Binky be GONE! How to beak baby from the binky??
By kaseyrenee
@kaseyrenee (40)
United States
November 13, 2009 11:25pm CST
I am a 21 year old mother of a 14 month old little girl and i was just wondering how to beak her from her binky. She uses it when she is in her car seat and when going to sleep, I don't ever have to give it to her other than that. I live with my future Mother-In-Law and we are just clueless on how to do such a think to our precious girl. Can the binky mess up her teeth? Is there things i should know about how it can affect her in the future if she keeps it any longer? I am just looking for a mother hen to take me under her wing and let me in on anything i should know. Now how in the world do i lose that dang thing???
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7 responses
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Nov 09
My oldest stopped using her binky when it got lost in the house. We bought a new one for her, but she refused to use it. She was attached to her binky, and that was the only one that she would take. She fussed for a couple of days, especially at naptime and bedtime, but eventually she settled down and forgot about it.
My little one kind-of started breaking herself of the binky as your little one is doing. She went from using it all the time to only using it for comfort, like when we were in crowds, because she really does not like crowds. Then it was only when she would take her nap or go to bed at night. When it got to this point, we gave it a little while and then decided that it was time for it to go for good. She fussed about it for a couple of days, too, but she actually accepted it better than my oldest, probably because she was already weening herself away from it. We didn't have a fight every naptime or at bedtime - only a couple of times and then it was over.
@purplealabaster (22091)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Good luck! She will probably fuss for a bit, but just try to comfort her and try to take her mind off of it. If she has been weening herself, then it sounds like she is ready, but she will probably still resist for a little while. The best thing is to try to comfort her and take her mind off it but do not give in. If you give in, then it will only make it worse for you in the future when you take it away. She will remember that throwing a fit got you to give her the binky again, and she will throw an even bigger tantrum if she does not get her way. It might be difficult at first, but remember that you are doing it for her own good and do not give in. Again, good luck and I hope that all goes well for you!
@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Your youngest sounds a lot like my daughter. She uses it when she is sleepy and going to nap or bed. Other than that she does not even notice. Oh and when she is in her car seat if she is sleepy she will cry for it. I am wanting to get her off of the binky before Thanksgiving because we are going to be traveling and seeing family and i do not want the hassle of keeping up with it anymore. So starting tonight at bedtime i am going to see if she notices that it is no there and see how easy/hard it is to get her to sleep. I am hoping for the best!!
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@charblaize (1026)
• United States
14 Nov 09
OH MY!!! Does this bring back memories. My son had a terrible time getting rid of the binky!! He was 2 when I tried to break him of it and it was a nonstop "FIGHT". Many times I would let him fall asleep with it, take it away while he was sleeping and then he would wake up. We lost thousands of binkys, I should have invested in the stock market with those puppies. Anyway, I would keep taking them away, he wouldn't sleep, he would cry, fuss, scream. Though, after about a week or two of this he would finally go to sleep without one and we got rid of it. It wasn't easy, no way, but you will have to be consistent and DO NOT give in. I didn't want my son to be dependent on anything and see that there were other ways of falling asleep, watching a movie with him, reading a story, and letting him know he was going to be a big boy and big boys don't use binkeys, meme's or paciys. I wish you the best and know it will not be easy. Good Luck.
@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Thank you for the response and i will give it a try. I do not think it is going to be very hard it is just the fit throwing and crying that i am going to feel bad about. I know that i need to do it rather sooner than later because i have heard that it is a lot harder to do when they are old enough to talk and tell you what they are crying for. Once again thank you and keep in touch.
@dfollin (25381)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I am a mother of 3.My boys are 29 and 26.My daughter is 12 almost 13. I babysit my grand daughter who turned 3 yesterday.I babysit her when her parents are working long hours,so I have her a lot.None of my children liked the binky,therefore I did not have to go thru breaking them of it.
But,my son and my grand daughter's mother started her on it against my recommendation.Then earlier this year I found that she was chewing wholes in the binkies and I was afraid she was going to chock.Her parents thought so also and asked me what we should do.I did not know,because I had never had to deal with that situation.
I came on here and started a discussion much like yours and was told by someone for me to mind my own business.I guess it did not matter that I had her with me most of the time and it was not my place to prevent her from possible strangulation from a piece of rubber that she had chewed off the binky.
But to advise you on what we did do,was we started just letting her have the binky at naptime and bedtime for about a month.Everytime that she chewed a whole in one I would throw it away.Then we told her that she had chewed them all up and were in the trash.She said,"Oh" and walked away.That was that.
Good luck.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 09
One of my friends had a problem with her son wanting to use a dummy. She told him to put in under his pillow and a fairy would come an take it away. Then he was difficult for the next week. After that he became a happier child. I think that a beaker can be comforting for a young child. I think that trying different plastic drinking cups might help. My son is two and a half years old and I am having difficulty getting him to give up his baby's bottle. My son is disabled and young for his age. Good luck.
@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I got Kaitley off of the bottle when she was about 7-8 months old. It was actually way easier than i thought. all i did was get the cups with the soft tops so it is easier for them to drink from. It actually worked and ever since she payed no attention to a bottle so if he is able to drink from a soft top sippy cup then maybe this advice will help you. Thank you for the response i wish you and your son nothing but the best in the future
@singlemommy (2955)
• United States
15 Nov 09
I was lucky enough that my son never would take a pacifier, so I didn't have to break him. My daughter however was very attached to hers and would only suck a certain type of pacifier. When I went to try and break her I cut a little bit of the end off, every day, I cut a little more off until there was nothing left to suck on. Thankfully, it worked with my daughter. Good luck!
@dracoserpintenes (614)
• United States
14 Nov 09
i'm 21 too and mines six months so i didn't have to break him of his binky actually it was an accident but i guess it was a good one because i don't have to go through what you do now. ive been told that the easiest way to break her of the binky habit is to introduce a different security object (blanket or stuffed animal sorts) and then as you give that more then take the binky away slowly. i also read an article whence someone kind of adapted the tooth fairy concept by having her little one put his binky in a box for the binky fairy to get a present from her tho that was only semi successful he forgot the next day that he wouldn't be doing the same thing and getting another toy. i hope that helps good luck!
@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Wow I would have never thought of that. I am more worried about her teeth than her crying at night. She is a sound sleeper through out the night it is just going to be harder to get to to fall asleep without it. I got Kaitley (daughter) off of the bottle when she was about 7 or 8 months. I got her the sippy cups with the soft tops and she gave me no problem what so ever! So i am going to try the teddy bear trick! Wish me luck because i think i am going to start it tonight. Hope all goes well and thank you for the response, Take care -kaseyrenee
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
14 Nov 09
The binky can create messed up teeth and it can also hinder their speech development. Kids that keep it too long never try talking because it's always in their mouth so they end up behind other kids their age.
In my classroom (I teach 12-24 months) we just make it a point to give a binky to a child only when they seem unconsolible and for those kids that really need the help at nap, they get it at nap. We make exceptions for children that are biters and need something to chew on. The key to getting them off the binky is distraction. Kids don't need it constantly so whenever they're in a great mood we get them interested in something else and then take it away. They forget all about it and they don't worry about it. Eventually it gets easier and easier to keep them away from it until nap.