Autism and ADHD -- I think I am going nuts!

Hi, you have boy and girl right? how cute. I have two girls, one is 5 years old and one is 20 months. They are very busy but I never experience this kind of violent thing that child can do. Well, boy is touch but not that... have you try to explain to him what is going on? have you try to ask him what he done for the day at school? sometime, he has hard day at school for some reason that he can't tell you... I see mostly kid has something to hide cuz he afraid to tell an adult, he thinks they will not believe or help him out. So, try to ask him what he does at school, do any boy pick on him? do you have friends? what are their name. You have to give him some prize while you are talking to him. make sure he feels comfortable to talk to him. And about TV, you should cut down on what he is watching... sometimes, it makes him got the thought. if he asked you why? then you say... oh, cable is out and they will not allow us to watch that show again unless we pay them or something like that. My 5 years old daughter was a little suborn but after I tried to make her feels comfortable with me and teach her a little of good thing everyday, and give her prize once she does something right... Now, she listens to me and do what I say. Hope it helps but if you want to get more under control at once time, it will not happen cuz he is 7 years old now, but it doesn't mean it is too late... you are the mom and you can give him thing and also take it back as well. And dont forget to make sure that you are the boss not him. Good luck

With my son, he has mild autism and SEVERE ADHD!!! He is very impulsive, demanding, independent and getting into the ODD (occupational defient disorder). The other children with the austism spectrum might not have the ADHD disorder, just the ADD or something else. The austism has many other items revolving around it. Now with my son, I have him see a therapist, a behavioral therapist comes to the house. Does he act like this in school? Could it be, that he is jealous of his sister, the cat just wanting attention? I know my son does many things just to see what I would say about it, do to him and think just to be spiteful? Since these children don't know how to communicate well, we will have to continue to repeat ourselves, TRY to stay calm, yet we have to be consistent. That, "consistent" is a big deal with this children, have a routine, and try to explain things to him. I would get him to a behavioral therapist and maybe see if there is something really bothering him, either at school or at home.

beckysue surely you know that with autism and severe adhd you will have a child who is not normal,he will not behave normally like other kids so if he is getting violent you must go back to your doctor and if necessary get to a specialist in autism as he sounds like you and he both need help.you know that he could without really meaning to , hurt your small baby, you have an obligation to them both and you cannot keep thinking of him as a normal child for he is not.The specialist can tell you why he is acting that way and what you need to do when this happens, its not from television,you are still thinking of a normal kid,this child 'is autistic and severely so from your description,ypu need more medical help there.

My daughter has a 7 year old autistic boy he does not have it as severe as your boy. It is very difficult her main problem is he is still not clean and using nappies still, he has a lot of problems with constipation and leaking and she recently moved and it started him wetting the bed, I think it is because they do not like change and need to be in a constant routine even down to when he eats. And yes they do loose their tempers very quickly. Your problem might be he is picking things up from school maybe someone is picking on him and he thinks thats what he is meant to do to others it would be worth asking about.

I've thought about this before. Just a suggestion. Try to teach him some mind games like, scrabble, chess or any games that can make him focus thinking of the game and to prevent his hyper activeness. Give him more attention in playing mind games. I think there's a medicine that make him calm and cure his Autism. Try to search some tips to prevent his activeness.

Of all my 27 years on this planet I have never heard of Autism around where I live , I come from Africa where this condition is not so common , I had to read on the internet in order to understand what it actually is. I am truly compassionate with your son's condition and I hope that modern medicine evolves soon to be able to find a remedy to this problem.

I have to wonder if it isnt all due to having autism and ADHD, could it be he is acting out as he is jealous of anything that he thinks is getting any attention that he thinks should be his? I would look into seeing a specialist and talking to them. It could also be that he does need some discipline, not saying beat him or anything but really let him know that it isnt appropriate behavior. I can only go on how my step cousin acts and my Best friends son, they both have Autism. I wish you all the best. I guess the best thing I could say is really try to get him into a specialist.

my thoughts are with you. my son has ADD and ASPERGER'S as well. my son does not have these violent issues so i am very thankful but i really feel for you and your situation. my son goes for therapy twice per month to help him cope with emotional type issues and it is very helpful. i think you need professional intervention here to determine what other help they can provide so he does not hurt himself or someone else. behavioral type therapy and perhaps some social skills as well. good luck with this.

I have an ADHD appointment with my 7 year old son tomorrow.I know how you feel as my son smashed up the classroom every week as well as kicked and punched the teachers and the helpers at his school.The school puts him in a room where there are only bean bags when he gets like that as well as takes his shoes off so that he can not hurt anyone.When he has calmed down he then returns to class to have the one to one teaching.I tried the approach like the school has to take him away from others so he do not hurt them,not easy when you have 5 other children.Go to the dr again and ask for more help as well as more support,if you do not ask for the help or the support then you will not get it.Good luck.

My baby brother suffers from ADHD and It really hurts when somebody doesnt understand his situation. He is hyperactive but not violent, he is just hurting his self unconciously. I alove my brother so much that's why i encourage my mom to take him in the school of special child and i contribute for the fees. I am happy that eventually he is changing although very gradual but it is enough at least i know that my brother will change someday. He was also checked by a Doctor and recommend to in a school of special child.

Mostly its genetics, im a nurse and from what i have studied it may come from your blood line and it may inevitable. Place them in a special school specializing with those sickness.

Hi, I can only relate with you about ADHD. One of my nephews has it. He's hyperactive, has very short attention span (he gets easily bored), sometimes he talks too much, he sleeps very late at night (usually in the morning), loves to play a lot. ADHD is not really a mental disease but a behavioural disorder; still something is wrong with their brain chemicals. Anyway, these kind of children will not listen to logic. It's probably best that you consult a psychologist. We did that for my nephew. The child will be given proper care/guidance and the parents will be given advice on what activities the child should be engaged to. Autistic children may not want to be exposed to people. Sometimes they don't like too much noise, and they will cover their ears. But, I think that you should introduce your kid to other children. The story you related about the cat - my assessment is that your son was only playing with the cat, but of course he didn't know that he's hurting the cat. Give him some small tasks or responsibility at home, like asking his help to fetch the towels, or to fold his clothes, or to carry a small basket for you. But, don't let him near the baby, he might suffocate her (just a precaution). I hope your boy will grow up to be a regular kid. Good luck!