversations with strangers or help someone with their groceries or whatever... you just don't knwo where new friendships will be made - new opportunies, new excitements!
Good luck my friend!
@holololita (56)
• United States
14 Nov 09
thats awesome for you.but i dont know what being loved means nor what loving someone means
@abhikmjmdr (779)
• India
13 Nov 09
Do you think others do not have problems? Who would change lives with who would not bring his or her own problems with them?The grass always seems green on the other side of the valley. Every one has problems and has to find solutions for themselves.I agree that some are more difficult to solve than others but problems there will be. As far as friends are concerned we are all there to help you. You just keep Mylotting and we shall all be there for you when you need us.
@oeguanghui (108)
• China
13 Nov 09
HI,holololita.
if you feel alone in this world,you can try to make some friends on the reality or on the internet,for example ,on mylot.if you like,we can make friends with each other.life is not easy for any of us,we must believe in ourselves,we can do something very well.and we can help others live very well.try to help someone who need your help.try to feel everyday is a nice day.everyone is a lovely person.use your eye to find the beatiful thing in the world, use your heart to feel the people's love.Best wishes to you.my fried.we all like you.
@GaryJoule (211)
• China
13 Nov 09
The world is the mirror refection of your inner mind.
The world is just like what you think.
Wanna change the situation around you? start from changing yourself.
