Do you get offended easily by the words and deeds of others?

Yes Bala.I used to , am still sensitive and the sadder thing in this is that I have a pretty transparent face that shows feelings on my face.I wish to change, develop a sterner and harder attitude.I am still hopeful that I would achieve a bit of nenjuram some day.I allow myself to be hurt[Am working against this.] and I wholeheartedly agree with the statement of the great soul.

I used to be very touchy too.And I sometimes will show temper when someone said something I just don't agree, which I don't know how to argue.Later, I found that it's not a good idea. Then, I realise that just smile at this situation is good.So I would smile first, then speak.

Nope, I dont get offended that easily with whatever insult people throws at me. Good thing that doesnt happen often.LOL Generally speaking, I just dont care what they say. I know what I am, I know what I did, I know what Im doing, and I know what I will be doing. Same thing goes with the "how".^_^ If their 'insult' is spot on, then fine they got it right, so what? If its waay of the mark, then all the more that I will just shrug it off. With those words, well, that kinda goes into how close a person is to us. We let them get that close enough that we dont mind being vulnerable to them. That act shows that we trust that person enough not to hurt us when we have shown our vulnerability to them. It is up to them if they want to take care of that privilege or they're going to abuse it by intentionally hurting us. Though there are those occasions when the other person did not intend to hurt, but in our sensitivity to that person, we get hurt all the same. So, we only let those people we care about hurt us since we give them the privilege of being that close to us. Hope that made sense somehow.

Well I think that as humans who are born with feelings adn emotion ,we often get hurt by others deeds and words sometimes.Some persons are more "thick skinned" than others and can take just about anything .Personally for me I am not easily hurt ,I have come to expect that otehrs will do almost anything but there are soem people like my close family who may hurt me with perhaps the simpliest if deeds because I have a higher standard for them

That words really deep in meaning. But i think that is pointed in a government that being influence by other nation and wanted to be free in purpose...Have a nice day!

I used to get very upset by what people would say. I now just let them talk and do not let it affect me because people are going to say what they want and you can not change them. I agree that noone can hurt me unless I let them.

you are right,it all depends on the mind.i am a very emotional person and tend to get hurt very easily but over the years,i have conditioned my mind,not to be bothered by silly thinf\gs,i think the saying is so true!!!

There are people who offend me simply because I know what is going on, and there is a history there, but if people whom I don't know say something, I am not affected by them.

It all depends on what it is. I try not to let a whole lot of things bother me but sometimes it cannot be helped. I can only take so much from a person before they how inconsiderate or rude they are.

Yes, you are so right. We allow bad people to hurt us by playing the victim role. Is important to show them that we are above negativity. This is why is so important for me to associate myself with only good people.

balasri me too but this is really so good to take to heart. that is so true when you think about it. If you do not let someone upset you then you will not be upset.It does work if one just thinks about it. Like Abraham lincoln said about happiness I reckon a man is about as happy as he makes up this mind to be. that is nobody can make you happy but yourself.

come to think of it, he is right. We can get hurt only if we allow it to happen and therefore it is within our control whether or not to let something hurt us. I am but human and even if i don't want to get hurt, sometimes I am affected by what others do. However, in my own way i guess i have been practising what Gandhi has said since i always try not to let things hurt me if i can help it.

I love that quote very much! I am a very sensitive person who has always been easily hurt and rather ‘thin skinned’; I can see my eight year old daughter is the same. It is true that no one’s words can hurt you without your permission and it is indeed your choice whether you allow things and deeds to hurt you. I was brought up with mean words and one would think that I would be used to insults! My daughter’s teacher taught her that one should be a duck not a sponge, a duck will let everything wash over her and a sponge will absorb everything and keep it inside.

in the words of someone much wiser than me "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me" ok that person was an idiot words do sometimes hurt especially coming from someone that you love

There would be little time left for other things if we listen to gossips about you spreading around.

Hi Bala, It is very meaningful and it should be because it comes from the great personality. But I don’t know the practical side. How many people can follow the same? The strong declaration can give some relief that is for sure. We have to go long way to follow and adopt the methods. That is why he is great we are common. Thanks for sharing the great quote.

I look at the intent. If someone is PURPOSELY intending to irritate, annoy, frustrate or get me boiling over, then I probably WILL get offended. If they did not intend it and are APOLOGETIC and SORRY, then it is just a misunderstanding. I am also a bit cynical and have found out that quite a few people can ATTEMPT to hurt me without my permission simply because they think they have the right to be a jerk and get away with it. So... if the intent is messed up, then I come down on people. If the intent was pure, well, sometimes we can even be friends afterwards.

I think they are very wise and great advice to survive in this world. There are always going to be those out there that feel like they have to belittle others to feel better about theirself. We can not let these things hurt us because we know who we are and what we are capable of.

That is the things i use to practice i my life as i think other would not hurt you physically unless you give them the freedom to do so. Even though i have less temper when it already reach my limit of patience it would explodes as it is my way to protect myself. I think toleration exist to those who is very understanding and have self control that a person remain calm unless he let self get affected.

As kids we used to chant..Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me..Once upon a time, yes..when I worried about peer pressure, being a part of the group rather than apart from it..Anymore, tho, my notion is that 'Saying it don't make it so!' and I figure if what folks might say about me is right its for me to decide if its something I need hold onto or grow away from..and if folks are wrong about what they say about me then they're announcing their ignorance, which doesn't demand anger so much as pity..Enjoy!