Then Why Shouldn't We Say "Sweetie" to Women or "Boy" to Black people?

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Over the last couple of decades there has been a concerted effort to change the way we do things in our society. There has been the meaningless "Political Correctness" that made a power play out of common courtesy, but there was also a much more important effort. The use of words to put others beneath us has come under attack, and rightly so. Words are symbols and only have the meaning we allow them to have, but some of those symbols are wielded like weapons from one person to another. Some of the words can be used as terms of endearment, but only among peers who understand the actual usage by the speaker, and accept it. Even our mosts hateful language can be considered friendly, but only by common consent between the parties. It's nothing new really. In times passed (when people used terms like "in times passed), one would never get away with addressing someone their senior by their first name. To do so would welcome swift retribution and demean the speaker. The shame alone was often enough to make the proper attitude adjustment. Somewhere along the way we lost some of that societal respect, probably about the time we quit respecting each other and insisted it was beneath us. But what has lasted is the remnants of that system of respect. For a man to call a woman "sweetie" without her consent is more than just a faux pas of etiquette. Why? Because the entire use of the word without consent is meant to put the woman beneath the speaker (so to speak). Many of us have heard a lot of Black people refer to themselves in what has become known as "The N Word". But I can't remember a time when a Black man considered "Boy" a term of indearment, even amongst his peers. Of course, it might happen, I don't know, I've just never heard it. When Prs. Obama protrated himself to both the King of Saudi Arabia and the Emporer of China, he was putting himself and the US beneath the station of the royalty. He was doing the exact same as if the King called him "boy" or called Mrs. Obama or one of our female government officials "Sweetie". Would Prs. Obama accept such a demeaning act against him, his wife or any of the woman who represent our nation in official capacities? I doubt it. But he was, nevertheless willing to do exactly that with no prompting, coersion or insistence from the royalty he demeaned himself (and us) before.