Do you apologise?
By MsTickle
@MsTickle (25180)
Australia
November 12, 2009 7:13pm CST
Sometimes? Rarely? Always? Never?
Accidents happen. Mistakes occur. People do things thoughtlessly without thinking of the consequences.
People get hurt. Some feel that they have done something wrong. Still others get anxious, upset, cheesed off and really angry.
Would it kill you to explain what happened and apologise for any inconvenience???
Many were thrown for a loop the other day due to the drop in the number on the silly little coloured shape...not mentioning the name of the thing because many who posted to express their concern (myself included) had their efforts erased
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36 responses
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I do apologize, sometimes. Sometimes I feel no need to. I am sorry that when there was a glitch a lot of people posted about it and lost their efforts.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Nov 09
I receive email alerts. What I saw was beyond a post. I saw confusion, anger, fear of having done something wrong, despondency that their efforts were wasted. Those feelings linger but with a few words, like, sorry about that minor hiccup this morning folks, everything is back to normal now.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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13 Nov 09
Wouldnt it be nice if everyone said sorry when they have done or said something wrong.I always say sorry if i am in the wrong,but there are a lot of stubern people out there that never say sorry even when they know that they should be the ones saying sorry.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Nov 09
Yeah, me too. I don't have a problem fessing up if I stuff up. Some people can be really anal about it.
One of my exes was weird about apologies...if he'd been rabbiting on about a bad day, I'd say, "sorry you've had such a shiitty day hon " and he would say, "what are you apologising for...it wasn't your fault, you're being a hypocrite". What an a-hole he was.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
13 Nov 09
I tend to say sorry all the time too. But not too much till it loses its meaning. Just on the right moments, at the right time. I think people whom are afraid to say sorry are losing out on quite a lot, because it is sometimes worthwhile to say that word. It goes a long way..
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@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Yes, I do apologize, even if I do not necessarily think that I said anything wrong. That does not mean that it is a "false apology", though, because people can interpret things differently and neither is necessarily wrong or right. What I mean is if someone accuses me of being mean or rude or whatever, even though I was trying to be nice and thought that I was, then I will apologize and try to rephrase what I was saying to get my point across in a different way. Also, words and phrases can have many meanings, so it is easy for misunderstandings to happen depending on how things are taken, especially when there are language or cultural factors at play that might affect the meaning of different words or phrases. The most recently incident happened yesterday on here, and we both apologized and rephrased what we had to say, and it turned what could have been a nasty incident into an amicable discussion, and I even made another friend in the process.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Jul 10
I have found that it is easy here to misconstrue or misinterpret what some people are sometimes trying to say. It's a sad day indeed when a friendship is thrown away as a result of misreading a communication.
I'm pleased to hear that your communication has had such a good outcome.
@MJay101 (710)
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13 Nov 09
Terribly sorry, old fruit; I never apologise to anyone.
(May be a lie.)
Actually, I apologise far too often. I am nowhere near assertive enough and tend to be the first person to back down in a conflict. (I don't like conflict, and I don't like feeling that I've hurt someone.)
Perhaps I should ask advice from the thoughtless, eh?
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Nov 09
You made me laugh with your ophttp://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/whistle.gifening comment. I sense a kindred spirit...I myself am a practising coward.
Take advice from the guy responding above you...the nerve of him. We perhaps lesser mortals should tread lightly...
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@1xiaoweiwei (176)
• United States
28 Jul 10
OF course I apologise!
but still I have my own pricipium.If exactly my friends's wrong,I won't.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
21 Nov 09
If I think that I have done something wrong, I will apologize by all means. Sometimes, I even say I'm sorry when someone steps in my way. When in all actuality they are the one who should be saying I am sorry. One of my pet peeves is when one of these people who I apologize to, after they step in my way, say "MM HM". I want to turn around and say, well I meant to say excuse you, not me. LOL
I have been told that I apologize too often. Like when I would leave someone one on hold for a while, I would come back and say sorry about that. So finally, I started saying thank you for holding. I try to catch myself and thank people instead of apologizing in situations like these. It does seem to make the conversation a lot more positive.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Nov 09
That's a good idea actually. I've noticed when I'm put on hold, customer service people say "Thanks for holding" or "thanks for your patience" and I always say "that's ok" or "no problem". Maybe, when someone bumps us or whatever we could say "please be more careful". Mind you, a lot will tell you to ....you know, a rude comment, but at least we won't be apologising to them.
@shreed_14 (460)
• India
13 Nov 09
I think it will be really very nice to bury one's ego for a while and apologize for a mistake made than to lose a person very close.
For me it depends on the situation.If I had made the mistake and was wrong I do go and apologize but otherwise I almost never do it.
@ringbearer25 (402)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I apologize, but, only when I am truly sorry. Some people seem to apologize for everything. This only weakens the phrase. I think it is a sign of insecurity or something. But, I've definately seen alot of folks who are constantly apologizing, for nothing. A true apology should have eye contact and come from the heart. If it just flows out effortlessly, it probably isn't genuine.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Nov 09
You are so right...in my opinion anyway. The ability to apologise sincerely must command respect otherwise it is a ruse or a way of copping out. To me, one who apologises falsely is to all intents and purposes a hypocrite. There are those who will apologise falsely merely to keep the peace but I believe this is wrong. There needs to be more communication if possible and the record set straight.
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
Saying an apology if I hurt or offended somebody is not hard for me. I always say sorry and explain my side when I had offended somebody. However, I will give myself 2 to 1 week latest before I say sorry t the person. That is to give myself a time to think and cool off the issues too.
Well with regards to that coloured shape, I actually did not participate on that discussion, not because I was not interested on the topic but because I did not see the topic... may be when I logged in, the said topic was erased already...
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I do applogise most of the time. If I am rush in a store then I am more reluctant to do it. I need to get things done. If hurt someone emotionally yes I aplogise right away and try to correct the wrong I made. I say God Bless you when someone sneezes too. I say sorry if I miss doing something at work or co-worker too.
Once In a blue moon I will get angry because I amy feel it was not fault to begine with that starte the fight or argument or I was hurt by what happen.
Thanks and have a great day
Sincerley Unique16
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@cameron102390 (6)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I do sometimes, but a lot of the people that I deal with aren't worth it so I don't bother. Thats not to say that I don't think that people should apologize, because I do.
@victoriousm (86)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Nov 09
Well of course, a person has to apologize when he/she has done something awfully wrong, or has inconvenienced a lot of people. It is called 'courtesy' and 'being considerate of others'. If a person is stubborn enough not to do it, sadly, it will only show how he/she was bred at home, or how far his/her education went. Whether a person is polite or not, it reflects what his/her parents taught him/her at home. Remember, good manners and right conduct - we learn this first from our parents, then from kindergarten schools. Things we learn during childhood are indelible.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
1 Aug 10
Hi victoriousm...sorry not top respond before this but I only received an alert recently for a recent response and I found all these others here.
I so totally agree with you. I would despair that my kids never listened but when they went by themselves into the world , the things I taught them came to the fore and they got along really well because of their manners and the other values I had instilled in them. It was the same with the things my parents taught me.
Sadly, being thoughtful and considerate and respectful don't seem to be taught much these days.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I have no problem apologising if I know I have been absolutely wrong (which is seldom LOL) but I never just say "I'm sorry" out of politeness.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Nov 09
I was saying all along that they ought to have sent an alert so that everybody knew 1) they were aware of the problem and 2) that it was being worked on. I didn't expect an apology, would have been OK with an explanation.
But for personal things, sure. I generally do apologize when I mess up. If I think I'm wrong, anyway...
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@michael74 (122)
• Singapore
13 Nov 09
I cannot answer it if i base it on Frequency, because for me, i doapologise if i know it is my fault.maybe i may not acknowledge my fault immediately but after thinking of what happen when i'm in my normal self again, and realized it was my fault, i would accept it. After all, it will not lessen my being. plus i made peace with others and myself.
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@jzeL0291 (24)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
yeah somtimes ... but we all know that people are not perfect so everyone i think do apology ...butme i do it in a nicer way because in everything you do and says ..it reflects to your personality and that what makes life so amazing cause god create us not s=ahving the same personality thats why there are people that dont apology even though they should..
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@elimarketer (13)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
..always! even for those really small things. i mean we all make mistakes.. and just to show and make people feel we did'nt mean it... we have to say sorry. after all.. what have we got to loose? it doenst a single penny when we say sorry or admit that we made a mistake. we just have to make sure that we try not to make the same mistakes again or hurt other people again.