Are you romantic?
By Maryam27
@Maryam27 (411)
Pakistan
November 13, 2009 9:59am CST
Hello Guys,
What is romance supposed to mean between a couple? Is it the lovely sweet talk? The touch? Anything else?
My relationship is at stake and one of the reasons is that i am NOT a romantic person according to my partner. My life revolves around him all the time, for me all the talk is about/relating to him. How was his day? how is HE feeling...what does he want? I am a very loving and caring person but I can't think of anything when I am put under pressure. Grrr...enough abt me.
So guys please help me out in how should i sound more romantic to him? Mostly on the phone. What should i talk abt? What do you guys do ??
Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.
8 responses
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Nov 09
Romance is something more than love. A romantic person is imaginative. Romance is a feeling that can't be expressed. Romantic person builds castle in the air. They are impractical. Your partner may be a impractical person and you are opposite to him.I think your love is based on reality. But he is imaginative and impractical.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
15 Nov 09
I like to think that I am romantic. Sort of.LOL I just dont have anyone to be romantic with. So I get by being affectionate with my close friends, and my super close friends. I tell them I miss them when it has been a while when we got to see each other. That it would be nice to see them again. For those that I am with, I show affection by touch. I play with their hair, I place an arm around them when we walk, I play with their bellies, in other cases, I show affection by teasing them(they know that Im just kidding with the teasing). Most of them dont notice because they dont mind me doing that to them. They already know me.^_^ Im not good with phone conversations though.
Im not really sure how you can sound romantic to him when you already think that you are. Hmm, maybe you can leave him some small surprises like placing a love note in his planner, or somewhere that he will surely see. Give him small gifts that you made a lot of effort on. In phone conversations, I think you can go all out with the cheesy lines like, "I wish you were here.", "It would be nice to hold your hand(or hug you) right now.", "I keep thinking of you all day.", etc. Cant think of anything more at the moment.LOL But try to say those out when you're feeling them.
The rule of thumb in these kinds of things is to just say what you feel and think, even if it sounds cheesy. Goodluck!
@awapak (1275)
• Pakistan
14 Nov 09
In fact he is very lucky to have such a loving love partner but he should return such feelings to you.You are just like my daughter,therefore I will advise you not to exceed your moral,religious and social limits on his demands or comments.Most of the guys have many affairs and they want to spoil innocent girls.A true love does not require such nonsense.Mind you I have lived with my first cousin(now my wife)for 9 years in one house and we did not speak to each other or ever thought of making such demands......I will advise you to beware of him.An honest lover never makes such comments or demands.......May God Almighty help you in this field,amen.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Yes I am. Well being romantic doesn't necessarily mean you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend to express your undying care and love. Being romantic means you extend unconditional feeling, emotion, sympathy, attention and care to someone who is not officially your romantic partner but close to that.
I am romantic in the sense that I do express my undying love, care, thoughtfulness and attention to someone I love even if we are not an official item. I showered gifts and concerns and send notes and messages just to know that I really care a lot.
@allknowing (137781)
• India
15 Nov 09
If you think romance is only between the opposites, think again. I romance with life. Sometimes, when I am alone too, I will get ready my garden table and have breakfast there among the birds, flowers and trees with some background music. If this is not romancing what else is!!!!
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I guess it depends on how you define romantic..or how he does.For me it's not about flowers and chocolate or candle-light. It's the considerate things he does and notices about me. The way he cleans my car out for me, the way he always puts himself between me and traffic when we are on the street. The fact he will clean up a kid with flu in the middle of the night. The diapers he changed when the kids were little. The respect he shows me at home and in public. It's the little everyday things, the way he will clean my glasses for me while I'm in the shower. Don't laugh, it can be hard to see when your glasses are clean if you are too blind to see without them.
What does he want from you? Has he been specific? Sounds to me like you are already making a pretty big effort.
@sunilparthan (6302)
• India
13 Nov 09
hi dear friend yes am romantic i think so and .......... hmmm what else to say and how to say that hmmm
@chinthit (70)
• United States
13 Nov 09
Maryam27, You want to seem romantic to him, bu a lot depends on what HIS idea of romantic is. Your idea of romantic, and his might not be the same. For that reason you may need to dig deeper and find out what his idea of romantic is. I am sure that you are romantic, but not necessarily the way he wants to be romantic. I hope this made sense, and I do hope that your relationship goes well. I consider myself romantic, but that does not mean that my wife feels that I am. To me, being romantic means consideration, caring, and trying to keep the "mood" right for intimacy. Good luck and I hope all goes well.