Can you say NO?

Hi dear! It is really an uphill task for me to say ‘No’ to someone, who is closely known to me. If someone presses me for accompanying him for some work, specially friends, I find it difficult to say ‘No’ to them. I apprehend that they might take it otherwise. I feel that this could be one of the negative traits in me, which others take undue advantage of. On the spur of the moment, I would say ‘No’ if I do not want to be part of something, however, on the second thought, sometimes, I change my decision. Likewise, I also feel really bad, when someone says ‘No’ to me on my request. When in their hour of need, I come to their rescue, I expect the same treatment from them. Once I read few chapters of a book titled ‘How to say No’, to strengthen my will power, however, it worked for few days only, then I forgot the tips given in the book………LOL! Dpk How are you doing ?

I don't feel bad. In fact, whenever someone says no to me, I'll take it as it is and try to understand that perhaps that person couldn't really fulfill the wish or request at all. As for me, I don't have a problem saying no too, because I'll just be honest with why I can't fulfill that request and wish.

I am very good at saying no. And when people look at me like they cannot believe I said no, I am also capable of asking "What Part of NO Don't You Understand?" I would rather somebody say "No" if that is what they mean than beating around the bush, or saying "Yes" when they don't want to and then acting resentful about it do doing the thing half-way which is often worse than not at all. But if the request that I have to turn down is something I feel bad about having to decline, I am sure to say that I am terribly sorry to have to say NO. One can be polite and still say NO.

Yes, saying no is a hard thing to do. But sometimes you just have to say it. Sometimes i do feel bad about it. But many times people can take advantage of you if you dont.

I do not feel bad when someone says No to me about something. But i do have the problem of saying No to people. Like when a friend or at work , a co-worker asks me to do a something for them, i can't say no even if it means that i have to work a little late or have to sacrifice my own schedule. Even when i am approached and offered goods i have a hard time turning them down. So, often than not i end up with things that i do not plan to buy at all. I know it's wrong but i really find it hard to say NO. I am trying to practice saying No, now a days and it makes me feel good.Hopefully i could keep it up.

Hi mimpi.. For me its very hard to say no for my near and dear ones.. but in some times we have to be more diplomatic to say no.. otherwise we should force ourself to do some work which we really dont like at all.. So now a days I am trying to say no for the things which I dont like at all..

I would be pretty sensitive to the word "NO" either saying or having had to hear it. I would pretty lousy after having said it. But after having learnt a few lessons in life i'm learning to put my foot down and stick to it when required. I'm started doing this at work, where people were trying to take undue advantage, and by refusing to accept further responsibilites it helped in people being more careful. It did confuse people for sometime, as i was not someone who would easily say No. I too have a long way to go on this Mimpi. At times it's better to block out or control our emotions in this regard then having to regret it later.

I am learning to but I hate the conflict and arguments that it can cause at times So it is hard for me to say no as I am not a Person who can stand her ground much I am not a Person who likes arguments or conflicts

Saying no is really very hard. However, it is better than saying yes and you don't even mean it. Saying yes to something that you can't do will be doubly harder to bear when the person you said yes to asks you why?

I find it hard to say No and like you I'm working on it because I know sometimes we have to. I do feel bad saying no; but sometimes saying no will actually end up making me feel good because it works out to be the right advice.

Me too especially when it someone so close to me .However you will find that if you dont learn to say no people will take advantage of your kindness and will always come asking you to do things for you even when you may have to go out of your way to accomodate them.Consequently like you I have to start learning to say no even if I may feel bad afterwards ,granted I try to weigh the circumstance to find out how they need the favour vs the cost to me in terms of effort

It seems to be very hard to say NO to someone especially the loved one or the most powerful one. For me, it's not so hard to say NO to someone because if I want to say No, I will prepare some reasons to support my No-saying.

It's a art of refuse.when somebody prefer go to shopping mall with me which I dislike,but it is so hard to refuse.I'm a freshman for saying no.sometimes,i usually refuse them by a coming stuff,of course it never happened.

saying no is a 50 50 process sometimes make it extremely difficult but sometimes to be freed from the situation...

I relise I'm still working on being able to say no. I still find it hard when freinds want me to do something that I'm realy not interested in doing.I keep telling myself that i can choose not too.Just 'cause tey are freind I don't have to always say yes.

I find it hard to say no. I have this tendency to say yest most of the time. It has been my resolution to learn how to say no these days, I am not that successful with it but I am starting from it.

My belief is that you can ask anything of anyone as long as you come to terms with the fact that the other person has the right to say no. I have been afflicted with the ‘disease to please’ for as long as I can remember and for a long time I hated my lack of assertion skills. I am learning, though that, as I get older there is only so much I will tolerate and I have finally learnt that my time is very, very precious and I don’t have that much of it and if I don’t learn to say no I will waste it away doing things I don’t particularly want to do! I have learnt the hard way, believe me and at first I became quite aggressive in my way of saying no but I eventually learnt to find a happy medium. It’s interesting to note that when you are the type of person who doesn’t often assert herself and suddenly you do, people really don’t like the ‘new you’ and try very hard to give you a guilt complex in order to manipulate you like they used to. I say, stand your ground!

I say no if I believe it is right. "believe for what you believe is right and don't let other destroy your own freedom" viva freedom.

Ya true saying No gets very difficult... but few just say it upfront on the face...But its good to say no when you cant say NO. If its a yes in place of NO, it just putting ourselves into a tough situation and making ourselves struggle. Its just that one gotta cultivate the habit of saying NO when it has to be said... else life would become tough

I sometimes feel bad when i got a no answer.