problems with son

Welcome to the typical 21 year old. I know this may not be what you want to hear but his behavior is probably no different then many others. If you have ever studied any kind of psychology then you will remember this. Our kid from age 0-9 think that their parents are the greatest. From ages 10-25 we are the dumbest people on the planet an have no clue as to what they are going through. (They often forget that we were their age and even though things are slightly different now we had our own opportunities.) Then from age 26 on the start to think maybe mom and dad were right after all; but are too ashamed to tell us that we were right. Do not let him know that his behavior has upset you as he will continue to feed on this and do it more frequently in order to get a rise out of you. Instead try some of my mom's tactics, cuz they worked great on me. 1) Call him up and say something like "I just thought I would call you and make sure everything in your world is ok or if there was anything I could help you with." Boy does that make you feel guilty exspecially if you know you have missed something important. 2) Leave him a note or send him something that you know he will respond to in a positive manner. Then he will truely know that you care and are trying to rebuild any bridges that you (both of you) may have damaged. Remember if there are damaged bridges you will be afraid of crossing them as you may fall completely through. Take the time to do small thing as they mean the most. But most importantly remain involved in his life. He will come around but he will need his time. He is in a stage of self discovery and does not want to be pinned down by his parent. As when he was a small child, make sure that you are there to catch him when he falls. But also be firm and do not enable bad habits that may be detrimental to him.

You have all the reason to be sad because of your son's neglect of duty to you. It seems he is a spoiled brat that is why his reaction towards you and other members of the family is not good. Although it is hurting but let him go what he wants, you just pray for his safety because you cannot enforce to him what you want. He has his own life and in a mature age. Just accept the fact that you failed in raising a son like that and continue your life. Give all your burdens to GOD and He will take care of them all. Mathew 11:28-30

hi snowy22315 join the club my birthday was yesterday and no' my son did not call me either. He is fifty so age is no excuse. but I do not think he even remembered it is my birthday.I think a lot of men just do not remember things like that. yet my son will come see me every wednesday and he fixes any glitches I may have on my computer, and he buys things for me all the time, its just that he does not remember my birthday. Our relationship is really pretty good. so I do not know what to say. Maybe you should set him down and just talk to him, a heart to heart talk, tell him you love him, and do not like to be forgot like that. be direct and honest with him as men do not pick up on any beating around the bush.

May i ask you?actually,what is the real problem between you and him?Is there something that he doesn`t agree with you?Try to communicate with him,give him understanding..discuss

Another thing i have forgotten.. There might be a generation gap between you two.. Try to fill the gap.. everything will become fine..

Dont worry.. almost all men are like that.. I have seen my father who dont even remember the saree which my mom had worn for her wedding.. Mine is a love marriage and my hus. have not wished me on our first anniversary last month.. It doesnt mean that they dont love you.. It is b'coz their brain doesnt have provision to remember things like that.

I would give him some space. This is really common at that age as they are trying to be independent and on their own. As for the birthday gift....also typical. Don't take this all to heart. He will grow up and you will be closer again. Possibly you will be closer than you were before.

You have to keep talking to him assuring him of your love and desire to have a good relationship with him. Keep praying that God will give him the heart to put away any grudges against you.

It's a usual behavior for a guy, most of them are insensitive and doesn't mind there family or doesn't show any affection for them. That is also the problem of my mom to my brother, he didn't listen to her that's why they fight always and my brother leaves home for several days and then go back. My mother was always worried when he leaves but i noticed that my brother doesn't care for it at all. my mom said that it is usual because he is a guy.

Maybe you need a communication between you and your son.Just put your article to him,let him know what is your opinion.And when he has his own child,he will understanding you.

Hi! As long as you know you did not anything wrong do not worry, but if you have done something that will really hurt his feelings, what do you think you should do? Is it best you apologize? Or is best just to wait him go back, maybe he have a very good reason for all of this, maybe there is a surprise. We cannot tell, just think positive. O about the apologize thing, if you really did something wrong sometimes we have to put away our prides and go down so that everything will be fine. I know you a a parent but sometimes, it's the way things must be done. A lot of problems happens between parents and their son and the problem is that parents do not know how to put away their prides. Ok, if you haven't done anything wrong well just wait, i am sure he will come back, just be positive, just like what i have said earlier maybe he is for a surprise or something that is why he is doing that to you. If you know you raised him well do not be afraid, he will not do anything that will make you feel really bad. Just try to understand things. Maybe he is busy? We do not know but be a positive thinker.

That is what we parents always desire to build a strong relationship with them but when they start to have a life of their own they seem to forget us & uses a lot of alibi to make an excuse of themselves why they done that. It always took them for a while to realize that they hurt our feelings if I were you just try not to think about it a lot make your self busy or else your health will be affected. I wish you the best.

I am sure your son loves you. I am always shy to call my father. I do not how to make expressions to him, though I love him. Maybe we need find a new way to show our loves