Will you give your cell phone number to someone you meet for the first time?
By CathyLee2009
@CathyLee2009 (429)
China
November 18, 2009 4:54am CST
One of my friend told me about this: a couple of days ago she took part in a party and had a talk with someone she didn't know there.when it came to half of the conversation,the man asked my friend for her cell phone number.my friend thought it seemed awkward to refuse him and gave her number to him.and the man dialed her cell as soon as he got her number on the spot.
Today that man called her but she didn't answer it.they just met once,and even the host of the party doesn't know him.my friend don't know who brought him to the party and regret giving him cell phone number.
I want to know will you give your cell phone number to someone you meet for hte first time?have you ever done like that?and what do you think of it?
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58 responses
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
19 Nov 09
hi,lidiam!
you are so lucky!I'm happy for you.
obviously,not all people is as lucky as you.some get into trouble because they didn't protect themselves fully.so I guess propably you are a very confident woman and make you decisions very decidely,so you don't fear of giveing out your cell phone number to a stranger.
thank you for your response.
have a nice day!
@theonehush (959)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
good for you lidiam :D goodluck to you and i hope you continue to be lucky :)
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
For me it depends CathyLee2009. I would give my cell number or calling card to someone I just know if the purpose is mainly business... But if its not that, no... sorry but I wont especially if I don't trust the person. Or would rather give a landline number which is not my direct line, if I find it awkward to refuse... Actually I did that before. I talked business but he tried to bring or shift the topic to other direction. That is my simple way of escaping.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
I also agree with waht SACHIN2708 said. We can always decline our calls from cell phone, anyways the caller's number is always appearing... thats for them
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
If she don't trust the man, just ignore him. No worries that man is completely harmless for he only knows your friend's cell number and nothing more. He will stop and get tired eventually.
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
19 Nov 09
hi,lovelyn!
thank you for your response!
actually,it depended on my friend,not me.
the case you mentioned is just what my friend worried about.
she couldn't make sure if the man would say something she didn't want to talk about.after all,she distrust him.
have a nice day!
@sincere4frdship (2228)
• India
18 Nov 09
Well, its depend for me ...
Some times i give number to persons whom i meet first time ....but some times i don't...Its all about the impression which we get ....
Thanks :)
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
19 Nov 09
hi,sincere4frdship!
thank you for your response.
I agree that the first impression is very important.though I cannot trust it very much.after all ,in fact it often turns out that so-called first impressions are not reliable.of course it is possible that some people seem nice at the first time you meet them are really nice guys.who knows?
have a nice day!
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,junmae!
thank you for your response!
another friend of mine just does the same thing as you!she is also a very nice girl,not willing to be impolite.but she feels upset and tired when someone keeps calling over and over again.
have a nice day!
@theonehush (959)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
i think it would have been better if you havent given them your number coz you dont plan on entertaining them any way :D good day :D
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
18 Nov 09
ya it goes with girls mostly .They will not ready to give their cell no to any strangers because may be it will harm for them
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
19 Nov 09
hi,edxcast!
thank yu for your response.
I think what you said makes sense.
and that 's why I advised my friend not to answer the man's call.
actually speaking,I am not sure if the man is definitely not a good guy,I just feel it is more safe to be cautious.
have a nice day!
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
18 Nov 09
I dont have any problem to give my cell no wheather I just met with that person only one time because when he will call me I can know more about him and If I will not like that person so simply I will ignore him.
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@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
Well yes, we can simply ignor the unknown numbers calling on our cell phone or answer it then pretend as if you are having a signal or technical problem on your cell if you learned that it was the person you don't want to talk to... Or drop the call then pretend that your cell was already lowbat or something He'll get tired eventually!
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
19 Nov 09
It's not really a good idea. Your friends circumstances in giving this guy her mobile number didnt sound too promising.
I guess though, when you want to maintain contact with someone you have met, an exchange of numbers is one way.
I personally prefer to use emails with people I dont know well, before I exchange phone numbers.
At least your friend had the sense not to answer.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,jennybianca!
thank you for your response!
e-mail is indeed a very good idea to reslove such a hot potato.I mean,giving a e-mail to strangers is much safe than giving them phone number.especially when one has several e-mail boxes and can choose one.in addition,it is urbane and won't embarrass others.
thank you for your advice!
have a nice day!
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
19 Nov 09
if i asked a lady her phone number , it is because i am interested at her and she provides it for me , even on our first meeting, logically, i would think that it is ok for me to call her but if she refuses then it is a signal for me to back off and stay as is, acquaintances. If your friend does not want to be bothered by a strager's call then she would not have given her personal number. she should have asked for his number instead and that way the guy would think "yeah!she asked for my number, instead!". she can just delete the number after a while.
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,tigergragon!
thank you for your response!
i think your advice is very good idea.and if the man had resisted asking for number,my friend could have supposed that he had some bad ideas.and if he had done it with delight,perhaps he really just wanted to make friends with her.
have a nice day!
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
20 Nov 09
It sounds as though things were moving a little too fast for Your Friend at this Party! Nobody introduced this Guy to Her,She didn't know who He was,Nobody She knew there apparently knew him,and Yet She felt obliged to give a complete Stranger Her Number,at which point He shows a lack of trust in Her giving him the correct Number and rings her immediately! Cellphones have made it easier for people to keep in contact with Family and Friends,but this shows when you are socialising the chances you take when You give your number to someone You are not ready to trust with it..She must have felt pressured to give him the Number if She wasn't prepared to have him call Her afterwards..You don't have to give someone your Number if you don't want to,as the thing with Mobile Numbers,like in this case,they can be verified on the spot.I've heard before When a Girl was asked for her Number that didn't want to give it,She might change a digit or two when giving the number! Maybe next time She could pretend her phone's battery was flat,and get the guy to write down HIS Number instead! That way,She'd be in control of the situation and would have the option of calling the Guy if SHE wanted..
@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
23 Nov 09
hi,ShepherSpy!
I totally agee with you.my friend is too kind and chose to do something against her own wish.you are right,she'd be in control of the situation,but she didn't ,and brought herself some trouble.i find it is the last thing she should do!
thank you for your response!
have a nice day!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Nov 09
It depends on the situation whether I will give my cell phone number to someone I meet for the first time or not. If it happens to be at a seminar with different professionals for the meeting, I will have to because we are demanded to leave our contact cell phone number...
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,williamjisir!
happy to see you again!
I think the case you mentioned is very different.at least you know who they are and can predict the topics of their calls.
thank you for your response!
have a nice day!
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
20 Nov 09
I have not been dating for many years and the last time I gave someone I barely knew my phone number, he ended up becoming my husband so I guess I was lucky there! In those days we didn’t have cell phones and looking back I was very trusting because I met my future partner in a bar, gave him my number, he called the next day and asked me out, I proceeded to give him my address and we went from there; fortunately for me he was not a serial killer! I would never advise my daughter to be so careless especially these days so to answer your question; no I would not freely give any of my personal information to a stranger. I was single and met a man I liked it would be a case of ‘don’t call me. I’ll call you’ and I would arrange to meet for the first time in a public place not my home! Ah...To be young and foolish...
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
wow...it is so amazing and romantic!It kind of looks like love at first sight.
I think very few people are as lucky as you.so I am not surprised that you would not recommend your daughter to do so.
thank you for your response!
have a nice day!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
19 Nov 09
In the past I have sometimes given my cell number to people I didn't know that well. I met one of my ex-boyfriends in a school yard. He wanted to find a certain classroom, he asked me for help, and we started chatting. When I left he asked for my phone number, I didn't know if I was supposed to give it to him or not, because I didn't really know him, but I was interested in getting to know him better, and I chose to give him my number. I don't regret that, because we became a couple and ended up spending 3 years together. But I am bit more careful today and I don't give my number to people I just met unless they are interested in some of my paintings or photomanipulations and want my number for that reason.
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,Porcospino!
you mean,for business.that makes sense.knowing people what they want makes us feel certain and safe.and your story is very romantic,you are so lucky.
thank you for your response.
have a nice day!
@corrycrystal (1775)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 09
It depends on the venue. If it is at my new working place or a new class I have just joined, I will give my cell phone number to someone whom I just met. However, before I got married, I ever did give my cell phone number to a band boy at one of the clubs. The group went to our table each time they have were having a break, and one of them asked for my phone number. I just gave him, but the next morning when he called me many times, I didn't pick up the phone. I just ignored it and I thought what was I thinking?? So, I guess he gave up after a few unanswered calls...
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
23 Nov 09
hi,corrycystal!
nice to meet you.
what you said makes sense.it is related to the spots we meet people.and we should divide them into working occasions and social occasionss.and we can be more open when it comes to the formal and be more cautious when it comes to the later.
thank you for your response!
have a nice day!
@sunlight2009 (196)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Hi. Although I dont make a habit of this, I would have no hesitation in giving my number to someone I met the first time - BUT ONLY if I liked them enough.
That is done on a very very rare occasion.
I think you should be VERY selective about who you give your number out to - there are lots of loonies in the world, and it could be a nightmare if any of them had your number :)
Happy myLotting!
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
20 Nov 09
hi,sunlight!
there are indeed lots of loonies in this world!of course loonies are not equal to bad men,but I don't think my friend can get along with them.
thank you for your response!
have a nice day!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
in case like that i am not that type to give a number away. but there are times that we give numbers specially when it is needed. i am a bassist in a band and we (members of the band) give contact numbers specially to people who wanted to hire us for future parties and celebration. the more people who got interested with our group the merrier.
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
18 Nov 09
hi,se7enthbird!
thank you for your response!
you mean you tend to give your number to people who perhaps will become clients?
it makes sense.
my friend just didn't know how to refuse that man properly,because he asked for her number very sunddenly and she didn't want to be rude.
but I think she won't give her number to others so easily.
have a nice day!
@mrssator2002 (281)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
I'm not the type of person who give my cellphone # that easy but it depends on the person even if it's first time you've met. I make sure to know what is the intention of asking my #. Yes, there are time you feel awkward in refusing someone but if you dont want to be disturb just try to be polite in refusing someone. Nobody can force you if you dont want to.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 09
Hi Cathy, In today world, we cannot trust strangers whom we have just met. They may be perverts out to torment you by calling you non-stop, sometimes at an inappropriate
time. Unless he is your friend's friend, or else don't give him your cell phone's number.
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@victory12 (348)
• Nigeria
18 Nov 09
Hello, i can not give my cell phone number to the person am knowing for the first time because i don't really know much about the person. Also i don't think the ideal is good because the person can decided to do anything he or she likes with the number.
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
19 Nov 09
hi,hunieby!
thank you for your response!
actually I feel the same as you.and I always ignore strange numbers calling me.
have a nice day!
@mcongy (47)
• China
18 Nov 09
hi,cathylee.i also encounter this kind of matter.if feeling the man has no bad thoughts,i can tell him my phone number.the following days they first send me greeeting messages .if i feel the guy is good,i will answer him .then he will can me.if i feel the guy is bad,i will ignore him ,no matter he sends me messages or calls me.
and i also ask others'numbers though we met for the first time.i do that cuz i am interested in them and want to make friends with them.and i dont have any mean thoughts.when i ask for the number,they always tell me.
i think you should show them your sincerity when you do that next time!
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@CathyLee2009 (429)
• China
18 Nov 09
hi,mcongy!
I think it's not easy to manage to get phone numbers of other people at the first time.because people tend to distrust others at the first contact.of course some people can do it.
sending messages is a acceptable way,i suppose.it's much better than calling others directly.and the other side has time to decide whether he or she should go further.
thank you for your response.
have a nice day!