My girl started to like another one but she still love me ,what can i do?
By Shooyao
@Shooyao (156)
China
November 17, 2009 10:17am CST
People always like new passion.
Most of scientists said the love’s life only have two years,then the love feeling will become relative feeling,so this time maybe is the most dangerous time which will take place some changed.
Recently I found my girl always send message to a strange man i have ever known,then she told me she started to like the one and only like.She told she love me all the same but she can't help liking that man.She lie to me so many times.
Almost this is a sin of woman ,frankly ,sometome i always concentrate on reading or others things about my course,because m a college student need to face so many important exam and strive to take great efforts to maintain our ability.
I real love my gf so much, but what can i do right now?
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26 responses
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Hi Shooyao! I'm sorry for what you are going through with your gf.
I agree with most mylotters said. Your girlfriend is cheating on you emotionally. I know how much you love the girl that's why you let this thing happen. You could have asked her if she is still inlove with you or already loving the new guy she used to like. I suggest you ask her if she would is willing to end up your relationship and be with that guy.
That might hurt, and may take time for you to recover. But later on, you will realize, she is not the one worth your love and affection. There are lots of fishes in the ocean.
Keep smiling:)
yan
@faikeijames (247)
• United States
18 Nov 09
I agree, there are so many more fish in the sea that are sooo willing to get caught by a good man, which there is a shortage of.
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Yeah, give her and yourself some time if your relationship still works or what not. Good luck to you and hopefully sooner you'll be happy again!
@menolly22 (217)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Alot of people may disagree with me, but here it goes anyway. I consider that cheating. Emotionally cheating. But still cheating. If she is like this with one man, then how many others has there been or will there be? I'm sorry your hurt. My advice, move on. It's not worth it.
@Fightinghard (37)
• China
18 Nov 09
Sorry to hear that!
It is a little complex.
I think what you need do is having a good talk with ur gf and tell her the serious result. If she still really love you, I think she will make a choice which you will be content with.
And just adjust yourself properly, don't let these trouble disturbs your life too much!
I hope you gf will come back to you and you will get ur real love!
@faikeijames (247)
• United States
18 Nov 09
It sounds like you need to let her figure out what she wants and give her space. If she's lied to you so many times, she knows you'll take her back so she'll continue to keep doing the same things without change. You deserve better, someone who will be focused on just you. (my opinion). Good luck!
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
18 Nov 09
In my eyes, for the long run, you'd better break up with her without any hesitation.
As we all know, it is impossible completely for us to love two people at the same time. If she has started to like the other one, then she won't love you any longer sooner or later. If you want to continue the relationship with her, it means that you will spend much time on her but get nothing at last.
It is worthless to love one who has loved the other one. Don't hesitate if you have made a decision to keep away from her.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
18 Nov 09
hi,Shooyao!
I really think it's unfit for your girlfriend to fall in love with another man.
a woman shouldn't love two man at the same time,just like a hunter should chase two rabbit in the same time.
but just as what you said,people tend to be attracted by new passion.and you are busy with your study...
so why not calm down for a while and let her make her decision.after all,it's up to her,not you.she should weight the relationship between her and you and the freshness from the other man.
well,good luck.
have a nice day!
@hisoka147 (606)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Try to talk to her with a little bit of effort. Try and focus more of your conversation about your relationship. You have to go and tell her direct to the point that you are feeling something about her that she is changing the way how she is being together with you. If she still insist that she really wants the other one (the strange guy) then at least you have already done your best to keep her from you but unluckily she doesn't really like you. Anyway, there are so many other girls out there that you can choose from, at least you already gained the experience to avoid such act.
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
18 Nov 09
Apparently, you are not willing to condone her double dating so you have to tell her to choose between you and the other guy or alternatively, you end the relationship.
@jesloveian (30)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
that's cheating, not love. i'm a girl and i used to be like that. and to tell you, it's not love. sometimes we just have to be sure. i mean, when my relationship with the other guy did not worked, i just have to be sure that there's still man waiting for me. it could be like that, you know. or your girl is not happy anymore with you. she said she loves you but in reality, it's just pity. she pity you.
@DarkMarixx (331)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Just prove to her that you love her so much and that you're better than the man she started to like.
@chinthit (70)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Yes, it sounds like she is cheating on you emotionally. Not physically. You might want to try to find out WHY she is doing this. Also, you might want to try to put yourself in her position. Maybe there is something lacking in your relationship with her. Then you have to decide if this is something you can live with, or not. If not, then move on.Good luck
@rookie24 (80)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
don't say it is a sin of a woman to cheat,that would be sexism..however,i think in a relationship,there are ups and downs,in your case this will be the down.You don't have to feel insecure about it,however,you mentioned that she started to lie about the man makes me think there's something fishy going on..on you girlfriends side,maybe she has come to like another man because you don't spend quality time anymore.maybe he is feeling unstable and insecure about the relationship.rekindle the flame.if you love her so much you don't want to lose her,then talk to her right away and sort things up...best of luck!!!
@eddiechoohn (340)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 09
That is not real love. Leave her alone for awhile and ask her to decide
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
17 Nov 09
Well in my eyes she has already cheated emotionally. It is true that the feelings change over time but it doesnt mean that it gets worse or that it gives you free rein to go looking and cheating. Anyone deserves better then that. My advice is to forget and move on. I know it is hard to do but if she does it now do you really think she wont do it again? Good luck!
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
For me, i think that is still a form of cheating, if she still continues that you must end up with her. She's not worthy to be your wife someday, thinking that you wife liked another man instead of you alone. I know that you'll still find another girl who's been faithful to you because you girlfriend now is not worthy of your love. I know that she don't love you, because if she do love you, she won't be liking another man that could hurt your feelings as well.
@kimmie_0190 (19)
• Philippines
17 Nov 09
I maybe a little bit harsh but I really don't think you deserve your girlfriend.. You move on.. She doesn't love you anymore because if her feelings for you is still the same she wouldn't dare to cheat.. Telling you that she still loves you while she's cheating is such a lie.. She's actually fooling you and you did not realize.. You deserve someone better..
@cblair62430 (1)
• United States
17 Nov 09
You need to move on as this will only keep breaking your heart. Cheaters are not good for anyone, and they always seem to repeat the mistake over and over and over. Leave her now, or prepare yourself for a bigger hurt down the road.
@ivy010 (1)
• China
18 Nov 09
I have been this situation 2years before,he had two girlfriends--me and another,i don't know who is she,what is her looklike,i was sure he will come back and love me only,cause we have loved 5 years,i thought i know him. Fact is oppsite,he left me alone,i thought i am so pity that time.However,life treat everyone fairly,i meet my husband,and we are very happy now,i found the one you married is the best.
