If your 18 year old child was arrested, what would you do?
By purplewolf
@purplewolf (462)
Canada
13 responses
@slico79 (212)
• Philippines
15 Nov 06
If my sons really did something against the law and I'll know if they do, I would personally have them arrested to let them know that blood is not a shield against irresponsibility.
But if they are truly innocent then I would gladly sacrifice myself to protect them even if I have to go against the law.
@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
16 Nov 06
Very true. My son has a habit of lying most of the time, so I can usually tell by instinct if he's telling the truth or not. Plus I learned to read body language to get to the truth.
@tarheelnancy (1317)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I would be supportive no matter what. If my child told me they were innocent but evidence leaned towards them being guilty it would not change my mind. I am doing my best to raise my children to always tell me the truth and hopefully by age 18 they will keep doing so.
@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
16 Nov 06
I am also supportive no matter what they do, but at the same time I try to instill right & wrong, which would be the lying to me part. Even if they told me they were guilty I would support them, but it would have to be a different kind of support.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I would quietly talk to them, and try and convince them to be Honest to me and the judge about what the experience was, and if they are guilty it would be better to face up to it now, and not have something bigger happen to them in the end.
@evil_little_bitch420 (1046)
• United States
16 Nov 06
I would help them out as much as possible in the hopes that he/she would no longer get into trouble, but if he/she does get into trouble for the second time, I would wash my hands clean and let him/her learn the hard way.
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@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
16 Nov 06
Same for me. When my kids were arrested the first time I made it clear I would only help them once, after that they were making a choice and I wouldn't support bad behaviour. None of them have been arrested a second time, so I guess that worked.
@lilbeetle (2)
• United States
15 Nov 06
I would say depending on the situation and if they were in trouble before--for the most part I would stand behind my kid.
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@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
My concern would be that if they had a habit of getting in trouble, perhaps my support would make them think I condoned it.
@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
16 Nov 06
When my son was arrested he was only 16, so I let him sit in jail for 3 days before I bailed him out. I figured he should learn while he was still a juvenile. It broke my heart and neither of us ate or slept much, but I can pretty much guarantee he'll never go back, so that turned out to be the right thing to do.
@TrainsR4Me (231)
• United States
14 Nov 06
I raise my child not to lie or do something that would get him arrested. If evidence pointed the finger at him, he's on his own. If someone else dragged him into it, then I'd help out.
@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
14 Nov 06
Good points. I tried to do the same with my kids, unfortunately they had to learn the hard way, but they learned.
@purplewolf (462)
• Canada
15 Nov 06
Same for me. I would definitely let them know I would be there even if they did wrong, but they would have to tell me the truth in order for me to do everything possible to help.
@becnusoon (212)
• United States
16 Nov 06
in public i will always support my child to the end. if he is lying he would rather be in jail than deal with me!!! this has kept him in check most of the time!
