Wills (PLEASE READ NEED HELP)
By hagirl
@hagirl (1295)
United States
November 17, 2009 11:14pm CST
I need some opinions.... I have some step children and I have a biological son... I have two grandkids.... Honesty my step children at this time are all irresponsible and my son is estranged because his dad is a a**hole... He took me to court this month because I have not seen my son for five months.... The reason is because he is really out of control because of his dad.... They have accused me of drugs twice in which the 1st time got a drug test on my own and the second time social services came and I pulled out a hair and asked them where to pea at... They said that was not necessary because they know me.....He has threatened to burn a trailer of a boy he did not like where I live and his dad has also told him he was not his but yet in 2006 a DNA test was performed and 99.9999989 he is.... he is playing with his mind but he is disastrous at my house.... I tried to get him in a special program but they would not take him because of his behavior in school.... Anyway I wanted opinions about this..... My husband and I are making out our will because in the state of KY if anything happens to me my son will get 25% of everything that he will never see because of his dad.... His dad would love to make my current husband sell everything to get this too....We are making it that if either one of dies that all the property goes to the other.... If something would ever happen to both of us at the same time that our property goes to my sister..... She has a daughter that has Downs Syndrome and even with insurance some cost get very expensive..... This will can be amended at any time if our children straightens up and my sister will honor anything that I tell her on my deathbed if the Lord takes us both....Any vehicles that we have at our death if we both die will be donated to Volunteers of America for their Program for Cars for the Low Income Program./... Like I said at this time None of our children are very responsible at this time but we need something to insure our property does not get in the wrong hands.... I trust my sister with my life and if she feels our children need something even after we are gone they will get what they need..... Give me your opinion of what you think about this? I know this is a long discussion but I hope some of you read to give me feedback..... Thanx...
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@ZephyrSun (7381)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Well I have a question, were we married to the same man? LOL My ex is just as bad.
It sounds like you and your husband have a great game plan. It's good that you have a great sister as well that is willing to help in this way. I think you two have made the correct choices with your end affairs.
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
18 Nov 09
Yes, to me, making the wills at this time is a very good idea, and I think at this time, your sister, as you say, would be the one to leave it to, and hope and trust in her that she will abide by it, if something should happen to you or your husband!
And hopefully the state of Kentucky will come through with their decisions also!
Maybe also, you can stipulate in the will that your son receive something when he turns a certain age, at which your ex has no control!
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
18 Nov 09
In Kentucky it would be put in a fund until he turns 18 but if he is still around his dad, his will get the money one way or another you can count on that.... They will make sure my husband would have to sell everything also to make sure that 25% will be available also just for meanness.... Not to mention my son draws off my social security right at this time..... If I die that amount goes from $675 to 925 so my son will be taken care of us until he is 21 if he stays in school....
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 Nov 09
hello,
sorry to hear all the difficult time for you. the better way, you should have someone to be witness and have some court order to check on his DAD. it is hard for the children when parents seem not to care. you should be around more and make him feel comfortable about who you are to him. well, I dont know what do but you have to talk to advisor
@vandana7 (100300)
• India
18 Nov 09
Hi hagirl, we've had a peculiar situation in our family. My father was a minor and therefore, his father wrote substantial properties on his name while on his deathbed. This created a resentment against him in other siblings, and they did everything in their power to bring him down financially. Wills do not make things happy all around. I wanted to say this because you said you want to write to your sister, and her child has Down's syndrome. What makes you think your child, who "has threatened to burn a trailer of a boy he did not like" will be kinder to your sister or her child? I think creating a trust is the way. Appoint a couple of custodians, so that it is not easy for the boy to trouble any one of them, and it is not going to make him resent such relatives. If you want, leave something in will specifically to your sister in consideration for all the help she has been giving, and will continue to give to you and your family. Of course, take professional assistance.
