On whispers and shouts....

Hi Karen, I have to say I'm not a fan of either as I prefer people to speak clearly. I associate whispering with muttering which I loathe. There's been many an evening when a certain gent has joined the taverna table and beyond hearing my name from him have been more or less unable to understand a word he says as he is softly spoken to the point of muttering and of course doing it in Greek which I really need to hear clearly to understand properly. I'm not alone though and most of the Greeks have a problem hearing him properly as well. I suppose shouting then is better as long as it's not a case of being shouted at. I have one friend who shouts most of his conversation but very very clearly and I've actually picked up more Greek from him than anyone else, but he does it as used to shouting over the boats engines. So I guess I'd take the shouting type if it's clear as I'd rather understand what is being said than not. Actually thinking about it any group of Greeks put together usually shout.

hi karen madam, i am mild in talking mostly i am not shouting,i have seen some people they will should for all things every things,but some peoples tone is high we assume that they are shouting but when we know the thing,that they are talking,there are so many people with so many types of mentalities,have a nice day

Hi Karen! Quite an interesting thought! It appears saner if we talk in a soft and low tone, it is true that in that case others will have to pay more attention to listen to us. Shouting or yelling could be counter-productive and it could be taken otherwise. Some people have a habit of talking in louder tone and I think those people are not appreciated much by others. I try to talk in moderate tone so that the listener could at least listen to me and could understand me.

Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, Whispering comes only when you want only particular person to listen. Normally my parents used o whisper, so tah conversation is limited to themselves. But, in a class of 40 pupils, what is the tone to be applied taht student pay attention and listen to teacher. We have coaching classes of more than 100, where public address system is used. Also, if tehre is need of immediate attention like Fire', requirement of medical aid, to divert eveyone's attention, 'shouting' only will help. Further, during any conspiracy, whisperingony will be adopted. I think, everythingis right at it's own place. May God bless You and have a great time.

Loud people set my nerves on edge, lol! Their voices are always so sharp and jarrig to the system. It is very unsettling to have to be around that kind of noise, especially when someone is yelling into a mobile phone.

My boyfriend tells me that he can not stand that I do not yell when I am upset about something. He prefer I yell instead of calmly speaking.. *SIGHS* I guess opposites attract eh?

Hi Karen I find that to and I have to be honest I used to talk in a lower tone to my Staff as you always had one that was being ignorant, and they had to really pay attention to what I was saying People will listen more because they know they will miss something and of course they do not want to as it might be something interesting lol

That's very well said Karen. Only today I responded to one discussion where I expressed my utmost bitterness towards loud people. One of my pet peeves is loudspeakers and noise. I cannot stand it and starts to get discomfort. I talk very softly and it has been like this since my childhood. I am patient and soft spoken and love it when I meet similar people. I think, we can be soft yet be assertive for many seem to confuse between loudness and assertiveness. I would also like to share that I cannot be a part of rock band concerts which sometimes I like enjoying at home but when live I hate it, so much so, that i had walked out of a much coveted rock show in the city! My friends think I am weird, but that's how I am.

I think it depends on the situation, but in ALL situations some modulation is necessary. Monotone is definitely OUT. I speak to groups of children a lot and I often use a whisper. When there are children not paying attention, a whispered sentence (still in the story: not directed at a child) will get their immediate attention. A sudden shout (as part of the story) will do the same, but a whisper is usually more effective and lasting. I tend to think that kids are used to people shouting, and so a whisper carries more importance. I also conduct workshops for adult leaders and I often use a whisper. Here again, it seems to imply an importance - something to listen to intently. When our children were young, I never allowed them to talk between rooms (as I hear children and adults doing nowadays) They were always taught that if they had something to say, they would face the person to say it. I am pleased they carry this on with their children.

i HAVE A TENDACY TO TALK LOUD WHEN I AM TICKED OFF. wHEN MY SONS WERE HOME THEY WERE LIKE OH WELL, SHE'S AT IT AGAIN BUT WHEN I WAS REALLY UPSET & HURT OVER SOMETHING THEY HAD DONE & talked very softly to them it got their attention more, lol.

I use to have fun with this, I taught an adult class at night ans sometimes the discussions would get very loud, to calm everyone down I would whisper Your next test will be next week. Of course I had to repeat it but it certianly got people's attention.

hi karen, I think it takes a lot of patience and intelligence to be a soft spoken person. A person who raises his voice and tries to keep his point is maybe a fool. It is universal that people who are wise and clever won't ever raise their voice to show that they are the "Boss". Well my profession makes me to meet different industrialists who are extremely rich and successful. Most of them are very soft spoken, but at the same time they possess tremendous gravity in whatever they say.

This is actually something that I've been exploring recently with my children. I used to be the person that yelled at them when they were doing something wrong. However, in the recent past I've taken to more of a discussing things with them using a softer tone of voice. Surprisingly, it seems that when I use the softer tone of voice with them, what I am trying to convey to them comes through much better. It is a great thing to keep in mind and a philosophy that at least thus far has been beneficial in changing my parenting habits.

Hello Karen, i prefer the two method, when someone is far away from me and he or she talk softly i will not hear but when the person is close to me i prefer soft-spoken so that the person beside or behind me will not hear what the person is discussion with me

I heard of a person that trained their dog by only using whispers, sounded good to me. My hearing isn't the best, and my Mum is a bit deaf, so I usually get 'WHAT?' if I am not loud and clear.

hi peacefulwmn9 Soft spoken people get my attention far better than noisy belligerent yelling or shouting does. It is a known fact that if you want to win an argument with someone who is loud and obnoxious the quieter you can make yourself, even if you are angry, and the lower and softer you keep your voice the more apt you are to win hands down. the loud obnoxious lout will just give up and walk off in a huff.

hi,Karen curiousness is common to all men.and for this the world becomes more interesting and colourful,isnot it? have a nice day

Hi Karen. As far as I am concerned I really like the words: if you want someone to listen, whisper. I really do not like a shout since they really make me feel that the people who shout is rude. As a Chinese people, we often shout in the street, bus, subway, supermarket. In USA, people always say how to judge a person is a Chinese or a Japanese is to see who shout loudly in the public areas. It is realluy ashamed for me. When I whisper to some one, I can share mey secrets or some thing that not suit for everyone to listen. And I really thing whisper is a good way for us to express our feelings and opinions.