my 6year old daughter and 4 year old are always fighting
By rosey19
@rosey19 (951)
Philippines
November 13, 2009 6:50pm CST
I had a 6-year old daughter and a 4 year old son, my problem is they are always fighting each other. they played together but after a moment, maybe they did not understand while they are playing so that's the start of their fight. I already talked to them one by one. I explained to them if you just fight while playing then it's better not to play again, play by your own. But you know kids they easily forget anger to each other and then they play again but same happening it ended into a fight again. What shall I do? I don't like fight and noisy house. Please I want your opinion. Thanks.
4 responses
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
14 Nov 09
I have six children and let me tell you no matter what their ages are they always fight.If there is a toy to fight over mine will fight over it,if the tv is on one side the others will want to turn it over that will be another fight.It seems like no matter what they find or do they will fight over it as well as when there is nothing to fight over.
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
Thanks for the comment. I guess that's what children but i get irritated hearing somebody crying and you keep on telling to them to stop. I get tired of it. Maybe I just have to be more patience and never mind them except for extreme incident. Have a nice day.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I have a 10 year old son and and eight year old daughter that fight all the time as well. They will fight over everything and anything, I am always telling them you have to deal with each other for a very very long time and you two are all you have not in the way that we aren't there for them but in the way of you have your friends and other family but there are times when they can always be there for you and no matter what you will always be brother and sister. It seems to work for a little bit and then they will go back to fighting. I have come to the point where I just let them argue it out and within a short while they are over it and stop fighting for a few days. I think all siblings fight and I know that it can be an annoyance but I dont think it will stop any time soon....the best thing to do is to try and talk to them and let them know that fighting is the wrong thing to do. I have seen some parents even force siblings to hug one another and try to get them to show love to one another. best of luck to you.
@DustyRider (18)
• United States
18 Nov 09
When my children were small, they would fight like this. One solution that would work would be to make them hold hands. If I heard them fussing, they would have to hold hands with each other until I decided that they could let go. Usually a couple of minutes had them begging to let go. If we were in a car going down a road and they wouldn't quit arguing, they had to each hold a hand over their own mouth until I told them to take the hands away. If the fighting came to blows, they would be made to sit in the floor facing one another with their noses touching until I said they could get up.
Believe me, when they are upset with each other, these punishments are FAR worse than being spanked, grounded or put in time out! The biggest thing is to always follow thru with your promises of punishment, and be consistent in what you will not tolerate.
