Gossip
By milfea
@milfea (519)
Philippines
November 15, 2009 9:06am CST
Gossip destroys. I wonder how it goes around and it is so interesting how one fact could get so twisted and become a gossip which has transformed into something very far from reality. I have become a victim of a very bad gossip myself. The initial reaction that I had was anger, and then I got disturbed, but I was thinking, my being reactive over it does not do me any good at all, and it is affecting me badly. So I began to come to my senses, why would I be affected by something that is not at all true? And so I brushed it away and got myself free. It took time, but I'm free, and I have never felt so much better in my life.
What has gossip done to you? What are your realizations after the experience?
3 responses
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
15 Nov 09
When I was in high school, I heard, as did everyone else, that I was active in a number of things. I did not even know what the words meant! I was painfully shy, and those rumors made it worse. Then the shyness was labeled, too -- I was called a snob. I found out years later that a girl I thought was a close friend spread those rumors out of jealousy, and I actually confronted her. She said there must have been some reason a lot of boys liked me, which I hadn't been aware of at the time, partly because my parents didn't allow boyfriends!
Gossip is cruel and almost always unfounded. Since the confrontation I mentioned, I make it a habit to spread gossip -- about wonderful things people do!
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
15 Nov 09
Just think what a great world this could be if we all concentrated on spreading goodness, kindness and smiles!
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 09
The worst gossip that was thrown at me was when 3 co-workers who was aiming for a vacant (higher) position, was so afraid I'd get it, that they went to the Boss and said that I told some nasty things about him to the other employees. My boss is a very sensitive man, and he swallowed it. I did not get the position and he put a distance between us for sometime. I did not do anything to defend myself, and yes, after a couple of months passed, he soon realized that I am not such a person as the others say, and he showed that he was sorry (even though he did not say it).
@milfea (519)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
I'm so sorry to hear that Godmother. Gossip would reveal so much in many people. We could lose friends and trust. I hope it won't happen to you again. I appreciate you maturity in handling the situation. Thank you for sharing that silence and having no reaction would make other people think otherwise.
@MJay101 (710)
•
15 Nov 09
You're right: gossip destroys.
I think the best solution is to have integrity in everything that you do; make sure that everyone knows that you're an honest person, and don't give people any reason to doubt.
That way, the gossipers will have nothing to go on - and, if they persist, they will be exposed for the tongue-wagging liars that they are!
