Is your Spouse your Best Friend?
By Slewis77
@Slewis77 (47)
United States
November 16, 2009 9:47pm CST
I am so in love with my husband. I tell him a thousand times a day how much I love him. I could stare at him for hours. I love the way talks, thinks, and acts.
He has a great sense of humor and can relate to any issue. We tell each other everything. I mean everything!!!! Our secrets, our experiences, and fantasy's. My husband is the only person on this earth who knows everything about me.
I am certain our relationship is extremely rare.
Do you have the same relationship with your spouse?
17 responses
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
17 Nov 09
We also have this kind of relationship, I too am very lucky and never get tired of being with him, talking to him and love him more everyday. We share everything and are so open to each other. I think that is what a marriage should be even thou I know alot of them arent like that.
We got together when he was 14 and I was 16 and married when he was 16 and I was 18. We are now in our 40's and I wouldnt change a thing and I know that he wouldnt either!
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I tell everyone the same thing, communication, respect and love are the 3 main things in keeping things right in a marriage. If you respect someone and love them you dont do things that will hurt them. Open communication as everyone needs to keep open to their partners.
Relationships can be work at times but they are totally worth it!
@BNice70 (12)
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17 Nov 09
Hi Slewis,
For a minute it sounded like you were describing my marriage. You mentioned secrets and fantasy's, subjects most couple stay away from for are afraid of what they might find out. But, if you are truly in love you want to know what goes on in there head. This will help gain understand and hopefully respect for sharing such person information.
My wife and I have been together for 13yrs and recently she shared some really personal events to that happen to her in her past. I was angry at first, but I gained a whole new understanding of the kind of person she is. In turn I have done the same and now she understand me as to the way I think and my take on issues of the world.
Marriage is not about just spending the rest of your life with someone, but someone you can share your inner most secrets. Think about this. Why do you think the came up with, "Spousal Privilege!"
@BNice70 (12)
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18 Nov 09
Yes and no, anything your husband tells you can't be used in court without your permission. But if you happen to mention something to a third party and they go to the police, it can be used. Since the you discussed it with your friend you automatically loose privilege. LOL! Does that help you?
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
You must be newlyweds!
Congratulations! 
You're extremely lucky to have that kind of relationship.
I envy you!
You're extremely lucky to have that kind of relationship.
I envy you!
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
17 Nov 09
My spouse is not my best friend because I have never regarded her as a member of all my friends.
Love and friendship are different concepts completely, just like the relationship of family and friends. In other words, there's absolutely no comparison between love and friendship. Of course, if I can treat my spouse as my friend, she may be not the best one because I have some friends who I am familiar with and I have a steady and long relationship with them.
Both love and friendship are important parts of our life. Without one of the two things, we may not continue our life any longer.
@BNice70 (12)
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18 Nov 09
That's interesting, because I always thought your spouse someone you can tell you inner most secrets too. Why not? The most important part about the success of my marriage is I can tell and have told her everything. I want her to know what kind of man I am down to my soul! Any other way is not fair to them, because are in a way putting on a front and possibly give the other person a different impression of who we really are.
In my career, I have met a lot of couple that have divorced and the number one reason (along with money) is they really didn't know the person or "Your not the person I married!" These things always come out, so deal with them up front and you will discover a new love and respect for one another. Plus you tend to understand why they make or have made specific choices in there life, based on something that might have happened in the past.
Your wife or your friends can leave you stranded anytime, but its your wife you take the oath under got with. I don't remember spending 15k on an event, and taking that oath with ANY of my buddies. So ask yourself, who should your loyalty lay with?
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
18 Nov 09
First of all Congrats....Your are lucky...I love the way you both love each other....and may this love live forever.Amen.God Bless You...Take care
@nhagen (30)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I do have that kind of relationship with my husband and I LOVE it! I am sure you feel as blessed as I to have a wonderful husband who is also your best friend. It is awesome that you can share everything with him, because communication plays a huge role in a successful marriage.
One thing I love thinking about, is the fact that I get to spend the rest of my life with him. That thought just makes me so happy, and I wished that every couple could feel the same way!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
17 Nov 09
Wow, that is wonderful. All the best for both of you. I have a very good relationship with my husband. He is very loving and caring. The only problem is that now we are in different countries. I am waiting for my visa to join with him, but it is getting delayed because of some unknown reasons. He is coming down to my country and I am very excited about that. I made a board at home and literally cutting down each day and waiting for his arrival. My husband is the most understanding man I found on earth.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 09
hmmmh .. I think I do not have same relationship as you tell ...
I have been married less than 5 years and until now I still wonder, am I loved her?
@Liuya1121 (33)
• China
17 Nov 09
I am blessing you that you and your hushand are good friends. It is less than three years since I and my husband met each other. And we got married three months ago. I think if we don't have the common interests and hobbies we won't get married. We can study, paly games and travel together.
@FRANCISCOANDLEE (750)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Your relationship is rare. I have been married twice now and they were never friends :(. Now I am with a man who is my best friend and will be my husband Oct 16 2010. We talk, laugh, play. we do everything we can together and miss the heck out of each other during the work day. Other then work we are together shopping cleaning laundry you name it and not once do we feel like our space is being invaded. we breathe for each other. I like you love to hear his voice cant take my eyes off of him love to see him smile... True love is a wonderful thing .
@Penyarikan (187)
• Indonesia
17 Nov 09
Well, I usualy not talk to much and I don't like when someone talking to much to me. It's kind of anoying. But when I'm with my wife...somehow I turn into chatrobot. I just keep talking about anything that I have in my mind, And I never feel anoyed when she talk a lot to me. She is kind of person who talk a lot. She is the only person that can make me feel this way and I don't mind at all. She migh be not the most beautyfull women that I ever know. But I know that she is the best for me. Look like your relation with your husband went prety well, i hope that will last forever.
@toCallMyOwn (35)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
i don't know if i have the same relationship with my husband like yours but i defnitely treat him as one of my bestfriends, i tell him how much i love him, and i tell him everything that i feel and think... but in a realtionship there are always ups and downs, problems and misunderstandings normally happen but we make it up to each other at the end of the day... so think even though there are differences, i still consider him as my BFF
@JayShay82 (78)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Sounds like you are talking about my marriage! My husband is absolutely my best friend. We tell each other everything and don't keep any type of secrets. And it is the same way as you guys. We have been laid off for almost 10 months and even though we are both looking for other jobs, we haven't gotten sick of being with each other everyday. There are moments in the day when I just lay there and stare at him. I just can't believe how happy he makes me! We have only been married for a little over a year, but I hope the feeling is still the same when we have been married as long as you and your husband!
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
hello slewis!
i am so happy to know that you have a very good relation to your husband...that's really a big blessing! to be a friend to our husband is really great, what more a best friend? the fact that you can tell him anything & everything...is really wonderful... i hope for more happy years for both f you together...
as for me, i always say that my mom is my very best friend... but since i meet and marry my husband, i already have two best friends now...my mom & my husband! he's just so nice, he's someone who really understands me and know me by heart...just like my parents. he listens to me and i listen to him. he's my husband, my lover, my councilor, my friend, my best friend...
he's a blessing to me & to my family and i thank God for bringing him to my life...
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
17 Nov 09
My bestfriend is my boyfriend. We've been together 5 years already. May not be a long time to some but it is for me.
We have so much in common, sometimes it's scary. It's like we know eachother's thoughts. We love eachother intensely...and I think that's how I describe our relationship - "intense".
We are great together but at times when we disagree, it does get intense in a way that emotions run high but we don't hurt eachother. We clam up. Still, our love always sees us through, even in the most challenging situations we've been in.
I do believe the relationship I have with him is rare. It seems like these days, people give up on eachother with little things. We've been through some pretty tough situations and we're still together, as happy as ever, going strong.
@yogitapop (58)
• India
17 Nov 09
humnn , well , yeah my spouse is my best friend........he understand me , he helps me out in each and everything i do , he shares with me all the things , which he never thinks of sharing with everyone , same as with me , i also share my each and everything with my spouse......................sometimes we are friends sometimes we are lovers , that's it , it goes...........all together.............
