I am in dilemma!
By lynnzheng
@lynnzheng (89)
China
November 17, 2009 7:34pm CST
my boyfriend will go to beijing, the capital of China, because he will find a new job there. now we are both in baoding city, a small city in China. if he goes, should i go with him, because i have a job here, although the salary is not high, but it is free and relax, actually i wanna find a new job in beijing, but i am wondering that if i go to beijing, our relationship would have some change, how can i manage my own life. you know, beijing is a big city and there are lots of temptations there, if he was addicted to some temptation. what should i do or just i think too much about this.
3 responses
@eddiechoohn (340)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 09
You really need to sit down and talk to him. Ask him whether he wants you to follow him to go to Beijing, and let going your current job sounds a bit risky for me. If you have contacted an employer in Beijing who wish to employ you, then thats better.
Speaking about temptations, how long have you guys been together? In my opinion, the longer your relationship, the effect of the temptations will decrease.
Have a nice day: )
@lynnzheng (89)
• China
18 Nov 09
thank you for your kind reply. actually he is willing to be together and let me go with him. his job will be no problem in beijing, mine is too. but my job is decent because the company belongs to his brother. we are together for just 6 months, so i am not sure wether i should bet this or not.
@eddiechoohn (340)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 09
Thats good then if his brother offers you a job at his company, you wouldnt need to worry about your job then. Now i will suggest that you follow him, take it as a milestone about your relationship,get to know him better and let him know you better before you guys step into the next stage of life. Besides your boyfriend do you have anything that you will miss in Baoding?
@lynnzheng (89)
• China
18 Nov 09
thank you for your answer and advice, i have nothing missed in baoding. so i will follow him. thank you again. have a nice day!
@simonelee (2715)
• China
18 Nov 09
Hi,lynn. Before you make your own decision you have to consult your partner first if he likes you to come with him. Making your own decision would greatly affect your relationships. For me, moving to another city would be risky, you risk your job, the things you already established in your place and etc. We are currently facing a global crisis so finding a new job might be a problem even if you have good background.
In a relationship, it is not all about being together, what matter most is the love and trust you have towards your partner. Temptations is everywhere and it's up to the person if he/she let the temptations conquer her/him.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
18 Nov 09
You are welcome Lynn. good luck to your decision hope it will result to positive.
@lynnzheng (89)
• China
18 Nov 09
yea, you are right, love is a complicated thing and relationship is too. i should be serious and careful towards this decision. thank you very much dear simonelee.
