Men dont want drama, so are they living life or living a fantasy
By smalone
@smalone (19)
United States
November 15, 2009 4:16pm CST
Every woman knows in one way or another we always seem to screw things up with our mate. Whether it be that we care or if we are just being honest, something in most cases tornadoes the situation into jumbled debris that seems endless. Drama, its everywhere. One can find it on tv, movies, music and I hate to tell the world in everyday life. Read the personal ads, whether in the paper or online, you see the words NO DRAMA peppered in them. Just to say people this is LIFE, every day is dramatic in one way or another. The war, economy and recession (we all know it is closer to a DEPRESSION anyway) it all pertains to drama. Life is drama, get used to it. Who am I? Am I a scorned female? Single mom with kids? Man hater (some may say yes)? Drama is life. I will admit I am a divorced mother of two kids. I have a teenager, that is a drama series all its own. I have also seen my share of drama. I have a father battling cancer and a mother that wont let him quit. Some say that I am a strong woman, and I am just glad I can put up one HELL of a front. To all you single men looking for female companionship let me help you out, we divorced single mothers are not bad people. We may have built the Wall of China around our heart, but you have to give us a chance. If you have something you want to know about us, come to us. Some people may know what we have gone through in the past, but do they know the WHOLE story......NO. Sometimes we just need good, comfortable conversation to make us feel good....and if we find that in you dont push us away. We were looking when we found you, and we can keep looking if you shove hard enough. All you single moms or divorced moms out there reading this, hats off to you. I guess if we cant talk to the men in our lives we always have each other to talk to.
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@JayShay82 (78)
• United States
16 Nov 09
Some men really do dislike drama. And, you are right, life is drama. Women who have it in their life don't like it, but we accept it as part of life. Now, there are many men that say they hate drama, but they are the ones that create it!
I had this guy tell me that he was so sick of drama and wanted our relationship to be different. GREAT!!! Something I was looking for as a single mom of two toddlers...NO DRAMA! It turns out that I started going through hell due to his ex-girlfriend who I didn't even know. She was harrassing him, texting him, following him, etc. He told me he had no clue why. Then it really got bad when she "heard" that we were going to be married that spring. We weren't, so I asked my bf why she would think that. He said he had no clue and she was just crazy. Come to find out, the reason she was being like that was because he was egging it on. He was texting her constantly, and he told one of his friends about getting married in the spring because he knew it would get back to her! SO, don't let men fool you. I think they enjoy the drama....women fighting over them and everything!
@smalone (19)
• United States
16 Nov 09
Wow, that makes more sense than I thought it would. They DONT want the DRAMA because they like to create their own. Now I know what is wrong with the men in the southern part of my state. I knew it would all make sense once we all started talking about it. Thanks for the post
@JayShay82 (78)
• United States
16 Nov 09
No problem. Drama is only stupid to them if it isn't their's or about them!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 09
Hi so men hate drama yet in their own way they may create
it too.Life this past year held much more drama than I
ever expected. In mymind I still reel at times for here I
am in a retirement center. okay I am 83so why dont I want to
be here? because my son lost his job, we went broke, got behind on the rent thus were homeless, there was no place for the two of us to live and my son still did not have a job. drama yes,wanted no.So the social worker for protective services for senior citzens, old people to you I suppose, had me put here so I would have a place to live,paid for out of my social security and SSI checks while my son was put into a gov.sponsored apartment with three other men so they had a place to live while they all are looking for work.this does not for one second mean I want to be here,I would much rather be back in an apartment with my son working in a good job. but this is what we had to do.
@smalone (19)
• United States
15 Nov 09
That is so true. Life this past year has taken its toll on everyone. From your generation to my daughters generation (she's 7) has seen the downward spiral of life. I am sorry for your luck, and if the only way to go is up....well who knows then we will all be on our way to the top. Best of luck to you during the holidays, and I wish for you a winning lottery ticket.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
16 Nov 09
I completely agree. Men always say they dont want drama, but in some way they bring it upon themselves. When i was 18 I got involved with a hockey player. And for some reason I dont know what it is but the teenage hockey player mindset is AWFUL when it comes to respecting women (although i dont mean all of them, just a majority) He was from 6 hours away that got the oppurtunity to play so that hopefully one day theyd be scouted. They used to say "this isnt my town so I can do whatever I want since Im just going to leave in a few months" and its true. They stir up a bunch of drama and leave. Which is weird because these are the guys who say they dont like drama girls cause to much. Well they wouldn't cause drama if you didnt use them and get rid of them like they didnt have feelings. And thats just the teenage life. Not to mention a bunch of deadbeat men out there who dont like to deal with the consequences of their actions. Urgh. I dont mean this about all men, just I find it ironic how men say they dont like drama, and women cause it. When the only reason drama appears is because a MAN did something to the women to make it happen.
