relationship with a married man? r u allowing it?

well girl that depends on what you want, but also know that in any thign you do there are always concequences, that all i got to say, but just enjoy your life that all.

Hi Iheimhar, I had just that kind of relationship before, and I can tell you that it will lead to nothing. We were together for 4 years, and he kept promising he'll get the divorce papers because he wanted to marry me. But in your case, if he hasn't seen his own son for six years after he left, what guarantee do you have that he will care for your baby in the future ? I think he's pure selfish, and wants to possess you but he himself doesn't want to be possessed by anything. Anyway, why do you want to be with a man who doesn't have any money ? I'm sure there are better men out there for you.

see It is not right to make relation with married man because who cheat his wife so what is gurantee that he will not cheat you after sometime when he will use you or get other better than you .IT will disaster of three life .SO you will not get any thing except dissapointment.

I used to be in love with a man who wasn't living with his wife but didn't divorse her because of a child they have together. No one can say that they didn't get divorce because they didn't have enough money. Because if his ex is okay with the divorce they can come to an agreement. And darling, if he says he doesn't have any money to get a divorce, do you think he'll have enough money to mantain you if you should have a child? whom for your information if you don't know, costs a lot of money. Having a baby is no walk in the park, and if you want to bring a child to this world then you should be prepared to have enough money to provide him with a safe and healthy inviroment home. What kind of home would it be where there father of ur child can barely pay a divorse but sure enough wants to have a baby??? That is just crazy talk! Don't let this creep try to ruin you, you might end up having a baby with him and then you will end up paying everything for the baby. Don't be a fool, tell him if he wants you, he needs to do this: 1. If he doesn't have enough money to get a divorse, start saving money to get one. [cuz if he loves you, he needs to prove that to you that he deserves you and is YOURS ALONE] 2. After he gets a divorse, if he really wants you, enough to have a baby with you, (just like he did with his first wife) then he needs to marry you. [because he just loves you just enough, just like he did with his first wife right?] 3. After all of the above, then have a baby with you... [you are still young, he can wait till he finishes all of the above first! If you wanna forget this man, do as I did to forget the other guy. Get him completly out of my life. Delete his number, email and even change ur phone if you have to. Don't ever talk about him to ur friends anymore nor talk to his friends or ask about him. Eventually I realised he only was USING ME for *other stuffs* because he knew I was in love with him but he had NO intentions of going serious with me. So don't be a fool like I was! There are TRAGILIONS men out there dying to be with you! So don't be a fool.

well for me you need to have security so you need to wait until he fixes his annulment, anyway there are lots of guys out there that you can meet maybe better than that one

For me if you really love that guy then tell him to make the separation legally. I believe that his estrange wife will cooperate since they are already six years separated. It is the only way for both of you to come in the open. Marriage will be no problem in the future. (annulment cost P150000.00 the cheapest i believe) Please try to response on my discussion 'is there a need for a reconciliation?'. I think your problem is a bit similar on my discussion.. tnx

In your situation, there is really nothing wrong with being involved. He is not with his wife and they would be divorced if they had the money to do so. I would not plan a child with him at this time. I think if he can't come up with the money to get a divorce then why would you want to add the extra financial burden on by bringing in a child. I think you would be wise to wait on the child until he gets the divorce. Another thing you want to consider here is how he is with the child that he already has. You said that he does not see this child? Just my thoughts here but I think you should take your time with this one.

I think in those situations, someone ALWAYS ends up getting hurt. Usually because the married person usually ends up staying with the person they are married to, and ends up leaving the mistress or the outsider. That's almost always how it works.

Having been seperated for 6 years, he should have made a firm decision and moved on with his life. You said that he has no money, does he not have a job, I hope you are not about to get into trouble with this guy. Tell him to finalize his divorce with his wife before you can make any commitment with him.

Hi lheimhar,No,it is so complicated.Even though they are separated but the truth is they were still married,unless they are legally annulled.for me,the best thing to do is to find another guy who can bring you as a legal wife not a mistress.At first it is so difficult because you really love that guy,but just think it possitively ,it is for your good future.Time will come that you can forget that guy. Wake up,don't make your life complicated having a baby with a married man.Good Luck,God Bless!

That sounds like a difficult situation to be in only because there might be more to the situation. If he wants to be with you, especially if he wants a child with you, then he should do the right thing and get a divorce from his wife first. Anything can happen in a situation like that, for example what if you guys are together and he just decides to go back to his wife? Or what if you have a child with him and he decides he misses his wife and his son? It's easy for him to go back to her while he's still married, and who knows, maybe he might not love her now or feel he wants to be married to her anymore, but in the future something can happen where he might feel otherwise. And if he really doesn't want to be married with her and start a life with you, then he'd find a way to save money to make that happen. I think I'm skeptical of situations like that because sometimes I think the situation might be a little more complex, such as, maybe he likes you and he's just telling you that he wants a divorce from his wife.

if you love each other ,you can continue this realtionship ,don't think so much ,if you think you cannot receive his ,leave him quickly ,time can let you forget him quickly

Your relationship will be doomed. Why doesn't he see his child. Doesn't that bother you that he doesn't especially when he wants you to have a baby with him. You need to cut your losses and leave this man. You will only end up hurt later on. JMHO

please look for your life partner before god.s judgment meets you.because you are breaking his law and there is no real evidence that the man has divorce the wife,what if they reconcile tomorrow or dont you think that the same thing that seprate them may seprate both of you tomorrow ,be wise because of reconning in eternity,

Hi lheimhar. I think you are beautiful enough to be only limited to one person. If you believe in God, then you should not force the relationship which is against the law. Also, part of having a happy family is to get married to the man of your dreams. It is difficult for you to marry him since papers alone says he's married already. Another thing, the people around you who don't know you will not understand your feelings. Married men has always the charisma of having a relationship to a single status lady. It can't be denied. You must explore, the world does not end on him. You just have to accept the truth that you can't be partners in life forever. Get him divorced legally first before anything.

I admire for your love with that person. I don't want to say that your love is wrong, for our heart only feel and it does not think. It may sounds too idealistic but loving someone is not just about the feeling and the hurt that you feel. But it is about a responsible emotion that we need to balance between our head and our heart. If you are living in a conservative country that does not allow divorce then you are in a big trouble. But are a lot of ways, consult spiritual adviser, your parents, your trusted counselor. Try to really think the consequences in the end it will be your battle. Don't just jump to it, think it thoroughly. God bless..

hello ms. pretty! There's nothing wrong if your inlove with that married man who is separated with his wife. Love will just grow in your heart without forcing it to come up. In your situition, only both of you knows what will happen in you future relationship. If you're truelly inlove with each other then, both of you are really destined! neither any hindrances can resist in your relationship if you're really meant to be..

This relationship will bring you nothing,trust me.Rarely could a man divorce with his wife when they have a child,and what's more,as some else said,if he really wants to marry you,he would break with his wife long time before he met you.You say he does not have enough money to get divorced.Did you ask yourself why and how? Is he really the Mr.Right for you? You think you can live a happy life with someone who has not enough material insurance? Think it twice,and you could see something in this relationship. A man who truly loves a woman should not cause problems and worry for her.You deserve a better life I think

lheimhar, it sounds like this would not be a good relationship. The fact is that he has not annulled his marriage in 6 years, and he does not see his own son. He's asking you for a baby and can't afford his annulment? A lot depends on your culture and how you were raised, but it sounds like this is not a good relationship.

It's not really if it's religiously wrong or wrong from my point of view that matters, it is whether you are willing to be with him for life or leave him. This is the hard part. You're decision affects your future. Think carefully. Cuz love ain't an east chair...