Are Your Parents Partial?

Yes, they are partial, and not to me. It's not just them either, but the entire family! Grrrrrr!

Hi...browser I like this topic very much. The reason is that I can participate in this discussion as a child to my parents with many years of experience in that capacity and again I am parent. I agree with your starting sentence that a parent's love is universal.The second sentence is more beautiful and meaningful than the first sentence. The reason is that "There is no parents who don't love their children". I am one of the five kids of my parents and I never felt that my parents is partial to one of us. As a parent, I have two daughters and I never discriminated them. But some parents partial to their children is exception and it can be ignored.

Well, I was an only child. My mom was over protective and my grandmother was very strict. The latter was a baptist and I wasn't allowed to play cards or dance. I have heard of all kinds and levels of strictness. I think the love and logic technique makes the most sense. The site: www.loveandlogic.com is invalueable and their books are wonderful.

I would not say parents are partial but it all depends on the love the have for each child. All children are different and parents can't love all children equally, and I believe the one they love more is the one they tend to be more protective off and the one that is capable of been sturborn and get into trouble they tend to be harsher to. As a child , you have the right to let your parents know exactly how you feel about being treated unfairly.

Well a parent's love should be automatic but it is not always the case. I have known of people who favour a particular child - even to the point of being downright nasty and neglectful to another child. The bizarre thing is that the favoured child often takes the parents for granted and the neglected one will sometimes bend over backwards trying to please them.

My parents loves us all, but from what I'm seeing in the family, they can be partial to one of my siblings.

They were not as bad as my aunt and uncle who loved 3 of their children and hated the other 3. When they went on a vacation those two would take their favorite children and leave the other 3 home alone with no food to eat sometimes for weeks at a time. I don't think my parents quite understood what it meant to love somebody, but I think my brothers and I all felt equally unloved. They had more privileges, though because they were boys.

As a parent you may get along with one child more than another, and so it apears that you favor that one, being a parent is not easy and so it may seem that you have a favorette child and not really be true. A difficult child may feel that they are not liked at all because they seem to be in trouble all the time. I was that type of child and my brother the good child never seem to get punished or scolded by our Mom. I know she loved us both but as a child I felt she loved him best.

Well I have always said that parents are humans and I guess just as you may have some people who you like more ,I guess there are some kids you may like more.Granted it may not mean that you treat one badly and the other one good but you may have your preferences. With that said I say this my mother was impartial but my father was clearly biased to my little brother and he never made any pretense about it,It was never a nice feeling to know you are second to anyone but soemtimes it makes you stronger

I am partial to each of my children in certain ways. I'm partial to my daughter because she is my daughter and therefore there are things that are appropriate to do with her that are not appropriate to do with my son, and vice versa. However, I know that there isn't one of my children that I like more than the other. Really, the place where I've seen this type of thing the most is with my children's grandparents. They prefer my daughter over my son because they were parents of three boys and never had a daughter. Therefore, my daughter gets all kinds of toys and other things from them often for no reason at all while my son gets very little from them. This makes me upset, but I do at times have to remind myself that Paul is only three years old and doesn't really know the difference.

There are two types of love. The first love is in equality. The second is nt equal or varies may be due to the pains the parent underwent or what happens during the birth of the child. We may talk about signs of omen or envision. A parent may see their future in a child whereby creating more love and care for that child. Those who care not let alone of love are parent who gat unwanted pregnace. Atimes, poverty contribute to the hatred

There are two types of love. The first love is in equality. The second is nt equal or varies may be due to the pains the parent underwent or what happens during the birth of the child. We may talk about signs of omen or envision. A parent may see their future in a child whereby creating more love and care for that child. Those who care not let alone of love are parent who gat unwanted pregnace. Atimes, poverty contribute to the hatred

There are two types of love. The first love is in equality. The second is nt equal or varies may be due to the pains the parent underwent or what happens during the birth of the child. We may talk about signs of omen or envision. A parent may see their future in a child whereby creating more love and care for that child. Those who care not let alone of love are parent who gat unwanted pregnace. Atimes, poverty contribute to the hatred

Can u treat one eye when both the eyes are hurting? No parents will be partial.. If so then check whether both the kids are their own or not.. sometimes child may feel that he is treated partially.. its b'coz of the love that the parents have for that child.. we dont mind the mistakes of the person who we dont love.. if they are scolding u it isto correct yourself and b'coz they are partial

Hi, Get! This works in a number of directions, unfortunately. Often one child is selected to be the only one abused, while the siblings have a wonderful childhood. Mine was such a case, and I know many others for whom it was that way. A number of books, most notable, "A Child Called It," have been written about this...

My parents had four children and loved them all, we were treated the same. My father's mother appeared to be partial, though, preferring my cousins to us. I realize now that was because she saw us every weekend and my cousins only came a few times a year as they lived out of state. I do not prefer one of my children over the other but if one needs shoes and the other is well shod, I'll of course buy for the one who needs the shoes. My sons are grown now. I have raised them to know that I am not partial to one or the other and although one may get a more expensive gift for holiday or birthday, I buy gifts that please them not by cost but by what they truly want or need.

Oh yes..I have had that problem but my situation is a bit different. I was raised by my grandparents and when my mother had her last child, I think she wanted to make up for the time she missed with me. That didn't do well for me because I wanted her to love me but that's what she had to do for herself I guess. We have never been close.

It could not be denied as even in my own family I could observe the same things happen that one of the parents look each upon each of their child with out most unfair treatment. Because most of the times parents favor their eldest child and the youngest child over the other sibling. Thus, the dangers of sibling rivalry arise and when parents could no longer takes control over it they tend to put a harsh way to discipline the child who engage in quarrel. Though, most of the times the parents do not like to hurt their children and would comes to advices giving them words of encouragement. despite of this biases still occurs as some children despise their parents as they only gives rewards with less reprimand their favorite child leaving the other child insecure and feel alone in his own world with nobody to depend him. Then, as a child who fear being penalized their is a need to be patience and keep obedient as many say it is bad to retaliate or fight with parents or else misfortune would befall to those who are hardheaded. Then, as a kind and understanding child i would not bother to debate as it would be totally pointless as it would likewise fall to deaf ears because some parents does not need to be told they are wrong and just need to live with it.

Well, I have only one older brother. He is my only sibling. My mother favored him because he was always sweet in front of her. He wouldn't show her his bad side. For example, when she had her back turned, he'd hit me but when she was watching, he never would. For me, regardless of whether or not my Mom was around, I was the same person. So she saw the bad stuff about me, not just the good. So, long story short, she favored him more and gave him more. I was very bitter about it growing up. Other relatives could see how she favored him but she couldn't. Eventually, I drifted away from my family because I thought they were unfair. I was very unhappy. They gave him everything and for me, they were always strict and what I had was hand-me-downs. I went off on my own and built a life for myself. My brother had the support of my Mom and graduated from a fancy university but until now, he is still dependent on her. As for me, I no longer am. After years of being so bitter, I just learned to accept things for what they are. It made my life easier. I also am a stronger person because of what I went through. I can't force my Mom to love me as she does my brother. Best not to stress over it and live my life the way I want it.

My mom and eldest sis are partial to my little sis from the first day when we got back together.(We lived with different relatives before because of my parents' devorce.) They loved everything about my little sister, they gave all their caring and love to her while they criticizing me. For the first few years I felt unfair and upset. I tried to let them know my feeling. That didn't change anything so I chose not to care about it though it didn't work much. As time goes by, they know they were wrong. They try to make up for me. And I try to forget all those unhappy memory. But things that've already happened to me can't be erased. The wounds on me are healed but the scars are there.