Can a relationship survive with jealousy?

@Hanan_x3 (294)
United States
November 16, 2009 1:06pm CST
I have a boyfriend who is very jealous usually. I don't know what to do with him. At times he seems to be reassure but other times hes not. And he gets crazy. I don't know what to do? Can our relationship survive? We have a strong relationship though. We've been through so many difficulties and yet we still love each other very much!
8 responses
• United States
16 Nov 09
In my experience with people who are jealous, It usually means that at some point in their life they have been hurt by someone. It is very difficult to let go of something like that. How long have the two of you been together?
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@Hanan_x3 (294)
• United States
16 Nov 09
We were together for 8 months. Broke up for almost a year. And went bak together this summer. We've been together for almost 3-4 months now.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
16 Nov 09
If that jealousy is continue. I don't your relationship will survive. It's not bad to be jealous sometimes because it show you how much you love a one person. But if that is not the right place I think the relationship gone away...
• India
17 Nov 09
i think you should try to find out the reason for his jealousy. the day you will be able to find that out. from then you can start looking for a solution for that problem and u can do that by yourself.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
too much of something is bad so if you'll established jealousy in your relationship, it will be very much difficult for you guys to establish trust. i don't things will work out out for the both of you.
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov 09
If you had a strong relationship, he wouldn't be that insecure. That's my opinion, don't mean to offend you. I wouldn't want to be with a person who didn't trust me. If the person has to get over jealous about little things no matter how I try to make him feel secured, then, that to me is too stressful because I'd feel useless. I don't want the stress over little things. I looked at your profile. You're 18, still young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You can only work a relationship out if both of you are willing to do so. If he's not willing, there isn't much you can do. If he doesn't trust you, you can only do so much to try and win his trust. If you don't then you can choose to stay with him and his doubts about you, or leave. I wish you the best.
@nawanta (328)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 09
I'm sure your love can't be survived if jealousy become the atmosphere. Love needs trust. And jealousy shows your lack of trust. Jealousy also expresses a possessive love, in which you feel that your lover is your possession. And true love indeed expresses not possession but self giving.
@JIMBOH (62)
16 Nov 09
No. I think that a relationship is built on trust of one another. If a person has jealous thoughts about their partner then they really do not trust them. In a relationship you must trust your partner that is the bottom line.
@michmich2 (432)
• United States
16 Nov 09
I guess it kind of depends on how you feel about it and how much you feel like it interferes with your relationship. Personally, I could not stay with someone who is very jealous. It has happened to me in the past. One relationship lasted 3 years before I had had enough. It drove me crazy how jealous he would get and the way he would take his jealousy out on me and some of the guys that we knew. The reason we were together for 3 years was that we loved each other very much and I thought he would outgrow it or that I could eventually show him that he had no reason to be so jealous. I ended up having to give up because I realized that he was never going to change and I just could not take it!