New marriage, new life, happy and colorful at first then ... BOOM!!!

hi anjoks how are you today? let me tell you something about a marriage A marriage is a lifetime commitment, both of you should remember the aim for your marriage, it's not kind of playing a game right? A marriage is mean everything must be share between a couple. It's mean that every major decisions must involves a team decisions. God bless You anjoks

Isn't this just sauce for the goose??? What would life really be without a few problems?? Gives you an opportunity to work together and learn from it all. Few things really worth while in life come easy. Years from now you will look back and say that it was good even when it was bad.

We had difficulties for the first few years, because everything's easy in the good times: it just took us a while to find a way to compromise and work together when there are problems. If you don't mind advice, I'd talk to him about this at a time when you aren't upset about it, and ask him for his help in making a plan so that you can deal with problems together.

anjoks, Love is not about looking at each other; but looking together at one collective direction. Many things in love can be salvage if we compromise especially our expectation, but exactly how much compromising must be adopted to achieve that desired peace in relationship? Too much retrograding encourages blatant advantage-taking, while being too obstinate will hurt goodwill in relationship. Perhaps, the issue isn't so much about love, much more than compatibility as a general rule of thumb. Being in love is free, but being in a relationship comes with a price - the price of being subjected to gruesome test of eliminating our overly individualistic perception of life and learn to manage an additional headcount, transcending every aspect of our life. Many often lament about how my partner is unable to do this and do that - but let us look at it objectively, if it wasn't taught, then how would one learn? Following this line of argument, if it wasn't understood, then why would one allow himself to be 'taught'? And it goes round in that cycle. People are always taught about love, it doesn't just appear from nowhere. Though love comes quintessentially natural, but natural doesn't mean that our development are enlightened or learning that promote minimal intensity or conflicts. In fact, it's usually our frictions that we burn ourselves with, bestowing us the most valuable lessons in love. Perhaps you might want to do REAL communication (not those sugar-coated chats, fear-imbued talks or even not-getting-to-the-point conversation) to check out the discrepancy and decide how you are going to patch the chasm from there. Loving him a lot is one thing - making it work is another. Take care.

hi anjoks I am so sorry to hear how upset you are. yes husbands can sometimes without even meaning to really twist us in knots.He does not sound really too bad,in that he provides and pays all the bills, and is a good father. so the something wrong is with his being a good husband. Some men when they are troubled over something tend to keep it all inside, as if they had to protect us women, when we know damned well that something is wrong and want them to tell us, to let us share. My husband was that way with problems til I told him I would rather know the worst than to wonder and make it even worse yet in my mind. Opening up to me was a new experience to him but as we were also best friends I told him a problem shared is a problem halved. two minds sometimes can figure something out to help that one alone could not.This did make him a much better husband. Ido not know if this is any help but I just toss it out to see if it will help. good luck hugs from hatley.

HEY COOL.. Every husband and wife has problems. even you will become a different person when anger occupies you.. Take my trick which i use to follow. ...control your tears as it may make things worser. ...look straight at him and dont pay attention to his words. ...count from 100 to 1 in the reverse order in your mind ...when he stops go to him and shed two drops of your tears ...just say "I LOVE YOU and SORRY"(even if he is wrong just dont mind) ...hug him and kiss him ...say how happy u r in his presence