Do you push your kids at age 3-5 years old to be able reading and writing?

at the age of 3 I was already going to school and was able to read alphabets and numbers and also most of the colors as well... in fact before getting admission to the school I was already able to read alphabets...my parents taught me..because during those days a kid gets admission only if he is able to read at least few of the characters... Well I don't think that it helped me....

i agree with.children don't show interest when we push them and it causes fear of those things what we ask them to do.so its beeter to make children do on their intrests.

My parents did not push my brother and I, they could just see that we really wanted to read and write. My brother and I were given books as children and we were constantly read to. I was given as pen and paper as early as two, and I scribbled at first, but then I knew that the pen and paper were more than that by the age of three and four. My mother and grandmother started teaching me to write as soon as they could see that I also loved singing. You have to be the influence, and you have to surround them with the influence. If you want them to read and write, you have to show it to them every day from day 1, and you have to watch them to make sure that they are ready for it. Give them a crayon and a coloring book first, do this as early as two or three, and see how it goes. If they just scribble on the page, and nowhere else, they might be ready. Show them letters and numbers, just maybe one or two every day, and see how that works. I was ready to print my name by age four, and by age six I was ready to handwrite my name and then some. It's all up to the child.

Yes I agree with you. At such age, children are supose to play and enjoy happiness. Don't ever force them to do things that they don't like.

I can teach him from time to time to read but I will not force him if he doesn't want to but as I have experienced now my son is trying to get along with the nursery rhymes that I am singing whenever we are inside the car. just be patient everything has its own time.

Kids need to be able to enjoy their early years so 'push'no. But make it interesting for them and if they thik it is a came you can escape with an hour or so a day with 'teaching'them which I believe helped my daughter after she went to school.

I've been arguing about this very same thing for the past couple of months. I'm a kindergarten teacher myself. I teach 3-4 year olds....and it is only then that I INTRODUCE reading and writing and I don't expect everyone to pick it up at the same pace. But last year, our school insisted on a 3 year old being able to write all the alphabets before they reached my class. My son was hardly 3 then and he was being forced to WRITE the alphabets....in (can you believe it) a four-lined book...and he was just at the stage where he had begun to scribble and colour. It drove me mad trying to explain child development to them.....and trying to balance being a parent and teacher at the same place. I so agree with you that when they are ready, they will pick up things faster and some children also give up altogether when they are pushed too much. I wish parents and teachers will understand this aspect and let kids be and keep providing the right environment and introduce them to new concepts and things without forcing or pressurising them.

I didnt "push" them but I did start teaching them to read and write at that age...more so read I think though...then again maybe it was a 50/50 split...I dont really remember LOL...I've ALWAYS encouraged reading even now that they are teens... .When they has prepare,they would easy to get all lesson from teacher.So,don't push them Unfortunately here in the U.S first off not all teachers have the patience or time for that matter to REALLY effectively teach each individual child (with a class of 25 students or more its no wonder) AND IMO the parents NEED to be involved and do their share....As parents its just as much our responsibility to teach our children as it is the schools..

I think let kids be kids but if you make it fun, they will learn. I homeschooled 4 kids for preschool and they new and could write their alphabet, could count to 100 and were starting to read. But I kept it fun. That is key.

Zhizho, Anxieties just can make people do all sort of things and in a desperate state too. So, parents today are no different and the paper chase today is just getting every parent into a frenzy. As parents, peer pressure is not new to them, but yet it does get into them. A child to them most of the time is more like a piece of plasticine, a byproduct today. Sad, but it is true kneading and molding them to become what the world want them to be. Forgetting that they are human, flesh and blood, and most of all has feelings like you and I. So, I never push any one of them. Like your post, they should be encouraged and brought to learning in an enjoyable environment. Childhood in my days was fun and I just do not know why childhood today could not be the same. Have a nice day.

I think it depends upon the child and their willingness to learn... Every child is different and you have to use different teaching methods with these children.... What works for one might not work for others.... I think the most important is to make sure you read stories to your children and let them color when they are ready.... coloring turns into writing, Writing turns into Reading.... Steps are needed to be taken with each child in different ways..... Be patient.... They are only small once.... As long as you have requirements for school (they may get embarrassed if they do not know like other children) don't push.... Let your child grow at their own rate..... Make it fun instead of a chore.

Believe it or not, I could read by the age of 2. Most of the kids in my family are taught at a very early age and can usually speak well enough to understand by the age of 2. At 3, we start kindergarten school. Kids are sometimes curious and they easily pick up on things. If you can teach them something, why not? All kids develop differently and some maybe later than others. I think that's where the impatience comes from.

yeah,happy and curious are more important than what they had learned for 2-6 years-old.If I have a baby,it's impossible for me to push my baby for anything dislike when he is 2-6,I just wish my baby happy.

I have a son who just turned 5 a month ago who CAN read. He attends a preschool that is mostly play, but they do talk about letters and sounds and have them try to trace letters and stuff. I have never really done anything special, but I've always read to him. When I found out he could read and write all his letters, knew all the letter sounds, and he started writing everyone's names he knew---TOTALLY on his own, that is when I started playing a little game where I'd write something like "cat" and I would ask him "now how would we write 'mat'" and keep going. (That's a game I learned when I was an assistant in a first grade class.) And I started asking him to try and read simple books with me, I started showing him how to sound out words and look at the pictures to help figure out what it says. But this was totally when *he* was interested, I didn't push. And I know his school is just introducing things through play and not pushing at all, I worked with their program before I decided to stay home with my kids, I know their teaching method. Now I ask him "do you want to read or should I?" Most of the time it ends up being parts for both of us. :) With his writing, usually what will happen is either he picks up his Magna Doodle and writes or we do something together and he'll want to write--the other night, he typed a sentence or two message to our friends who moved to Texas on Facebook! (I just helped him sound out a word or two and told him how to spell a couple things.) I think it totally comes out of their interest and when they are ready to learn it, it will be FUN, not a chore, you won't even really know you're doing it!

A child does not need to know how to read and write at the age of 3!! I have a 5 year old she is just learning and is able to do so comfortably and happily, I also have a 3 year old she would simply get frustrated at this age and would learn nothing, between 3 and 5 they should be playing having fun and being children they have plenty of time to learn to read and write.

i also was a teacher and currently have a toddler (3 years old) who goes to school already. they have this lesson to pick out the correct describing word. now, i know that at this stage teacher still reads for them but i realized that the moment a child gets confused the answer would be wrong. so, as much as possible, i teach my child to read (at least the describing words) in the book. read, spell, then read. it's basically the same words everyday. tough world...

i am interested with your article because i have a little girl baby.she is eight monthes old.i and my wife have not exprenent with teach kid.but i agree with what you say.we must teach our kid at the three to five years old before she or he goes to school.i observed with my gilr that at the seven monthes,she is ready to learn talking.for example, i say mother,she will "yi,yi,ya,ya".if i say "TVset"she will turn her eyes on the TVset.