Do You Go Along with Your Opponents?

Hi getbrowser , it is really a good discussion. I have many friends in my life. One of my friend turned my opponent. I believed that she is really a good friend. But she is really a cheater. Till now if i think about her my mood will get spoiled. If i am about to face her in straight i will give her left and right and willl never speak to her anymore.

When I was young I had this happen several times because I didn't really understand people then. I would go along with them then but I wouldn't now. I don't believe they ever changed their attitude toward me but I certainly did toward them!

I have a situation currently where some friends that I like are for whatever reason enemies with some other friends that I like. I do hope it never gets to the point where one of them asks me to choose. But if that should happen, the one that asks me that will be the first to go. I am not the type to cling to friendships that have gone sour and no evil person is ever a friend of mine. But nothing is either all black or all white. Sometimes the evil person is right on an issue and maybe my friends are wrong. In that case I will side with the one that is right even at risk of losing my friends, but maybe I will try to do it in a nice way.

A good example of this is when a man and woman fall in love and get married but later after some years they no longer love each other, become enemies and get a divorce.

Whenever a relationship or friendship becomes something that hurts us, it should be eliminate from out lives. I call these "toxic" friendships, and they serve no point but the negative...so I simply walk away from these. When it is a family member, I limit contact! Karen

Well, I think we all have encountered two faced people at some point. I try to stay neutral and civil but there have been times where I've been pushed to the limit and I had to say something. I don't like confrontations but sometimes I think certain situations warrant them. I get along with people in general, even those against me, until they start getting personal, then we'll start to have a real problem.

Being in team sports means that you come across all kinds of people and sometimes when the competition heats up people get down to nasty things. One thing which I have tried hard all through my life has been to fight really hard during the event and after that forget everything and give the opponent a clean chit. In more cases than not I have found that such an approach has stunned the opponent and some of them have returned back to becoming good friends as we moved on. Cheers! Ram

It happened with all friends.... for some reason or things ... they try to do best and their opponents are their friends.... i also same conditions many time... but we take it as a competition.. and dont take as mentally forceful condition where we try to think bad for our friends..

Hi Getbrowser, Opponents will always be a good challenge for me. I am secured with what i can contribute to the success of the project and i will do my part with confidence, quality and pride. I can establish a good working relationship with my opponents and we can even become good friends. nothing to fight over with because we will compliment with each other having our unique talents, skills, abilities and expertise.